What was your hair like for your wedding? Any suggestions for me? If I just kept it trimmed, it could be shoulder length by next October. I just feel like I look so drab in shoulder length hair.

BACKSTORY

We just had a baby 8 months ago. In July 2011 we both decided it was best if I quit my full time job to raise our child. A month later he started working a second job after his main job. I worked a part time job also. He told me he was stressed, over whelmed, confused and tired. He was feeling like sh*t because he did not finish college. I asked him how could I help with this and told him what can I do to help and he told me a few things that I had been doing that bothered him. I immediately changed them.

Two weeks ago I asked him to stop working on the weekends at his second job so I can start working another job during the weekends while he takes care of our baby. 

This past Saturday he had errands to do and hang out with his best friend He left the house at 10am. Around 5pm I sent him a text asking him what time he was getting home and he replied" I dont know and I dont want to go home". I was furious and told him "Well stay at your friends house as long as you like". He slept over his friends house that Saturday night.

Sunday morning I asked him to please come home, and he did with his best friend. I pulled him aside asked him whats going on and he tells me he wants a divorce, that he hasn't been happy for months, that he needs to find himself. He wants to go out and figure out why his life is a mess, and that he has met someone from his second job and he wants to pursue this relationship. That they just started dating a few days ago. O_O He also tells me that he doesn't find me attractive anymore and he doesn't love me as a women. He loves me as his bestfriend and as the mother of his child. 

He tells me that he understands that I can't work full time while raising our son so he wants to give me child support and alimony. He will also take our son for the weekends while I work. He wants to be involved in our son's life as much as possible and wants us to remain friends.

Sunday night he stops by the house after me calling him over a million times because our son fell and was bleeding  from his ear. I asked him why he didn't pick up my call and he said "I had the phone on silent. I'm sorry it won't happen again, I was with the girl I told you about". I asked if they had sex and he said yes. 

We have been together since I was 14 and him 18. I am 21 and he is 25. Maybe that has to do with it. But girls, I really am not lying when I say that he never hinted that he wanted a divorce. The only time he complained to me was the paragraph I wrote above. 

I don't know what is going on. I asked him if he wanted to work it out, try marriage counseling, anything and he does not want to at all. He just wants to move on with his life. I am trying to be strong for me and my son. I grew up in a single parent household. I was cooking, cleaning, and taking care of my little brothers and sisters from age 9-18 while my mom worked. I NEVER thought I was going to bring a child into this world to possibly go through what I did. My husband was lucky. He had both his parents growing up. He doesn't understand what I went through. 

I keep playing these past few months over and over and over and over and over. I wish I could say I saw this coming so I could have prepared. I thought we had a good relationship. I was happy. I thought he was also. He was never distant. We talked, we spent time together, we had sex.  I have been losing weight because I understand that when we met I was 130pds and now I am 185pds. (This is not due to pregnancy, I was heavier before pregnancy). I would constantly ask him if he wanted to go out on his days off and he would rather stay home and rest. He just threw all this at me in a second.

I'm trying not to hate him, wish death upon him, or curse his names to the Gods not only for me but for my son. I don't want to become a hateful person.

Do you guys have any advice.

TIA 

I am fairly large-busted (like 40D) and thick-waisted so I prefer to minimize overall bulk/tentiness (I usually wear a 14-16 or L/XL depending on the maker), but at the same time I generally hate belted coats because they never "feel" right, or the belt ends up riding up under my boobs. No bueno.

It needs to be suitable for daily wear to a professional work environment. Black and gray or bright colors are preferable over khaki/earth tones, to better match my overall wardrobe. Length anywhere between mid-hip and knees.

I could spend up to $200 for something I really want that will keep me happy for several years, but would prefer to spend closer to $150.

Can anybody help meeeeee?

Over that thread below.

This week has been really hard.  My friend had her baby.  I want a baby but timing isn't even close to right.  I always talk to my mom about the baby thing and our relationship stinks right now.  Understandably, my friend has less time for me now.  My counselor will earn his keep today.

Guess who's going to see a live version of Whose Line next week?  Complete with original cast? RYAN STILES, MAN.

My husband and I have been together about 7 1/2 years. In 2005 he joined the militray and started moving (we were dating about 2 yrs at this point). In December of 2006 we got married and I moved with him to NC (our family lives in KY). in May 2008 we had our first child, then my husband deployed for his first time by the time my son was 2 months old and he was gone for 7 months.

Ever since my husband has returned our marriage has been a constant rollercoaster including mental, emotional and minor physical abuse. We have tried marriage counselors (3 to be exact) and all has failed. I was being blamed for everything and he was not taking responsibility for any of it. While all of this was going on his drinking increased quite a bit which made things even worse. But he did not think there was a problem. I threatened to leave him several times hoping that he would realize that if he did not stop he would not be around his child.

Things eventually got a little better. I June of 2010 we had our second child. He got out of the military in January of this year. We moved back to KY and things were up and down again. The drinking wasnt so bad but the mental, and emotional abuse continued along with threats of hurting me and taking my children.

Again, things got good again for a while but for the past few weeks it feels like my husbands cycle is starting again. Now my son is 3 and a half and my daughter is 16 months. I am so drained that I do not even recognize myself in the mirror. I have lost almost all of my confidence and I have picked up 40 lbs in the past 3 years. I have no idea what happened to the once independent, confident, beautiful girl I use to love. Now I can't find happiness and I know my children see that reflected on my face.

I am 25 years old and I know I have so much left to do in my life and I want to be happy again. But I feel like I'm stuck. I lost my job about a month ago and now I have no money of my own and don't feel like I could make a decision to leave if I wanted too. I just want the pain to end and to wake up and be happy and to show my kids that life is joyous.

I just don't know what to do anymore....I need some advice please.......

But this is just the last straw. My direct supervisor is always making me feel... less superior or she continually reminds me of my low status (in general and at the company).

She isn't directly saying or doing anything. It just side comments she makes, or the way she approaches my ideas ("well, I'm not so sure about that idea" but when someone else higher up has that idea, it's freaking fantastic).

I'm really discouraged and I always feel like she wants me know I'm at the bottom of the totem pole.

I just want to tell her, "I get it. You think you're better than me. That's cool. But stop being so smug about it."

This has just been one of those days.

It was DH. He wasn't supposed to be home yet, sneaky devil. I told him if he snuck up on me like that again, he would have a dent the size of a can of shaving cream in his head.

I can't find boots that fit me right and I just want to whine about it. I just got the latest pair I ordered and I hate them. 

The UPS guy came to drop off my boots and, as he was turning to leave, he froze and looked at me funny. Then, "I thought I heard someone screaming, but it's just the kids downstairs." I was like, "Uh, yeah. I don't have anyone tied up in my apartment, thanks. Have a nice day!"

Chickens!!!

Where's my beer? (I'm ignoring DH's "holy f*ck, she's got a tumor!" freak out right now)

Imagine a situation. You saw a photo of your husband holding some woman on his lap. He claims "not guilty", because "it was a party and we were all drunk", and refuses to apologize or do anything to make it up to you. 

He finds dozens of ways to put the blame on you. 

Your actions?  

This is happening to me now, and I am terribly confused.

I cannot do the same and go around sitting on other people's laps just to show him how it feels, cause I just cannot do that.

I don't want to ruin a relationship that was working nicely for four years.

But I just can't pretend it never happened, and it really bothers me.  To go on with our relationship, I would need him to admit he made a mistake and to apologize for it, but he just won't do it. 

This woman is one of his collegues and it was some sort of a corporate gathering during a big festival. We usually come to this festival together, but this time I got sick the day before and could not join.  

What would you do?   

This woman was married to a pedo?

whoa.