Maybe it's a design issue.  I mean, I know it's not top quality merchandise, but some tailoring would be nice. 

Apparently the Olsen twins (yes, you read that right) are having a hard time meeting demands for this $39,000 alligator backpack. LOL at the poll with only one option (article below).

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/07/15/the-row-backpack_n_900040.html

Enjoy!

8 Things You Can't Do Once You Have a Baby

Here's a hint of what's to come: if you're pregnant, you better savor that chapter book you're reading, because it's the last one you'll ever read until Baby is in college!

What T-giving traditions do you have?

http://deals.woot.com/sellout

I mean there's no way I'm not carrying a baby in that ass, right?

I know that when I have fears, I dream about them.  Like, I didn't go to the dentist for too long in my early twenties, and I had nightmares about losing my teeth.

I know you aren't mind-readers, but do you have any thoughts on this topic?  We've talked about it and he says he doesn't actually think I'd ever leave him, so WTF?  I'm trying to decide whether something else is going on in his head here...

My DH and I are actually in a good place and have been together about 15 years (married 6).  We recently talked about how we've fallen into a trap of both of us avoiding certain housework tasks and communication is lacking a little - you know those pesky kids and jobs help take up all that time we used to have to connect more.  We both want to add to our communication tools and reconnect a little with a marriage counselor or someone but neither of us have ever been to counseling.  I assume counselors do this type of maintenace stuff and not just larger issues, right? 

Where do we start to find someone we would like to talk with and would give us good tools or advice on marriage maintenance?  Do I just use my insurance website and pick someone based on location/availability?  How did you and your DH find counselors and what did you look for in a counselor?

TIA

PS Might DD in a few days since I have friends on TN.

Do it>>>>>>>>>>

So I am just not sure how to handle this, I am a mother of two been married 5 yrs and thought that life was pretty good until this past weekend....

 I went to my class reunion and had so much fun, Dh couldnt come with me because he had to work but I did have to take the kids out of town with me like always, never get to go with out them ever! ( I do love being a mother but never get any free time to my self or anything!)

When I got home DH had done absoulutly nothing around the house all weekend! I am the one that cooks and cleans and takes care of the kids, he stays after work everynight to have a few beers with the guys then on fridays goes to the bar to cash he check and have more beers with the guys! I on the other hand cant even go to the store with out one or both my kids! He wont go to the park with us cause its not fun.....

Am I crazy for having a talk with him and seeing nothing change with in a week, or are my feelings just out of wack and should still work on it?

I have talked to him and not one thing has changed and I really dont think it will... We have one other issue too but I am not posting it ( no he isnt or has not cheated on me!) Should I just get out now or keep working at it?

My client was taken off the project on Monday, so now my team will have yet another change in direction/ramp-up time with the new client.  I will try to contain my excitement.

We're losing half of the on-site support team over the next few weeks (there are a total of 4 of us...going down to 2).  They are also being re-assigned because they couldn't cut it.  Training their replacements will also require some time and patience.  I'm already doing the work of two people right now...looks like it'll increase to three for the short-term future.

The only other competent onsite person is gone today and tomorrow so he can be best man in a wedding.  Pfffftt, who authorized this?  (I'm just kidding here.)  So now one of the to-be-replaced team members is going to run the logistics of this afternoon's teleconference by herself, and she just gave me a heads-up that she wouldn't be taking good notes as a result.  I mean, really?  Who does that?  Can you really not juggle advancing Powerpoint slides and taking notes at the same time?  I can't shoulder everything by myself FFS. 

I need a drink.  The pumpkin ale I had last night wasn't that great (New Holland Ichabod in case you're wondering).

Are people just unaware of probability, risks, and statistics?

I've got so many deep rooted issues right now I can't even blame him for wanting out.  Only thing is - it took this to open my eyes.

If he wouldn't have saved that money for us & IF I had access at the time - it wouldn't be there right now.  I never even gave him a chance to be a partner to me.  I shut him out about the money issues right from the get go.  He's done nothing but try to help me.  When I came into this marriage I had between $10,000 & $12,000 in debt.  He helped me get out of that.  I had these problems before we were married and my parents had to bail me out.  That is why he talked to my dad about it.  I'm glad he talked to him about it, he needed to, because I wasn't going to surrender that information to him. 

I can tell that alot of you have gone thru marriages & relationships where the guy has been a douche, and they've done this or that, but truthfully he hasn't.  There have been times that, yes, he's said things he shouldn't have but so have I.

I am in such serious need of counseling.  But at least I'm able to come to terms with what's going on with me.  My money issues - they're still there.  I know I can't go thru life like this.  Also, I was never a partner in this marriage and I know he tried to help me be.  I KNOW that.  I wasn't facing or surrendering all the truths before when I first posted.  I really wasn't.

Our housekeeping issues - he did do a bunch around the house, but a lot of times until he got mad that I wasn't pulling my part - I didn't.  It was shared, it wasn't all on me.  I could've made all the excuses in the world as to why this is like this or why that is like that, but truth of the matter is - I did this, I screwed up.  I would just get mad and think I was right he was wrong and saw everything from my point of view.  He'd given me so many chances to help me, but I just ignored it.

In the end - it just took this to finally open my eyes and deal with all my issues.

He finally got the details on the transfer 3 weeks before the wedding, which left us with little time to  plan.  We ended up living with his parents for 5 weeks after the wedding while we waited for his start date at his new job. (In ANOTHER STATE!!)   I was not thrilled about moving, but I was being supportive because it was a good career move for him, and the fact that I had just graduated from college and did not have a "real" job made it easier for me to move with him.   We moved to the new state the first week of August.  With such little time to plan, It was impossible for me to find a job here.  I am a teacher, and because we moved here so late in the summer, all teaching jobs I am qualified for were filled.  

To make matters worse, we are living in a hotel.  His company said that they understood that it was a 'sudden' move, and so they have provided us with this lovely (sarcasm) living situation.   They have paid for us to live here while we are trying to buy a house, but it has been awful.  We know NO ONE in this state.  I am alone, and sad 70% of the time.   I sit in this hotel all day long, and look at job postings and houses online.   

When he comes back to the hotel from work every day he usually has smart comments about how I do nothing all day long, or how I am lazy.  He constantly reminds me that I have very little money, and NO job, and therefore have very little say in what kind of house we try to buy and where we live.   I already feel so alone because I left my friends and family to move with him to another state, and he makes me feel worse by saying these things.  He doesn't understand how lonely it is to sit in a hotel all day and scan the internet for jobs that dont exist, and houses that we cant afford.  

He even criticizes me for not cooking much. For GODS sakes, we are living in a hotel room with a tiny kitchenette, with hardly no cooking utensils or pots and pans, and a dishwasher from 1970 that doesnt work!!!!    OF COURSE Im not cooking much!!!   

I am so alone and lonely.  I dont tell my best friends much about whats going on because I dont want them to worry or feel sorry for me.  I also dont want everyone knowing that we are already having troubles.  

I just feel like this is not how it is supposed to be!   I know newlywed life is not perfect, but the stress of living with his parents for 5 weeks, and now living in a hotel in another state away from everyone we know is just too much to handle.  I cry alot and I constantly want to give up and go home, but going back home isnt an option because he signed a contract with his company and if he breaks the contract he has to return the bonus they gave him to move here.  

WHAT DO I DO???    Im desperate for help. 

http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/58807252/ShowThread.aspx#58807252

The OP is nothing compared to the update.

Sounds like a real catch, doesn't he?

He's such a little mama's boy, it's kinda ridiculous.

This is Ru at a costume contest last weekend for the local Humane Society.

RIP

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But seriously, Babydubs was finally diagnosed with a soy allergy  & reflux last week. After 4 months, we've finally gotten him all straightened out, he poops normally and our spit-up issue is almost non-existent after one week.

Also, I'd like to punch our pedi in the face. She swore up and down that his issues were definitely NOT an allergy, said it was probably something intestinal, and sent us to the gastroenterologist. We're on the hunt for a new pedi.

I should totally be ashamed, right?

And we're going to have a party when I reach 50k, yes?

My throat is raw and I still have 2 classes to get through.  I want to just stop talking for the day, but that's not an option.  I want to go home and go to bed.

OK that is my whiny rant.