Am I wrong for this?

pinkbee38

DH insists on "joking" with me about my sexual past with others to include his family. He is always saying I slept with so and so when it's completely false. Only when I get worked up enough to call him all kinds of F bombs that he will let up and say he was "just kidding". This infuriates me greatly. Please tell me I am not being over sensitive or overreacting as he would put it.

cloudymeatballs

Eeew, why would this be funny exactly to him?  Is he trying to have his family look at you badly? I would NOT be cool with this.  You have tried talking with him about this I'm guessing, right?  What does he say when you get upset, other than he was just joking??? 

You sexual past is no one's business... 

arhayden1

This would infuriate me as well. Some things just aren't funny and if this kept going on that is ridiculious

EastCoastBride

What exactly is "funny" about this to him? 

And "just kidding" is a crap answer to the fact that he is hurting and upsetting you.  And then DOES IT AGAIN.

WTF? 

MLE2010

Your H is a loser a$$hole and needs to STFU.

How old are you two?

pinkbee38

Believe me too old for this mess.

MLE2010

Well he is acting like a child, why you are putting up with this is beyond me. It's weird, almost abusive and totally inappropriate. I wouldn't have sex with him and I'd sure as shit not go anywhere with him.

Is this the only thing he does that is upsetting? I doubt it.

pinkbee38

He does other stuff that pisses me off, but they pale in comparison to this childish nonsense and it is mostly trivial things. I will not be putting up with this too much longer if he doesn't get it.

Disneygeek77

MLE2010 said:

Well he is acting like a child, why you are putting up with this is beyond me. It's weird, almost abusive and totally inappropriate. I wouldn't have sex with him and I'd sure as shit not go anywhere with him. Is this the only thing he does that is upsetting? I doubt it.

Yeah there is something wrong here and he is trying to publically humiliate you . 

BeckyOff

"Pinkbee totally slept with that guy."

"Sure did.  I kind of miss having a man who actually knows what he's doing."

or

"Yep.  It was nice to not have to fake it with him."

or

"Yeah.  Wistful sigh.  Haven't had an orgasm since him."

or

"I still imagine it's him when I'm in bed with you."

PrincessVegan

Sounds like he needs a taste of his own medicine. Start talking about who he slept with?

EastCoastBride

BeckyOff said:

"Pinkbee totally slept with that guy."

"Sure did.  I kind of miss having a man who actually knows what he's doing."

or

"Yep.  It was nice to not have to fake it with him."

or

"Yeah.  Wistful sigh.  Haven't had an orgasm since him."

or

"I still imagine it's him when I'm in bed with you."

lol!! If he's going to be an ass, give it back and see how funny he finds it then. I'd LOVE to know his response if you said something like this.

chrisnjay05212010

BeckyOff said:

"Pinkbee totally slept with that guy."

"Sure did.  I kind of miss having a man who actually knows what he's doing."

or

"Yep.  It was nice to not have to fake it with him."

or

"Yeah.  Wistful sigh.  Haven't had an orgasm since him."

or

"I still imagine it's him when I'm in bed with you."

these are awesome! i would try one of these the next time it happens. oh yea and id also follow it up with a punch in the face.  Your past is no one else's business and he needs to STFU.

littlevioletdress

I think it's wrong for him to joke about your sexual past at ALL, especially in front of other people.  I don't think that's respectful at all.  I hope he stops.  That's super mean.

Rainzzzy

Your sexual history isn't even his business, so it certainly isn't his family's. He either gets his jollies embarrassing and annoying you, or is very insecure about his own sexual experience or maybe he resents that there have been men with you before him. Whatever the cause it is unacceptable and he needs to knock it off. You've mentioned this to him, and he keeps doing it so he doesn't seem to value your feelings very highly.

Leftie22

That's very weird and immature! I can't believe he's done it multiple times. He must be very jealous and insecure. I find it very hard to believe that he doesn't understand why that's inappropriate and why you're mad. Unless he's completely stupid, he knows what he's doing and it's not nice. I think the next time he does it, tell him "that's incredibly rude and not true." And leave. You shouldn't have to hang out with him while he talks trash about you to other people. Stay calm and leave, and you'll make him look like the immature idiot he is!

SapphireCounselor

I'd be pretty hurt/offended too, especially since he is making these remarks to other people, including family. That is just none of their business at all. How do they even respond to those comments? I'd feel super awkward and embarrassed for you if that were me.

The larger problem, though, is that he is demonstrating a complete lack of respect for you. You've asked him to stop (at least it sounds like you did) and he hasn't, nor has he acknowledged that this bothers you at all or that he feels bad for hurting you. That said, dropping "f-bombs" at him isn't going to help the situation. He is either going to stop because he cares about the fact that he is hurting you and doesn't want to do that (maybe he has yet to realize the full impact of what he is doing and just has a really crass and inappropriate sense of humor), or he'll continue and you'll have to decide how long you want to live with that kind of disrespect.

SapphireCounselor

chrisnjay05212010 said:

BeckyOff said:

"Pinkbee totally slept with that guy."

"Sure did.  I kind of miss having a man who actually knows what he's doing."

or

"Yep.  It was nice to not have to fake it with him."

or

"Yeah.  Wistful sigh.  Haven't had an orgasm since him."

or

"I still imagine it's him when I'm in bed with you."

these are awesome! i would try one of these the next time it happens. oh yea and id also follow it up with a punch in the face.  Your past is no one else's business and he needs to STFU.

I'm not sure actually saying any of these in real life would help the situation at all, but they are hilarious!

Peledreamsofrain

That's grossly inappropriate.  I wouldn't say a thing to him, get up, walk out, and take the car home.  I don't spend time with hateful people nor care how they get themselves home.