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Moms- has your child ever been the "biter" ...
instead of the "bitee"?
I feel so bad for Tanner...and when I see other moms post these pics my heart drops.
Anthony definitely got hurt by other kids a few times, but in the end, he was the aggressor. I blame that on being kept in the infant room for so long and being so much older than the other kids.
He bit a child on the face b/c the kid kept stealing his food...I watched the whole thing from the other side of the room where I could do nothing. It was torture.
He also scratched a little boy who had only been in daycare 1 week- all the way across his face.
As the mom of a child who behaved this way, I can say it's not that he was a bad boy, he was just either defending himself in the wrong way or acting out b/c he was bored.
I'm in no way sticking up for these children that bite or abuse other kids. I just wonder if other moms have been on this side of the fence. It really makes you feel horrible to know you are teaching your child all the right things and they still act out this way from time to time.
Since leaving daycare, he's been fine...and if they moved him into the toddler room for the day he'd be fine too...it was only when he was the only "older" one in the infant room that this took place.
I feel so bad for Tanner...and when I see other moms post these pics my heart drops.
Anthony definitely got hurt by other kids a few times, but in the end, he was the aggressor. I blame that on being kept in the infant room for so long and being so much older than the other kids.
He bit a child on the face b/c the kid kept stealing his food...I watched the whole thing from the other side of the room where I could do nothing. It was torture.
He also scratched a little boy who had only been in daycare 1 week- all the way across his face.
As the mom of a child who behaved this way, I can say it's not that he was a bad boy, he was just either defending himself in the wrong way or acting out b/c he was bored.
I'm in no way sticking up for these children that bite or abuse other kids. I just wonder if other moms have been on this side of the fence. It really makes you feel horrible to know you are teaching your child all the right things and they still act out this way from time to time.
Since leaving daycare, he's been fine...and if they moved him into the toddler room for the day he'd be fine too...it was only when he was the only "older" one in the infant room that this took place.
Re: Moms- has your child ever been the "biter" ...
No, but he pinched Ryan for no reason the other day!
I know what you mean though. I used to work at a daycare and parents would get so mad when their child would get biten by another child. Most of the time the biter is a good kid who doesn't know better!
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If it helps any moms, I was a biter and I turned out ok.
I feel bad for kids b/c before they can communicate frustration verbally, this is how it comes out, and it's not unnatural. I mean, Jillie has hit or bitten me out of frustration and so I know it could happen at daycare despite my handling it properly at home.
I don't blame the child or the parent for the times that Jillie was bitten b/c I know it's not as simple as that. But it was important to me that daycare take it very seriously. And like you said, sometimes moving rooms for kids is the best solution.
I'm not a mom, but I have worked in a day care, and I've seen just how common this behavior is. I don't think you should beat yourself up over it. A lot of kids do it, and the vast majority of them grow out of it. They're just too young to understand that they're hurting anyone.
JT was the biter once. Though it was after he was biten. He was biten a total of 6 times from May thru December. There was another child in his class who was bite 14 (no I am not kidding) times in a 8 month span of time. The same child was the culptrit (or shark as mightme said last night). He was kicked out of the center.
JT has biten Mattingly twice. From what I have read it is due to not being able to communicate. Still makes me feel horrible that my kid bit another.
And my gut reaction to it was that it was no big deal. Things like this will happen in daycare and it's to be expected when you send your child to daycare.
But I do think if it continuely happened then I may start to worry. But if it's once in a while, then no I don't. Kids will be kids and kids will fight and fight and vent their frustrations out.