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Vegetarians & Wedding RSVP
Hello! DH and I are invited to a wedding and I am unsure how to respond. There is no meal choice - there is just an RSVP for number of guests. I am a vegetarian and don't know the appropriate way to respond. Should we write something on the card to indicate I will need a veggie option or should I just assume that when we are there I can tell the wait staff I need a vegetarian option and they will be able to prepare one? The bride is one of DH's friends from college.
Thanks for the help!!
Re: Vegetarians & Wedding RSVP
Hello! I am a pescatarian and have been to a LOT of weddings where there's no meal option on the card. I have always just gone and eaten whatever I can from what's put in front of me, and sometimes if I know it's going to be red meat I will eat a little bit beforehand bc I know I'm not really gonna eat dinner. You could always ask the wait staff when you get there if there's a veg. option, but I don't think you should write something on the card. If I were the bride and got something like that, I would be really bugged, because then the onus is on her to try to figure it out, and she's already got a lot on her mind.
JMO!
I think most venues have a vegetarian option, especially when there is not a meal choice available. I have a friend planning a wedding and she was told that there will be vegetarian meals available for anyone who asks at the wedding.
I have a different view of this. I had vegans, celiacs, diabetics, etc. at my wedding, and I was glad when they wrote it on their rsvp. I just passed it along to our caterer and they made sure to keep everything safe. I also personally have a LOT of food allergies. I'm literally a walking science experiement. I think going to the event just hoping they can accomodate you is super risky, plus it definitely impedes on your enjoyment, since you're trying to track down someone who can help you, asking questions, etc. I'm a big fan of planning ahead. When I attend weddings I do contact the bride and typically then the caterer/restaurant/resort/venue before the event. Yes, it's an extra step and takes time, but people have things they have to deal with in life. Regardless of whether or not it's an allergy, it's who you are, and you're invited to the event, so I say, write it on the card, and then maybe try to get the bride's email to shoot her a line to see if she needs any additional info from you...or there's always facebook if you can find her (and let her know you'd be happy to work directly with the caterer to take this off her plate - pun intended) ; ) I know this is controversial since the bride has a lot going on, but I also think people have to accept these little quirks when planning an event that serves food. Part of the package, if you ask me.
WRITE IT IN ON THE REPLY CARD! If you do this, then the bride knows ahead of time that you need a special meal and can tell the caterer, which shouldn't be a big deal (especially since the veggie entree should be cheaper than the meat entree). If you don't tell her ahead of time you run the risk of there not being anything for you to eat and you either a) have to eat the sides which is not filling or b) wait an hour for them to prepare something for you. Always let them know ahead of time that you need something special.
When this happens to weddings I go to, I just write underneath our names vegetarian meal please.