Missing my dad

Mrs Villar

I usually feel comfortable in just crying or reflecting at home or with my husband about my dad. He died at the end of July 2008 from cancer. Next week we would have celebrated our birthdays together [his 65th and my 25th]. So maybe that's why I'm being overly sensitive. I just finished making breakfast for the hubby and I thought I was going to cry my eyes out before even finishing coffee. I didn't want to sit and talk about it out loud with him so I decided to just come on here, typing about it actually helping . I hope everyone is having a good weekend and if you are feeling the pain of losing someone you love, you are definitely not alone.

scarlettoctober

I'm so sorry for your loss.  I lost mine when I was fifteen, and while there are a ton of issues in my childhood, he was still my dad and I still miss him.  His seventeenth wedding anniversary with my adopted mom would have been yesterday, and it was a little painful. 

I just try to focus on the happier times and remember that he wouldn't want me to waste my time on regrets, because he's in a much better place and that someday, we'll be together again.

Gladallover

I feel you.  I lost my dad this past December.  It hits me in waves at the oddest moments.  We recently took a trip as a family (my mom and sister and our kids to Texas and visited all the places that my dad loved.  It was an incredibly happy trip, probably the happiest we've all been since he passed.  Maybe you could do something special to honor both your birthdays?  I'm sure he'd want you to celebrate!

atlcatlover

I lost my Mom very suddenly in July 2008, only 6 weeks after I got engaged.  Everyone says it gets easier over time, but I haven't experienced that yet.  I still miss her terribly and like pps, get hit with waves of crying at very odd times.  It is hard.  Sending you a hug

vjcjenn1

hugs

notquiteblushing

I'm sorry for your loss.

orangeblossom

I'm sorry you're having a blah day and sorry for your loss.  It's been a little under a year since my mom passed, and have moments every now and again.  You can't predict when they come, but just embrace them and don't try to shoo them away. 

It's almost like a magnet, even when you say "I'm not going to be sad this birthday or this holiday or only think about the good things" I think it's just natural.  Even when you do feel mostly happy on those memorable occassions there's still a part of you that's sad.

 

kellygraham17

So sorry for your loss!  I have not had to experience the pain of losing a parent, but my husband did when we were 15 (we were friends back then).  I know he goes through times when all he wants is to be able to pick up the phone and tell his dad that he figured out how to change the brakes on my car without any help or ask him how to fix the lawn mower when it breaks.    We got married July 10, 2009.  We were supposed to get married on the 11th but because of some mixups, we had to move it up a day to the 10th, which would've been his dad's birthday.  I know that made it even harder to not have his dad there on our big day, but he said his dad would want his family to have a reason to celebrate instead of mourn on that day.

Mrs Villar

Thank you all for the support. It all really helped. Hugs for those who shared your stories as well.

ki10

I lost my dad to cancer last year. Sorry to hear that you're grieving so hard right now. It comes and goes, huh? Hugs from a stranger.

Hollita99

I am in the same boat.  So sorry for your loss.  I lost my father suddenly to a heart attack 4 years ago.  I miss him terribly every single day!  It's hard for me to talk about with my boyfriend (he's never experienced a loss of met my dad).  My mother is actually getting married tomorrow to someone she met in a widow's support group.  While happy for her, I have been filled with anxiety and sadness ( a pit in my stomach) for past several days. I can't express my grieving with anyone and suppossed to be happy. I have to go to reheasal in a few hours and can hardly breathe right now having to face new adult step siblings for first time and see my brother who has cut me off. My brother and I are now estranged because he thinks I am too sensitive!  I was daddy's girl.  Please know you are not alone in missing your dad!  It is of comfort to get on this board and see others going through same thing.  You realize you are not alone.  Peace and love to you!