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Just because I married him
...doesn't mean he doesn't drive me crazy sometimes. I ran out yesterday afternoon to run a couple of errands and I came back home to find DD sitting at the dining room table with freshly mangled bangs like these:
DD had complained that she needed a trim and I told her that I needed to buy a new pair of scissors before we trimmed them. He heard that conversation and yet decided to do it while I was gone anyway. He knows that I am very particular about her hair and this is the same man who is a major control freak about our son's hair and would flip the f out on me if I cut it without his permission.
To top it off, since he started his new job I have become responsible for all drop offs and pick ups for both of the kids. It sucks but it is what it is. The deal we made though was that he was going to make DD's lunch and help as much as he could to get them ready before he has to leave in the morning. This morning he gets up and futzes with his hair, prissily prims and gets dressed and then leaves the house and leaves me to get both kids dressed, fed, lunches made, etc. He did absolutely nada to help.
He also neglected to mention that he left the car that he drove all of last week with absolutely no gas in the tank and didn't bother to move DS's stroller from the car he took in his haste to get out the door.
I get that his new career is going to be the breadwinner for our family very soon and that it is important that he makes a good impression, but I seriously feel like he's been putting more effort into picking out his tie/shirt combinations lately than he has into trying to help me with the kids. I don't want to start a big fight over this but I'm pretty angry.
Re: Just because I married him
Sometimes I feel like my H can be pretty inconsiderate too. Nothing makes my blood boil more than that! But then he will totally redeem himself and realize his selfish ways and somehow make up for his behavior. So hopefully your H will come around and make it up to you. And ASAP!
That sucks Kendra. Nothing sucks more than feeling like a single parent when you are not a single parent!!
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This is along the lines of what I was thinking, although I don't know your DH at all, I can only speculate. I sort of get like that when I have something really important/stressful coming up.
Just remind him about his family obligations, hopefully it won't turn into a fight.
I can relate to the hair thing. A while back, H took DS to someone different than I normally use and he wound up looking like the guy from Kingpen. I couldn't even bear to look at the mess that was made of his hair until I got fixed. H then let the same lady botch his hair, and I felt like he deserved it. I was so upset.
I'm sure it's even more devastating when it's your sweet little girl, who can't just go get all of her hair cut shorter. Hope it grows in quickly.
As for the rest, I'm so sorry. I hope PPs are onto something with their suggestion that maybe he is just so full of anticipation that he's forgetting to tend to his responsibilities. Hopefully, he'll get back on track as soon as you find out the big news. You've been dealing with a lot of stress lately with the lack of power, being sick, etc. and it's got to be tough having all the parental duties on your shoulders on top of it all.
Well, he called to check in and I let him know I was upset with him. I'm thinking he's going to avoid calling me back the rest of the day. This is going to go one of two ways. Either he's going to come home with a very apologetic tone and acknowledge it all or he's going to come home and deflect it all by trying to turn it back around on me. If the tries the former he'll be in good shape and my anger will be quickly diffused. If he tries the latter- god help him!
Thanks ladies. Sorry I've been venting so much lately. I'm sure you can tell that we've been pretty stressed out in our house lately!
I know the hair thing isn't a big deal at the end of the day, but I had just gotten home from shopping for an outfit for Flag Day and I was mentally picking out DD's outfit and imaging the cute pictures we'd take and then I came home and saw her hair. It's bad enough that he did something like that behind my back, but then he did a really crappy job at it too. And he was initially all "Well, she wouldn't hold her head down." That's the thing that boils my blood the most. I hate excuses and deflection.
Can you pull her bangs back into a little barette or something like that?
They're reall really short. We were able to get them to lay back by putting a headband literally right at the front of her head, but that looked kind of goofy too. And when we took the headband out, her little bangs stood straight up.
I'm sorry, Kendra. You guys are all under such stress, I'm sure it's easy to get irritated with each other, although everything you said would definitely make me upset too!
I hope he comes home with the apologetic tone.
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He called, apologized, admitted that he's been distracted and will work on it. So we're cool now. God, I am such a pushover!
He wins points though because he said that even though the job stuff has had him stressed out he's really sorry and it's no excuse because the kids and I are more important than anything in the world. I really do love him.
Aww....sounds like a keeper