"Empty"

Aidens__mommy

I told H today that I felt like we have an empty relationship. He said he feels the same way. I don't know why, but this makes me feel better. At least I know it isn't just me that feels this way. I'm not sure what is going to happen next but I felt I just needed to share that.

sara76

That really sucks Liz, I'm sorry.  I haven't said much while you've been going through this because I don't really know what to say, but I do think of you often.  I look forward to the day when you come on here and say you are away from this relationship and feeling good. 

ChangeOfPace

On the one hand, I could see that hearing that might hurt.  On the other hand, knowing that you are emotionally through with the relationship, it would probably make it more difficult for you to move on when you're ready if he was trying to emotionally guilt you by telling you how much he still loved you.

 I am so sorry that it has come to this, Liz.  You know we are all here to support you and want to see you happy again.  

Gator_Bride08

Sending major hugs your way. I always think about you and this issue when you post things on FB... I hope everything works out soon.

Aidens__mommy

Thanks ladies! I'm not even sure how I feel right now. I feel kind of relived that I wont be the "bad guy" since he feels the same way. I did see the counselor again today and she mentioned that even though I want out of the relationship that my feeling will probably still get hurt. I haven't heard back from H since that comment so I'm not sure what to expect later. But I almost feel as if we are on the same page for once. It still sucks but I feel like it is a little bit of progress in the situation.

alzi

I know it is weird, but I almost feel like this is progress for you guys - you shared and agreed on feelings...that is a step in A direction, right? I sucks so much that you are going through this, but I am SO happy you are taking care of you.

And don't EVER think you are the bad guy. Ever. 

nicoleg1982

alzigator:

I know it is weird, but I almost feel like this is progress for you guys - you shared and agreed on feelings...that is a step in A direction, right? I sucks so much that you are going through this, but I am SO happy you are taking care of you.

And don't EVER think you are the bad guy. Ever. 

 

Ditto, ditto and ditto.  It takes two people to make any relationship work.  So, unless you are out banging dudes, snorting your weight in drugs and gambling away every dime you have, you are NOT the bad guy here. 

ChangeOfPace

alzigator:

I know it is weird, but I almost feel like this is progress for you guys - you shared and agreed on feelings...that is a step in A direction, right? I sucks so much that you are going through this, but I am SO happy you are taking care of you.

I agree with this and I also think that this might make it easier to keep things civil when you guys move on.  It's so much easier to find common ground and get along for the sake of your child when the split is mutual. 

kelcat

I'm so sorry Liz.  I bet it made you feel better because he at least is on the same page as you about that.  I hope things improve one way or another.  Good luck!

cliffswife_721

I've been thinking of you Liz & so sorry :-(

tashaandsage

I can see where it would be a relief to know you are not the only one feeling how you are. I'm glad you will be able to began moving forward. Stay strong, we're here for you.