Not sure how I'm going to get through this year

Kari78

The stress of my brother being gone & not knowing where he is is killing me.  Every news story of a suicide bomber or an attack makes me obsess to the point I'm not able to focus and I just cry. I may need to get some anti-anxiety meds. Ugh ugh ugh....

ATSBRIDE

Hugs..it may not be a bad idea to get some help through this!

laurenpetro

if you do end up needing them, don't feel bad about it.  i can't imagine how stressful that must be.

Bklynnj0118

I am so sorry.  Hugs and prayers!

wed2506

I am so sorry, I can only imagine what you must be going through.  Hugs

semdkm

I can't relate, nor can I imagine, but I do hope this year passes very quickly, and your brother returns safe and sound. 

Kari78

Thanks ladies.  I just keep hoping the phone will ring and he'll check in.  He called on Monday after he reached his destination (I think it took a week to get there) and said that he would be calling my mother on Tuesday. So far nothing. I'm just going to try to relax and make an doctor's appointment for next week.  My head is pounding.

bosha711

((hugs)) to you & prayers for your brother.

WavesSerenity

Hi, I am a military wife, have been for 10 years, been through many deployments.I know its hard. If you know where he is at least you can check it out online, google earth it and get some peace. the advice I can give you is that when my guy went away the first time, it was for a year and I was going nuts until I talked to him, did some research on the place he was and found out al the stuff that was going on there wasn't as bad as either the news or my own mind made it out to be. Have faith that he is ok and he is probably busy, he is there to work and they make them work. my friends husband only called her once in the first 2 weeks he was deployed and they only spoke for 15 minutes..it gets easier. it really does. good luck. 

Kari78

WavesSerenity:

Hi, I am a military wife, have been for 10 years, been through many deployments.I know its hard. If you know where he is at least you can check it out online, google earth it and get some peace. the advice I can give you is that when my guy went away the first time, it was for a year and I was going nuts until I talked to him, did some research on the place he was and found out al the stuff that was going on there wasn't as bad as either the news or my own mind made it out to be. Have faith that he is ok and he is probably busy, he is there to work and they make them work. my friends husband only called her once in the first 2 weeks he was deployed and they only spoke for 15 minutes..it gets easier. it really does. good luck. 

Thank you - it is always nice to hear from others who have been through it.  The first 2 times he was in Iraq I was always checking up on his exact location and comparing news stories to make sure it was nowhere near his location.  Unfortunately this time we don't have any info as to where he is as his job function and rank changed.  I can assume the country he is in just based on the languages he's been studying and the route he took to get there, but other than that I have nothing more detailed. I know we are not the only ones going through this, I can't imagine how hard it would be if it were my husband and father of my children.  I just keep telling myself he is a trained professional.  Hope you have a great weekend.

MidnightMare

STOP READING THE NEWS!!!! This was the best advise anyone could give me. When there is an incident, they go through black outs so no one can contact the family's before they are officially notified. Seeing news that it was in his area will make you obsess. If you don't know, its easier to write it off. I don't know what his job is, but their schedules change often, so you end up searching for news on something that didn't happen when he doesn't call. I stay away from anything and everything related to anything more then very local news... The way I see it, worrying wont help anything, so I am best off living my life and knowing he will call when he can, and not obsessing if he cant.