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great "letter to c-section moms" but all should read.
this is great and very true not to just c-sections but everything motherhood in which the mommy wars go back and forth trying to best the others.
http://thestir.cafemom.com/baby/131563/a_love_letter_to_csection
Re: great "letter to c-section moms" but all should read.
Oh, I definitely feel the judgement and then when people find out I was induced first with Jameson, the side-eyes really start! People do a little "research," watch The Business of Being Born and think they're experts on all things birthing.
I shouldn't have to go into my family history and the fact that our pelvises are just not made to birth babies. I shouldn't have to talk about the babies who have died due to being in distress when they're born. I shouldn't have to discuss the multiple c-sections that have been had by my family members. Or the fact that *I* was in distress when I was born, but fortunately survived, when I was born.
People should take my word that I also did my research and made a decision that was best for myself and my babies, but instead they judge or insist that I did not try everything. Believe me, I did not have a c/s because it was easy or convenient or because my doctor is lazy.
Thanks, E, for posting that. :-)
Every single thing that Shannon said.
Married the love of my life 6/3/06
Became a family of three 8/25/09
Oh my, NEbride. I can't imagine that kind of response from my mother. I am so sorry.
And I have to ditto shannon. I swear we are sisters at heart. If some nurse hadn't realized they lost my heart beat because it was amateur night at the military training hospital I was born at and every doc and their mom thought they knew what was right I would be dead because they would have had my mom keep on pushing.
I saw this on facebook this morning and am so glad I read it. The reason that author had an emergency c-section is because she suffered from HELLP, which is the same thing I had. I clicked on her links and read her birth story, explanation of HELLP, etc. and I was literally going, "yes, yes..." and nodding my head. It's crazy how women (and doctors!) seem to know so little about it. Her birth story was seriously something I needed to read - when I try to explain my experience to others I often get the "wow, okay.." response.. almost as if they think I'm being dramatic about it. It was refreshing to read about someone going through the exact same thing I did (the hallucinations, not being able to see, general out of it feeling), and the way she felt AFTER she gave birth, too. There is nothing worse than wanting to be able to connect with your baby and physically/mentally just not being there. Awful.
Anyway. Not to make it all about me, but I just wanted to say I'm glad I read the article. I needed it.
I wouldnt say I'm sensitive about it - it had to happen, plain and simple.
No, I think it's just a lot of judginess from other moms - many of who did it naturally and wear it like a badge of honor. But if we want to get into the semantics of it, being cut open and having babies ripped from your body (while awake) is pretty hard core.
It doesnt bother me if people assume I did it for convenience, etc. Fact of the matter is, I didnt. I could care less what they assume.
I hate the judginess from the other mom's but C's cord was wrapped 4 times. He may not have survived a vaginal birth. Did I want a c-section? No. If it meant my baby boy would be okay. Yes. My mom had a similar reaction to my c-section. Her reaction to the circumcision even worse. :-/ But that is another post.
What I really would have liked is not to have all of the medical personnel over me telling me how rare it was to have the cord wrapped 4 times...I was awake and heard the whole conversation about how that caused my killer contractions and his decels. That scared the snot out of me.
He is here and perfect. That is all I care about.