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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Anyone need to vent?
I want my body back. After miscarriage, pregnancy, c-section and now laparoscopic surgery I am just sick of it all. I am a positive person and I know I will be back to my old self soon, but right now my throat hurts from the breathing tube and I have pockets of air inside that are making my shoulders and ribs hurt. Wah!!!!
Re: Anyone need to vent?
I'm sorry - I hope you feel better soon!
My vent is that I hate that MH is so against having another child until we buy a house. I like where we are (renting) and think we could fit fine here for another few years if need be. I obviously want to respect his feelings and want to make sure we buy the right home, but I wish he shared my "baby-trumps-mortgage" feeling.
We can always buy a house.. a small age difference between kids only lasts so long.
Hang in there...the best thing to do is to move around to work the air out. I know its the last thing you want to do..but move around. Have matt lightly massage you to help.
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I had a rough day. Took the cat to the oncologist for an opinion. Plus M and S were a handful. And now I need to work a couple hours before bed to make up for the time I missed going to the vet.
MH had a rough day too. And apparently his bad day trumps mine and he is refusing to talk to me about the cat. Ugh.
Oh Liz, I am so sorry! HUGS to you! You have been through so much- please take care of yourself and I know you do, but make extra sure. have you seen a counselor to process everything you have been through? It may help you put things to rest.
But my vent is my husband works his ass off, the kids and I have barely seen him in the last 1.5 months- but we deal with it cause it is busy season, he provides for us, and it is important to him, but one if his staffs gets special treatment cause he is LDS and has a small family and commitments to his church. My husband has a small family and so does the other partner on this project- they don't get special treatment and get to leave early and miss important info and deadlines. If they did, they would be let go- UGH! I am annoyed- and it has nothing to do with his religion, but that his personal time is valued more then others- that is just wrong- errrr.....
But back to you, feel better, take some gas medicine!
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Sorry, Liz.
I am feeling majorly anxious. That is my vent. And I am afraid I am going to feel that way from here on out, for the rest of my life.
Me too (replace Alcatraz with House though!)
My vent is ridiculous but still a vent so here it is. It's work related. My boss is an @$$. I've been asking for a bookcase/shelf for my new office for 2 years. Right now all my stuff that should be more organized is stacked on milk crates. It looks ghetto and has destroyed the wall. My coworker was able to order a shelf but when I asked for one I was told "no". And then she says "what you have in your office may not look nice but it's functional so it will have to do for now". I was then "forbidden" to ask her boss (the VP) for a shelf (she knows I have gone over her head for things in the past). And she said she would not be asking the VP for approval on it. (the decision is not up to her, all supplies must be approved by the VP.) However she won't ask and I am "forbidden" to ask. It's so dysfunctional and ridiculous. $5 says the higher ups have some issue with her and she's scared to ask for a pot to piss in let alone a shelf. Ahhh the lovely immature world of non-profit. If it was not for the fringe benefits, a flexible schedule and 2 young children to worry about I'd have been out of there years ago!
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I'm right there with you Liz, minus the laparoscopic surgery so soon after birth. I am going to breastfeed for a year willingly, but my right boob gets so sore sometimes that I know it'll be ok when it's time to wean her. Also because I don't think I'm going to get back to my regular weight until I wean this time. I just keep pushing the feelings aside so that I don't get distracted from soaking up all the cute baby-ness that isn't going to last long.
My other vent is that I hate how DH has so many damn nike socks that are all just a little different so that I need to make 4-5 piles to sort them. Takes forever!
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Thanks ladies! I feel better now.
The gas thing really sucks, definitely worse than with the C!
Sending you another hug. I just feel awful for you. As someone who shares my positive experience on Mirena all the time on here-- I feel almost responsible.
I have no vents, but I know how you feel about wanting your body back! I've been through two c-sections and gall bladder surgery in the last few years. But I have to admit that at this point for me, it's more about choice than circumstance. I haven't done much to reclaim my body, but I'm starting to get sick and tired of being sick and tired.
If you're anything in real life like you are on here (which I'm sure you are), you will be back to yourself in no time! You have positive energy, and that goes a long way in life.
my vents are the same as they were a month ago..just about dave being unemployed. it sucks, big time. praying it's all over soon so we can get back to normal life!!
feel better, liz!! you have been through a lot the past few years and deserve a break!!
Don't feel responsible!! If anyone is responsible it is the doctor who inserted the darn thing. I hope no one on here gets scared by my experience. Which apparently is super rare.
hope you feel better soon!
Here's my vent. If one more person tells me to relax and just enjoy this "time off" with my kids I am going to take a f*n hostage! Yeah, it would be nice to enjoy it but the fact that I am unemployed is stressful and I won't relax until I find something!!
Oh man I'm sorry you ended up in surgery! Ugh! Hopefully this will be the end to you feeling like this & can get back to the old you soon!!!
My vent is that I am ready for my husband to come home NOW! I need a break like you wouldn't believe!
(((hugs))) Vent away! Seriously!
My vent: DH is on the job market and the stress is about to put me over the edge. He has a few interviews set up, and I know that in this market I should be thankful, especially since he doesn't graduate (he loses his funding once he graduates) until June-July. I'm freaking out about not knowing where we'll be living, what school Julia will be starting in the fall, whether she'll be in full day or half day K and whether I'll find a place for Emma to start school. I want answers already!
ugh liz, i'm sorry.
as for venting, i'd just like to thank my dear husband for not doing anything except "work" tonight. i worked by making dinner, putting the kids to bed, decorating, and i had to bake for a cake that he's supposed to make with grace, and then i had to wash ALL THE GODDAMNED DISHES IN THE HOUSE because we've apparently blown off the "1 person cooks/other person cleans" courtesy we've had going since we moved in together. because, you know, he had to surf Ain't It Cool News while i did all this sh!t.
vent away! hope you feel better soon!
i'm sick with a really bad cold. i feel like a need to sleep all day long and my husband is home today, but will he take care of the kids while I sleep? nope. right now he's upstairs snoring away while i'm down with the kids since 6am. i'll have to get Landon ready for school. be here with Owen during his (last!!) E.I. appointment and then pick up Landon from school, make lunch for the kids, then take Eliana to her 9 month check up and then make dinner. and i'll have to ask Pete to do anything. it's like he's completely unable to do anything without being told how or when. kid is crying, sitting on the floor right next to him while he's on the computer completely oblivious and i'll actually have to say "Pete - Ellie is crying, can you pick her up??!!"
WTF man? he had a root canal and acted like he had major surgery. he gets a cold and has to blow his nose, and asks like he's dying from the plague. but i give birth, have the stomach flu, major cold/flu and i'm expected to just be fine and ASK if I need help? is it so hard to use your common sense? ughhhhhh drives me INSANE
i know he works very hard - 60/70 hrs a week hard, and wants to rest on his days off but i never have a day off, i don't ever pee with the door closed, shower without the door being banged on, eat without getting up 6 times, or have full night's sleep (pete could sleep through a marching band playing next to his ear) and i'm sick, i just want to rest up a little.
why must i tell him how to care of his kids? why can't he take initiative at home like he does at work? "hey, my wife is sick, maybe i should get the kids dressed and make them breakfast." instead of waiting for me to beg him for help. he doesn't even get the kids dressed on his own. says he doesn't know which clothes belong to which kids. THEY ALL HAVE THEIR OWN DRESSERS. seriously dude. if the shirt says 2t it's for your 2 year old, the pink stuff is Ellie's and Landon can pick his own clothing. NOT THAT HARD.
he's a great guy, loves me and his kids and is a great provider for us, but i feel like he expects me to be like his mom who did/does everything without a peep - and now she has anxiety attacks for it and gets overwhelmed by the simplest things.
ok sorry. vent over. i just want to go back to sleep. and maybe wake up in a few hours to kids who have had their needs attended to without me having to tell him what to do.
Feel better soon! You will... hang in there.
Mine is that after dragging me to court during our divorce to prove that deserved to be the parent of primary residence -- and losing -- my ex has been dropping our daughter off at his parents' house practically every weekend he has her so he can go out carousing. And then he throws BS at me about my attitude contributing to her bratty four-year-old behavior. Um, no. First of all, she's four. Second, I'm consistent with her, and that means I don't dump her off on my family during my time with her so she can jump on their beds, eat crap, and get spoiled every weekend. Perhaps he needs to have a talk with his family about THEIR behavior, and maybe spend a little one-on-one time with his kid instead of pawning her off on other people and then blaming me for her frustrated outbursts.
Vent over.
feel better Liz!
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Had such a great day at home with my girl. She was sick over the weekend so I kept her home an extra day. I shampooed her rug, rearranged her furniture, made brownies from scratch and a copycat recipe of red lobster biscuits. We also watched The Artist together (parents' friend is a SAG member). Made me wish every day could be like that. Came into work with emails and mail piled up; I almost wanted to cry. Wish it were possible for me to be a SAHM.
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