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TTC Talk with DH
Last night was the first time I've seen DH since Sunday. I had one burning topic on my mind, TTC. I told him I watched Grey's Anatomy where Callie got pregnant and in a car accident and it got me thinking about TTC, so much so as to cause me to cry myself to sleep.
First, I got worried that if I stay at the school I am working at and get pregnant and in a car accident the baby and I could possibly die (I work an hour away from where we are planning on moving to). Second, I thought I could get a job where we are moving next school year, but then I was sad because it has taken me SO LONG to find a job I LOVE and where I am appreciated and really don't think I am going to want to leave after only one school year. Then it went back to the first and was a horrible cycle.
While eating out last night I told him all about my concerns. He was understanding and told me it's just a show (about Grey's Anatomy) and everything will be fine. I asked him if he thought we could still start TTC this October and he told me he thought we should wait at least til the end of this school year. He said I just started my new teaching job after being out of the teaching field for nearly two years and he really wants me to feel comfortable teaching before we start TTC. He doesn't want me to be teaching during my first year back and have to deal with morning sickness etc.
In addition, we would love for me to be a stay at home mom, but DH can't find a full-time job. If we had a baby he would have be stay at home dad while I taught. He thinks that may mess with me. I'm worried he'll never get hired for a full time job, he's been looking for a year and had a lot of interviews, but no one hires him. It could be 5 years until he gets hired full time. Then he'll be 35 and I'll be 32. I'm not sure I want to wait 5 years. I know it may not take that long for him to get a full time job, but it's not looking like it will be anytime soon.
So for now TTC will have to wait until the end of the 2012-2013 school year and even then we'll have to discuss it again.
Thanks for letting me vent!
Re: TTC Talk with DH
I completly understand your concerns with TTC. My DH and I have the same concerns when it comes to jobs and TTC. I am 32 and he is 35 and we don't want to put it off any longer but it's hard to think about having a baby and being pregnant my first year of teaching at a new school. However, I haven't been offered a job yet and I only have one interview left so it's not very promising. With that said, we are TTC, but with my fertility problems it may not happen anytime soon. Also another issue is that with him or I not having a teaching job we have a lack of a solid income, so that's hard too. But I'm still going to push forward with getting my PCOS under control, my progesteron level up to where it should be, and my LH lower. Maybe most people in my situation would put it off until one of us gets a teaching job, but with our ages and my issues we are not willing to wait. So that's my TTC story.
TTC is a very difficult choice and both of you have to be 110% ready. Lots of luck to you!
Married the love of my life on 1-21-12. Our princess arrived on 5-28-13.
Married the love of my life on 1-21-12. Our princess arrived on 5-28-13.