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Still have Date Nights?

Getting a date night to happen has started to feel like pulling teeth...anyone else having this challenge? And, please reply to my little informal poll:

How often do you and your spouse have a date night? Weekly, twice monthly, once a month or Oh, I remember date nights?

Re: Still have Date Nights?

  • Well DH and I don't have any babies other than our furbabies so it is pretty easy for us. I would say we go out to eat twice a week, once mid week and once on the weekend alone.

    Our date nights only consist of going to dinner though... my DH hates the movies. :-(


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  • I despise the term "date night."  My husband and I hang out with each other and do stuff like normal people.  We certainly don't slap a name on it or count how often it happens.  I find the whole concept super odd.

     

    EDIT: We've been together for over ten years (from 20s thru 30s) so it's not like we're still in that "honeymoon" period, either.  We just like hanging out together.

  • Weekly. It started out by looking for free fun. Concerts in the park, farmers market, long walks at sun set... I thought these would be "once in a blue moon", but they caught on quick. GL!

  • Me and my hubby both hate Mondays(who likes them?) so a little while back I started Movie Nights on Monday. It gives us something to look forward to. We've missed it a few times but we're trying. :) Plus, later on in the week(we usually go shopping once a week, usually Thurs or Fri...occasionally Sat) we go out to eat. One week its his turn to pick, the next it's mine(I'm picking this week!) Usually we try to make that the only time we eat out during the week, though that doesn't always happen, so it's sometimes moderately expensive. He picked Longhorn last week and it helped that I had a coupon! :) Maybe you could try doing something similar to the things we do? :) //
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  • Ok, something's wrong with my last post...that's never happened before...how do I fix that???
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  • We have them..always look forward to them. We have them once a month. Though this month we were lucky enough to get 2 because his mom has been here since beginning of august and she offers to babysit. We both wish to have them more but our families don't live that close and I don't really know anyone well enough to ask to babysit our kids.

    Can I ask why it's like pulling teeth? Maybe we can give you advice on that. 

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  • Maybe it's a bit routine, but we usually have Sushi Fridays. :)  Either we order in from our favorite sushi place, watch a movie and cuddle on the couch, or we go out for dinner.  But yeah, Fridays are usually our date night unless one of us has a special function, such as a friend's birthday party or something like that.

     I sometimes complain that it's too predictable, and every now and then we do something really spontaneous and fun. Like a few weeks ago, my DH took me to a baseball game, and in another 2 weeks we're going to see an awesome concert (Neil Young and the Black Keys...cannot fregging wait!!!!!). 

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  • We normally go out, by ourselves, once a week. Normally on the weekend. We don't have any children, so that makes it a lot easier. We go out to dinner and then go miniature golfing, to the drive-in movie theater, for a walk at the state park, to the zoo, art museum, etc.. there are a lot of inexpensive things to do too!
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  • Thanks for replying!
  • Thanks for the comment, Joy!
  • Thanks for sharing! :)
  • LUV the Monday movie night idea - thanks for your reply!

     

  • Sorry all! Getting the hang of these forums, so apologize for all the replies. But thanks to all for the fun ideas and replies! :-)
  • imageSnadyj:
    Thanks for the comment, Joy!

     

    Haha - I wasn't sure if you'd like my comment.  What I'm actually trying to say is that maybe calling it "Date Night" is a turn off for him.  Why not just "Hey, let's go out to eat tonight!"  Make it sound more spontaneous and fun and less planned and necessary.  Outside of that, hanging out on the couch and eating take out counts as hanging out together.  Don't box yourself into what worked while dating.  You now live together - what counts needs to be adapted.

     

    Yeah, maybe I shoud've said that in my first post :-)

  • BTW, it's a little like pulling teeth b/c my hubby says there are too many options, but then always comes up with the same old, same old, so they just don't happen all that often anymore. We love hanging out with each other as well, but did learn early on (via premarital counseling) that having a regular date night where we just focus on spending quality time together, and then take turns planning the dates, is really great for us.
  • I've been with DH a little over 11 years now.  Up until we had a baby, we probably went on a traditional "date night" once a month or so.  But like other PPs, we just hang out at home a lot together too.  Since the baby, we've gone out to dinner alone 2 or 3 times and away overnight alone once.  But we do still try to do dinners alone and spend time together when DS is sleeping.

    If you just want new ideas, my husband's favorite "date night" was when we had no power and he found a random kids board game in a closet and we turned it into a game of Strip Candy Land or whatever the heck it was by candlelight.  Free and fun!

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  • imageSnadyj:

    LUV the Monday movie night idea - thanks for your reply!

     

    You're welcome! Oh! And we usually take turns picking the movies too. Sometimes it's on Netflix and sometimes we rent from the Family Video store down the road. We recently bought some movies that we hadn't seen yet from there(we've watched 2 and have 2 more to go.) I'm glad you were able to decipher it in all that mess...I honestly have no idea what happened. I'm on my laptop so its not like it got screwed up cuz I was on my iPod or something. Sorry about that. :)

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  • imageJoy2611:

    I despise the term "date night."  My husband and I hang out with each other and do stuff like normal people.  We certainly don't slap a name on it or count how often it happens.  I find the whole concept super odd.

    This. DH just go out and have a good time together whenever we feel like it/can afford it. We don't make plans for it or have set dates, and that's how we like it. We tried doing that when we first got married and it made it feel like a chore. I will say that we keep Sundays open for a couple's game night we do with two other couples in our congregation.

  • imageSnadyj:
    BTW, it's a little like pulling teeth b/c my hubby says there are too many options, but then always comes up with the same old, same old, so they just don't happen all that often anymore. We love hanging out with each other as well, but did learn early on (via premarital counseling) that having a regular date night where we just focus on spending quality time together, and then take turns planning the dates, is really great for us.

    When we are trying to figure out what we want to do, DH and I play the 5-3-1 game. One person (usually me) puts 5 things to do on the table. (ie- going to the movies, bowling, min-golf, the beach, or the zoo). Then the second person (usually DH) picks three of those things (so, beach, bowling, or min-golf). Then the first person (me again) will pick the thing to do, of the three choices. We use this to decide what to cook or where to go out to eat, too. It has ridded our house of the "What do you want to do?" "I don't know, what do you want to do?" and the "I don't care what we do." phrases.

    HTH

  • Sometimes my husband acts strange regarding date night. I figured it out that he just really doesn't like to plan them. It sounds like you have a similar situation. Use some of these awesome ideas on here and just plan it yourself. We pick one night a week, so that we both know not to plan anything else that night; from now on, you plan it and just let him be along for the ride. I'm sure he llikes spending time with you and having a night out!
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  • Depends on what you consider a "date". We go out to eat once or twice a week, but it's very casual and usually consists of Chinese food. We only go out on really nice dates for special occasions, though I wish it were more often.
  • We have 'date' nights on tuesdays...but they are not always 'dates', it is just one day/evening that we set aside for hanging out with eachother, so often we go out to eat or a move, but just as often (especially now that money is tighter) we stay home and watch VOD or going for a walk or talking...sometimes even going to the hardware store.   

    For me the important time is that we are spending time investing in our relationship so that we don't take it for granted, so it means time that we are not on the computers ignoring eachother, not going out with friends, or working late.

  • We've been married almost two years, have date night twice a week.
  • We go out for date nights usually twice a month. We do things that we like to do; go out to see a band, go reminisce at our old bar when we dated, finding a new place to go out to eat, grab a groupon for an adventure, etc.
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  • Yeah I feel the same way, calling it date night makes me feel like it's something you "have" to do. We just go out whenever we're in the mood, I'd say we do romantic coupley type things maybe twice a week, we don't have kids though :) 
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