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Vent/Whine
I'm sure it's mostly hormones but this whole shower thing has me frustrated and kind of down.
I paid for the room rental and the punch last week. My mom said she'd pay me back for it but I know they are tight on money so we'll see. If she gets persistent I'll give her the total. That's not what's bugging me though. What's bugging me is that I had to find a place to rent because of my DH and his family. I know I posted about it at least once if not more. He didn't want it at our house and there was all sorts of drama in having it at my mil's.
well it's a week away and all the people I thought would be there have rsvp'd. This is great. All the other people my sister and mil had to invite - not coming. At least not yet. Most have sent a card. I did get a few gifts in the mail from one of my cousins which was super sweet. My frustration is that I rented a room and bought punch for 30 people and we will have maybe 9 including me. Grrrrrr! I honestly don't care if my shower is big or small it just feels like a waste of money. I did tell DH that I should have put my foot down and just had it at our house but I didn't want to fight with him about it at the time.
The other part of my vent is related to my mom. She's being a bit cranky about the fact my shower is this next weekend. It happens to be my dads only weekend off this month. He only gets one weekend off a month. I didn't know that when my sister asked me when to have it. I know with the farm they can be busy. My mom keeps complaining about what bad timing my shower is and how my dad is upset that my mom is leaving for the weekend. Then my mom starts complaining about how she has to bring my grandma (her mil) with. Granted I am not close to my grandma at all but she's still invited. She doesn't drive much so of course the only way she can come is if my mom brings her. They don't get along well and I get that's its awkward but if I hadn't invited her I know I'd be getting a lot of crap from my dad and in turn my mom. It's a lose/lose situation. I'm trying to be excited for my shower because I know my sister has put a lot of work into it. My mom was just bringing me down about how it's so inconvenient for her.
So that's the vent. The whine is that only having 9 people at my shower which is all family with one friend makes me kind of sad. I've been so busy with work and school that I haven't found many friends since I moved here 4 years ago. Most of my friends are all in Kansas or online like you guys. I'd love to invite you all but I know that none of us live close enough for that to be feasible. I've made acquaintances at work and in school, but none of them have turned into long-term friends. Except the one friend who will be there. I met her at work and we still talk and try to hang out once a month.
Re: Vent/Whine
You could always make it a co-ed shower and have your dad come too
could double the numbers so there is more than 9 people, and they'd still be family 
But, yes, I'd be frustrated too with having to rent a place. I am all for saving money. The way I see the drama is that in a few years, or even months, nobody will be looking back and thinking about your shower being inconvenient, or that your mom had to drive her MIL. It'll just be about your little one
Once it's the day of, or it has passed, I'm sure it'll just be thought about with fond memories 
I love baby showers! I'm sure yours will be absolutely perfect
I'm so sorry you are going through this. I too would be mad if only 9 people were coming after I rented a room. Maybe more people will end up showing up at the last minute. If not, then I'm sure it will still be a nice time.
My mom told me the other day that since my sister may move to Las Vagas in March she will have no one to help her with the shower so maybe we shouldn't have one. I was appailed and upset. I told her I'll get people to help her. Heck, I'll help her!
Married the love of my life on 1-21-12. Our princess arrived on 5-28-13.
I know it'll still end up being fun even with only a few people there. I was just feeling frustrated about the expense and family drama parts.
Tara, I think it's completely okay to help your mom with your shower. Especially if you sister is moving. Hopefully your mom still throws you one or if she doesn't, maybe some of your friends will.
Oh, I getting a shower no matter what, lol. One of my friends told me to tell my mom she'd help her. I think the big thing is the money factor. My mom just retired so her income is a lot less. I think she was thinking that my sister would help her pay for it. I think it's about $20 a person for the place we are thinking of having it at.
Married the love of my life on 1-21-12. Our princess arrived on 5-28-13.
Glad that your friends are going to help out! That's what I did when all the family drama started about where to have it. I helped find another place and paid for it because I know my sister was already covering everything else. $20 per person isn't too bad. I'm looking at about $22 per person right now.