FML

jjbmstinco

I posted about how work drama sucks.  I thought it was getting better.  One of them even invited me to dinner.  Then they had a meeting with our P. I felt weird for some reason. I poked and prodded a little to see if I could find out what the meeting was about.  They wouldn't tell me.  Then another person told me that we are all switching paras around.  So I thought of course! That is why they have to keep a secret.  Then they have been meeting to work on a "project" but wouldn't tell me what it was.  Well the other day one of them majority hinted like came out and said that one might be throwing me a surprise housewarming party. So I thought that is what they were meeting on.  Really want to know what it is?  They went to my boss with a list of complaints about me and now we all have to have a "I hate Jen" session meeting to talk about what they are unhappy about.  I cried all day.  Not because I can't take the criticism, but because I trusted these girls to be my only 2 friends around here and they can't even come talk to me face to face about a problem.  The meeting isn't till Friday.  I am popping anxiety pills like they are damn tic tacts.  We closed on the house yesterday so all Justin can think about is how we are "stuck" here when I hate my job.  I don't know if I want to leave but I don't know if I am a good fit there.  And here come the tears.  Thanks for reading.

jtmh2012

Sorry to hear you're hating your job.  I hate mine for totally different reasons and also feel "stuck".  There are days I just want to go sit in the car in cry.

ImperiumWife

I am so sorry. I hate that most people in education seem to act like the children that they are supposed to be teaching. Is it possible that there is one "Queen Bee" that is causing them to act this way?

Congrats on closing on the house though! I didn't know that you were that close. 

shellyamf

HUGS!!!  It's okay to cry about it.  Maybe in the meeting you can point out that they should come talk to you about things that bother them before going to the Principal?  Not sure they would, most drama people wouldn't.  But worth a shot maybe.  And it sucks that you would feel stuck.  Maybe next year your job will be less drama filled. My mom is a para at their local high school and depending on the year she has other paras who create drama.  Some years are better than others.

Cony&Ben

I'm so sorry, Jen. I agree with Michelle that you should mention that you would appreciate them coming to you with any issues they have. *hugs*

jtmh2012

I'm just curious.  Have you talked directly with the principal to see how they feel about your performance at the school?

jjbmstinco

Yes, she called me into my office and told me what they were unhappy with so I would have time to prepare myself.  I get that we aren't all going to see eye to eye all the time, but as friends, they should have been able to come to me. I know I need to tell them that, but I tend to cower in these situations. 

TaraW1979

I am so sorry you are going through this. It sounds like when I was teaching 7th grade. My teammates disliked me and I believe told the principal that I should be let go, so when budget cuts came around they picked me. People can be so mean and cruel.

jtmh2012

jjbmstinco:

Yes, she called me into my office and told me what they were unhappy with so I would have time to prepare myself.  I get that we aren't all going to see eye to eye all the time, but as friends, they should have been able to come to me. I know I need to tell them that, but I tend to cower in these situations. 

Does any of it actually sound legit?  Or mostly BS?

I gave up seeing co-workers as friends a long time ago.  Most of them you never talk to again once you're no longer working in the same building.

Not sure how big your school system is, but is it possible to transfer to another school?