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"Maybe you're pregnant..."
in BNOTB
Does anyone else get this response to whatever you say? I have a few friends who say this to everything I say. If I ever say "I'm hungry/tired/sick" they right away say "maybe you're pregnant!" I always respond with a flat out "um, no." But this weekend one of our friends insisted and said that even though I am on BC I very we'll could still be pregnant. H and I both snapped that I have "baby maker problems" so it's not too likely. I HATE having to explain that to people and am sick of everyone saying stupid crap.
Okay end rant. Sorry.
Re: "Maybe you're pregnant..."
Fortunately, it doesn't happen to me too often, but it happened a couple months ago from a mutual friend. She wasn't intentionally being rude, but it was very awkward. I said that I had been really tired lately (probably from stress at work and long hours - I'm a teacher!). She immediately asked with great enthusiasm, "are you pregnant?" I was like, "um, no, definitely not." She continued "Are you sure? You could be pregnant." I then had to explain that not only am I on BC, but DH has been having "physical problems" that prevent him from ejaculating. So . . . no sperm, no baby. End of discussion.
To make it even more interesting, we just hit our one-year anniversary. The same friend asked me today when we might have children. I said, "I don't know. Sometime in the future I suppose." She said "oh ok, so you're not thinking about it for awhile? That's good. But it could happen, you never know . . . ."
Ugh, no actually it really can't. Not until DH's body starts working properly (Dr.'s say nothing's wrong with him, so it could be mental - we're working on that). But thanks for asking. Again.
I don't even like to tell people when I'm feeling sick because of this stuff. I would prefer to suffer in silence.
Nice thing is, with H being fixed I can stare at the person and say "We can't have children" without feeling like a liar. Serves them right!
I have a friend who asks if I'm pregnant pretty much every time I drink a non-alcoholic drink, since we got married. It doesn't bother me much, because that's just part of his sense of humor, and I like him for it.
Another friend of mine asks if I'm pregnant yet every time we talk on the phone, but I'm pretty sure she was doing that when I was single, too, so I don't think anything of that either. She got married a few months before us, so I just ask her back.
"You know you're in love when you don't want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams." - Dr. SeussI get this once or twice a week. I have hypoglycemia and a weak stomach, so I get sick pretty often.
I also have "baby maker problems" so it really bugs me when people are like "Maybe you're pregnant!" and I'm like "no, that's pretty much impossible." but they just keep on insisting that BC is not 100% effective. OK- WHO said anything about BC?!
UGH! I think this is my biggest pet peeve when it comes to the "baby" talk I get.
I get this every time I go out with DH and his friends. I just don't like to drink. Is that so wrong?!?!
I can't wait until we join this club!
Ugh. I hate when people do crap like that. Some people have no sense of
what is and isn't appropriate to say.
Couldn't agree with this post more. I always stare at the person (especially if they are habitual offenders) and give a flat, 'nope.'
I have yet to have someone continue to push the issue. Shows you how rude some people can be.
I hate when people ask me. We've been TTC for gosh I guess it's been about 8 months now and I've been really struggling with it. I had a friend who kept asking about it and then about 4 months in she learns that she's pregnant. I was upset enough to learn that someone who wasn't even TTC was pregnant but then she asks again "oh when are you guys going to?". I just have to bite my tongue to keep myself from saying something snotty in return.
I'm just glad I'm not the only one who has to deal with people making comments.
**6.30.12** I have found the one whom my soul loves.
I find this question more annoying than the "when are you going to have kids?" question. Our friends all know we're not planning on kids for a few years yet anyway but nevertheless if I say my stomach is upset or that I've been really tired they ask anyway... despite the fact that this is how I feel during my period, so they're asking at the time of month I can all but guarantee I'm not pregnant.
Seriously, when I'm actually pregnant I'll let them know.
I had people say things like that to me when I was engaged... and ABSTINENT!
Hell, I've had people say that to me when I was single!!!
I've had doctors that didn't even believe I was abstinent when going in for different procedures charge me $70 for a pregnancy test! I know it counts toward my deductible, but are you kidding me? I have to pay $70 because you didn't believe me?
What's even worse is I got pregnant less than a month after our wedding. Now people ask us all the time if we got married because I was pregnant. Awkward...