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OK...clearing the air about the GTG
We're all a little on edge about this and I just want to say this:
I think lots of what Mo could easily be taken out of context. Sometimes it's very difficult to convey sentiment through text on a message board, so since this is my house we're talking about, here's where I stand:
The offer for the GTG was indeed open to every verifiable member currently participating on the board at the time of the posting, veteran Nest posters, transitional Knot members and new members as a way for all of us to do a fun activity on a Sunday afternoon and meet each other. Before that e-vite went out, I verified every e-mail request to every poster name, vet and newbie.
I was comfortable hosting this in my home because those who responded to the inquiry all fit the above criteria. No one was excluded, intentionally or otherwise. I clearly posted somewhere along the lines that I'd have to limit it at 25 people or so, which we are currently at. Never once did I say to anyone, you can't come because you're new. I wouldn't attend such an event and therefore wouldn't host one.
In the last 3 days, I had about 10 e-mails from people I don't know, some I have never seen on this board asking if they could come. I've also had e-mails from established or new members who somehow missed the first round of invites. Most presented their Knot or Nest user name. Those who didn't were asked to and honestly, some of those e-mails failed to respond to my request. If I could verify and include them, I happily did (case in point Jaci) Although I'm glad there is an interest, I said 'sorry, no' to most of them because (1) there is no time to verify anyone else and (2) there quite frankly is no more room
No veterans are having any kind of secret discussions. Yes, there is a FB group, which was never an exclusive group. Chris& Dan is the moderator and it's always been open for anyone on this board to join. Just because someone is in the group doesn't mean they are part of a secret clique. There are many members of this board who are in the FB group that aren't on my personal friends list....for no reason at all. Anything I post there, I'd post here with the exception of a troll vent, which would be clearly visible to anyone in the group. Anyone who has a FB can agree how easy it is to post pics there and sometimes it's just easier to say "new pics on FB" than navigate the Nest's pic posting/bio updating jungle. There is no clique that I am aware of to feel a part of. A few veterans know and socialize with each other IRL, which is their right and their business...Nest, Knot or otherwise.
I myself have slowed down my posting hoping this influx of troll drama just gets old and goes away. I'm not blaming anyone for it. It happens from time to time. When I said I didn't want the drama, I was not implying a vision of a fight breaking out at my house, I just meant that I don't want this GTG to have a cloud of animosity hanging over it. For pete's sake, we're decorating cookies, ladies.
I don't want to cancel this because I've already put in countless hours of prep time and money. If you've RSVP'd and you aren't comfortable coming now, I'm sorry. I
never wanted this to be anything but a fun activity. Just please let
me know if anyone has changed her mind before I bake 200 cookies for us
to decorate.
Re: OK...clearing the air about the GTG
Oh, I know, Mo. I just wanted to make sure everyone knew how I felt since it's at my casa!
I think the whole situation was just confusing to some of the newer girls. I just started posting a couple of weeks ago, but I had definitely been lurking for over a year since I had previously lived with my ex-FI. I sort of don't feel new, even though I am haha.
But I am definitely still planning on coming! Cookies are amaaazing and thanks again sharon for hosting it for us! I'm really excited to meet you girls and I swear I'm a good time and no drama hahaha.