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Well, it's not good news :(
So we went in for the u/s this morning at 7:30. Again the u/s tech could see little to nothing with the normal stomach u/s so he went for the trans-v ultrasound probe (oh the wonderful world of the tilted uterus). He was quiet and then he said he was done and was going to get my DH in the waiting room and that he was going to get the Dr. on call. I knew it. I knew it the second he said that, that there was nothing good about the u/s. They were able to get us in to see a Dr. in Irvine today at 9:30 and it was the same Dr. I was supposed to see tomorrow. She was very nice and delivered the news as lightly as she knew how. There is no heartbeat, there has been no progress and she says it looks like it happened quite early in the pregnancy. She goes through my options:
1) Let the MC happen naturally (but there's not telling when this will occur and physically it can be painful, like they will need to give me vicadin painful).
2) Schedule a D & C. 15 min procedure, minimal pain and it's over.
3) Take suppositories that will bring on the actual MC and it will be painful
I think I'm going to opt for #2. I will try and schedule the D & C as soon as I can so that DH and I can just move on. This has been so hard on us. We were so excited to have this baby. I know it happens, I know I'm not the only woman on the planet that this has happened to and that it's common, but it doesn't make it hurt any less. 
I go through my bouts of crying fits and then I feel a little better.
I want to thank all of you for your prayers and your good thoughts and wishes. They have meant so much to me and my DH. I think I may be spending some time on the MC board.
Love you guys.
Re: Well, it's not good news :(
Oh sweetie...I'm so sorry...I had the same exact thing happen to me a few years ago...I know exactly what you're going through. I actually had a D&C - I was given the same options as you. We felt the D&C was the best option for us, too.
If you have any questions or need to talk you can always email me at lorikeenan at sbcglobal dot net
Hugs!
Oh Bren....(((((HUG))))) I am SO sorry! A M/C is a horrible thing to go through. My only advise is to let the crying happen when you need it. Don't feel like you have to move on in any amount of set time. Grieve for your baby and eventually it does get easier. Your little one just wasnt ready for the world yet and so he/she decided that it would come back a little later. Our angel babies can be in heaven together....
I think the D&C is a good option. Its a good way for your body to heal and get ready for a nice long happy pregnancy later! it will happen for you, and the timing will be great, I promise.
Please, PLEASE, let me know if you need ANYTHING at all! You guys will be in my thoughts and prayers!
I'm so very very sorry again, and you need to make the decision thats best for you and H. Let the grieving process take its time and let me know if you ever need anything! Seriously I'm not that far away and I'm happy to help in any way!
Oh my love I'm so very very sorry. I wish I knew just the words to say with something like this but i don't.
I'm sending your way and extra special love and thoughts for your baby bean.
I have heard great things about the PL boards but know we are here for you too and would love to listen and support you when and if you need.
Oh Honey!!!! I am so sad for you and your DH!!
HUGE HUGS!!!!
The PL board will help, and hopefully you can cycle normally and try again soon when you are ready!
*Hug.* I'm so sorry for your loss.
Take a couple of days off from work with your husband (if possible) and just be together. Grieve as much as you need to. Cry when you feel like crying. It's really hard at first but it'll get better. Cuddle your cat a lot (I thihnk you have a cat?). If your friends offer to drop off food or something, let them. You're not going to feel like doing anything for a few days. I've been there and it sucks so badly. I still cry when I look at Lukas because we lost two babies before him and he's such a little miracle for me now. And Bren, you're going to get your own little miracle, too. *Hug.*
After 2 rounds of IVF & 2 rounds of FET, we were blessed with identical twin girls!
After 2 rounds of IVF & 2 rounds of FET, we were blessed with identical twin girls!
Bren,
I am so sorry. I never told anyone on this board b/c it was rather painful for me, but a few months ago, I had a m/c, too. I understand that what you are going through is a nightmare. I decided to do the D & C b/c I could not go through the other options. There was no way I was going wait and let it "happen naturally". At that point, emotionally I wasn't that strong. I am telling you this, b/c I want you to know that when I say understand, I do. My heart aches for you, and I will continue to pray for you.