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WWYD?
I need some advice on how I should handle a friend of mine. My friend Jody and I have known each other for about the past 9 or 10 years. She can be very needy and gets really upset when people flake on her, however, she has no problem flaking on me!
Last night Jody texted me, asking if I wanted to go to the movies with her tonight. We made plans for her to come to my place tonight so she can see my new condo, and then go to the movies at VIctoria Gardens around 7:30 or 8.
Well I called her duing my lunch break today and she said to me, "Well, I have a dilema. My parents are going to their Lake Arrowhead timeshare this weekend, and I want to go with them. We're leaving tonight."
I just said fine, and told her to call me on Sunday when she gets back. I wanted to say more, but I had several students in my classroom re-taking a test, so that's all I really could say. However, I really want to email her and say "You always get so mad when people change their plans on you, but then you do the same to me. YOU are the one who invited me to the movies tonight, and now when I called to confirm, you found something better to do. I don't appreciate you treating me this way."
Just as background, this is not the first time she's done this to me. It's always a case of finding something better to do and then canceling with me. And more than once, she has not even bothered to call me; I only find out when I call her to confirm.
So anyway, what would you do? Do you think my (as yet unsent) email response is appropriate?
TIA
Re: WWYD?
I agree with Noush. Just mention it non-confrontationally next time she wants to make plans.
I have a friend like that too. It is very odd for her to make plans with me and keep them. She was my best friend. She still hasn't met Mary.
My point is that I feel your pain. I hope you don't lose her but honesty is the best policy. (Not via email)
I don't want to lose her either, but I do want to tell her to stop being a biotch!
Sorry to hear that your friend has not even met Mary yet.