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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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May I vent? *LONG*
Hope it is ok if I vent a little. I am really upset right now. About a few weeks ago, I told my Mom that I was expecting. At the time I think I was only about 5 weeks far along, but we really wanted to share the news with our family members. I told my Mom that the reason we wanted to tell our love ones sooner this time around is b/c we need everyone's prayers and support. Also, the last time I was pregnant, our family members did not find out I was pregnant until after I had the m/c. It was devastating. They never got to share the joy and excitement with us even if it was just for a few weeks. This time DH and I wanted to do things different, but when I called my Mom and told her I wanted to tell the rest of the family, she said I shouldn't. I should wait until the end of my 1st tri, she said. Not only that, she said, just a few days before my bro and his wife ("Jane") found out that another cousin is pregnant, and they were very upset. My bro and SIL have been trying for a few years now, and I understand their frustrations. My Mom was afraid the news of me being pregnant again would upset my bro and SIL even further. She even suggested that when I do tell the two of them that I would "break it to them gently". I was upset at the time, but I let it go. I figured I should be sensitive to other people's feelings. Cut to this weekend when all of a sudden my other bro emailed me to congratulate me on my pregnancy. I was shocked since I did not tell anyone else in the family like my Mom suggested. It turned out the day I called my Mom, she went ahead and told "Jane" who then went and told the whole family. The saddest thing is my Mom does not even think there is nothing wrong with what she and Jane had done. And she simply said, "I told "Jane", so she went on and told the rest of the family." I think it was wrong for them to do that, and take that right away from us. Didn't they know we wanted to be the one to tell people- to see their faces... to hear their excitement?! And this is after my Mom gave me a lecture of not telling anyone yet! I am just angry right now. Maybe I am just being hormonal...
Re: May I vent? *LONG*
I am so sorry that happened. That's not fair and it wasn't right for them to do that at all.
I told my mgr I was pg at 7 weeks after our first u/s. She told me I shouldn't tell anybody else "just in case". We had a branch meeting at 10 weeks and she announced it to the branch. Way to put me on the spot.
Oh, I would be so mad too. I told MIL we were expecting because she's a PA and wanted some advice. She practically forced us to tell everyone else because she wouldn't be able to keep it a secret. We wanted to wait a little, but ended up having to tell everyone for fear that she would ruin it.
Just tell your mom how she and Jane completely took that joy away from you and you are hurt. Maybe next time she won't jump the gun.
How insensitive! *hug* I'm sorry they did that to you.Don't ever, ever hold back from celebrating or being happy! A baby is a blessing. It's sad that they've tried for so long but that doesn't mean you should be ashamed (which is how I take it) that you're expecting now. You've had your ups & downs now is your time to shine. Rub that belly & go find those keys already! hee hee
xoxoxo
Thanks you so much ladies. I did talk to my Mom, but if you knew her you would know how difficult it is to talk to her. She simply acts like it is not a big deal. And far as Jane is concerned, I have not even talked to her nor does she wants to talk to me. From what my Mom told me when she broke the news to her, she walked off the room, and said she did not want to hear about it. Again, I don't even know why my Mom would tell me this, but at this point, all I can say, oh, well... move on, I guess. At least I was able to AW w/ u ladies last week. That meant a lot to me.
And Brandy, I agree. A baby is a blessing and worth celebrating no matter whose it is in the family. I would have been just as happy for her if the situations were reversed. I would never be that bitter.
Anyway, going back to celebrating and less venting.
Thanks again. I do feel a lot better.
Jane was my BMzilla years ago if you remember. I guess I should have expected that from her.
Ah, I remember that crap. With the dresses right? Again, I'm sorry she's having a hard time getting PG, but she has some real issues she needs to stop putting onto you. I'm so sorry. Clearly she has some growing up to do.
Are you guys gonna find out the sex? At least you guys can share that news.