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Retired Catholic Priests Performing Marriages Outside the Catholic Church?
My sister had a retired Catholic priest marry her at the reception place. Isn't this hypocritical? Joe and I were not married in a Catholic church, and as far as the church is concerned we aren't married. So how can a retired Catholic priest marry someone outside the church? I mean legally, as far as the state of NJ is concerned, he is fully certified to do so, but what kind of message does it send to the community that you are going against the churches rules? Just a thought to ponder... I should probably add that we are Catholic, which is what got me thinking...
Re: Retired Catholic Priests Performing Marriages Outside the Catholic Church?
As far as the church is concerned, no, it doesn't "count." I see that they would want people to get married in church but I don't think it should matter where they get married.
However, I think that people who may not feel totally comfortable getting married "in the Church" want to acknowledge their religion in some way. I know a couple who never attended church and were given a HUGE guilt trip and basically turned away from their church when they wanted to get married. They got a retired Catholic priest to marry them. My friend figured it would be more hypocritical for her to get married IN a church if she doesn't attend regularly, but she still wanted religion acknowledged.
That is the wording I was looking for, I felt the same way. If I can't get married in the church I'd rather have a retired Catholic priest than someone who isn't the same religion as me.
I just think it's funny and hypocritical... Do as I say, not as I do... If you are a priest who believes in the doctrines of the church and the church doesn't acknowledge a marriage outside the church - and you weren't allowed to do it while you were an active priest, why would you perform the ceremony after you retire... It's as if you are acknowledging that you don't agree with the Catholic church's rules... Does that make sense..
I don't think my sister is being hypocritical - I think the PRIEST is a hypocrite! LOL I wasn't looking at it from my sister's angle... Picky anyone to marry you - what do I care? LOL
I never really thought about it that way. It was made clear that if we wanted it to be official in the eyes of the church we would get married in the church. I took it as he is a retired priest and can legally perform this service so why not? He isn't saying that it is a Catholic marriage, it is just a legal marriage. I think it would be hypocritical if he was telling us otherwise. I can see how someone would take it your way though.
Good thought, but I still feel like it is hypocritical of the retired priest... Look at it this way, let's say I work for a non-profit organization that is against the use of drugs. I spend my entire career preaching, lecturing and educating on the evils of drugs. I retire and decide to sell drugs... It's hypocritical...
Again, I think the church's rule is crazy, but if you believe in the church enough to take a vow and preach its word, how can you go against that word once you retire...