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GMA...60% of men, 40% of women cheat?

I figured I'd start a discussion :)

Good morning america had a story on about cheating and how these are the percentages of spouses who cheat.  Does anyone find this belivable, b/c if this is true that is Crazy!!!!  I get so pissed off when I hear stories like this and how you hear the cheaters try to justify why they did it...b/c they weren't feeling respected or needed by their partner.  Are people really that week and selfish, that when they don't get what they want they run to someone else!  What ever happened to talking something out with your spouse.

When FI and I see this stuff on TV it drives us nuts b/c it's hard to belive that marriage is taken so lightly anymore....and the thing that drives me even crazier is the spouse that's made to feel guilty for driving the other spouse to cheat and they take them back.  I told FI early on that cheating is it for me.....to me if your spouse can do that to you then you don't want to be with them.

What does everyone else think of this?  Do you think these #'s are true?

Re: GMA...60% of men, 40% of women cheat?

  • I hate statistics like that!  It's really such BS because they're not telling you where they got the sample of people they interviewed.  They also don't tell you the circumstances of the cheating or what they consider cheating.  Too much is left out of the report.
  • By cheating do they mean having sex with someone who isn't your spouse, or just going on a date, or kissing? What class of people is the 60/40 ratio coming from? If they said they took it from Camden then no I wouldn't be shocked.
  • I think that percentage seems a little too high, I would think it would be a little lower. But it's still sad. I agree Marriage isnt important anymore, but I think it's because we barely have any moral or values anymore in this country
  • I know seriously!!!!  and I'm pretty sure they meant all forms of cheating and not just sleeping with another person...which either way is still cheating....but FI and I were saying that if they interviewed a bunch of people who were married at 20  then yeah maybe but to say this is an overally number for everyone is nuts.
  • I'm sure the data is definitely skewed, but it's kind of not surprising. I do agree that people do not take marriage seriously anymore. Many cheat b/c they have kids and don't want to get a divorce.

    And I do think it's any form of cheating - emotional and physical. Many people have internet relationships these days. There is a site "Ashley Madison" that is for people to have affairs on the internet! it's ridiculous. 

  • imagelilylow:
    By cheating do they mean having sex with someone who isn't your spouse, or just going on a date, or kissing? What class of people is the 60/40 ratio coming from? If they said they took it from Camden then no I wouldn't be shocked.

     

    Whoa!!  You sunk to a new low.  No wonder why everyone left this board.  You're a racist jerk!  

  • imageWhyDoYouSuckSoBad:

    imagelilylow:
    By cheating do they mean having sex with someone who isn't your spouse, or just going on a date, or kissing? What class of people is the 60/40 ratio coming from? If they said they took it from Camden then no I wouldn't be shocked.

     

    Whoa!!  You sunk to a new low.  No wonder why everyone left this board.  You're a racist jerk!  

    I hate to let you know this, but I never mentioned race.

  • imagelilylow:
    imageWhyDoYouSuckSoBad:

    imagelilylow:
    By cheating do they mean having sex with someone who isn't your spouse, or just going on a date, or kissing? What class of people is the 60/40 ratio coming from? If they said they took it from Camden then no I wouldn't be shocked.

     

    Whoa!!  You sunk to a new low.  No wonder why everyone left this board.  You're a racist jerk!  

    I hate to let you know this, but I never mentioned race.

     

    You didn't have to...I know what you are insinuating little Ms "I don't understand what the big deal about this inauguration"  

  • #s aren't that shocking.  As a whole, people tend to lack moral fiber and substance and really do not have a strong set of beliefs or values unless you consider American Idol to be your spritual guide.
  • imageanneliesek:
    #s aren't that shocking.  As a whole, people tend to lack moral fiber and substance and really do not have a strong set of beliefs or values unless you consider American Idol to be your spritual guide.

    yes, what anna said. 

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  • imageWhyDoYouSuckSoBad:
    imagelilylow:
    imageWhyDoYouSuckSoBad:

    imagelilylow:
    By cheating do they mean having sex with someone who isn't your spouse, or just going on a date, or kissing? What class of people is the 60/40 ratio coming from? If they said they took it from Camden then no I wouldn't be shocked.

     

    Whoa!!  You sunk to a new low.  No wonder why everyone left this board.  You're a racist jerk!  

    I hate to let you know this, but I never mentioned race.

     

     

    You didn't have to...I know what you are insinuating little Ms "I don't understand what the big deal about this inauguration"  

    oh for the love of......

    if you have something to say, use your real name rather than hiding behind an AE since you have apparently been on here for months.  And we think this bs ends when we graduate high school...

    I bet you will start to attack me now, too...

  • imageKrista&Alex:
    imageWhyDoYouSuckSoBad:
    imagelilylow:
    imageWhyDoYouSuckSoBad:

    imagelilylow:
    By cheating do they mean having sex with someone who isn't your spouse, or just going on a date, or kissing? What class of people is the 60/40 ratio coming from? If they said they took it from Camden then no I wouldn't be shocked.

     

    Whoa!!  You sunk to a new low.  No wonder why everyone left this board.  You're a racist jerk!  

    I hate to let you know this, but I never mentioned race.

     

     

    You didn't have to...I know what you are insinuating little Ms "I don't understand what the big deal about this inauguration"  

    oh for the love of......

    if you have something to say, use your real name rather than hiding behind an AE since you have apparently been on here for months.  And we think this bs ends when we graduate high school...

    I bet you will start to attack me now, too...

     

    Oh please!  Don't flatter yourself.  Well, gotta run...I've got to get to the doctor because I have a bad case of the "baby rabies."  It's been fun...NOT!  

  • Umm...ok...as far as I know all races live in Camden so that's not exactly a racist comment
  • imagelilylow:
    If they said they took it from Camden then no I wouldn't be shocked.

    I didn't really want to get into this and I'm not trying to start anything or bicker with you, but... 

    Sometimes it really seems like you don't think before you open your mouth, so to speak.  My father was born & raised in Camden, they moved when he was in like middle school.  He's been faithfully married to (and madly in love with) my mom for 35 years, he's an upstanding middle class citizen and an all around great guy.  Just saying.

  • imageKristylovesBriley:

    imagelilylow:
    If they said they took it from Camden then no I wouldn't be shocked.

    I didn't really want to get into this and I'm not trying to start anything or bicker with you, but... 

    Sometimes it really seems like you don't think before you open your mouth, so to speak.  My father was born & raised in Camden, they moved when he was in like middle school.  He's been faithfully married to (and madly in love with) my mom for 35 years, he's an upstanding middle class citizen and an all around great guy.  Just saying.

    Camden is reguarly listed on the Federal Bureau of Investigations list of the most dangerous cities in the United States.  Both for drugs, prostitution, and murder.  In 2007 it was ranked 2nd most dangerous city in the country.  (2008 hasn't been released yet)  Therefor taking those statistics into factor, I'm going to assume that it is also a place that infedility could take place.

    http://os.cqpress.com/citycrime/CityCrime2008_Rank_Rev.pdf

    http://www.fbi.gov/ucr/cius2007/data/table_08_nj.html

  • I just wanted to add that Rabbi Neulander of Cherry Hill was found guilty of murdering his wife after having an affair with another woman.  Infidelity in Cherry Hill is not uncommon nor is it uncommon in Camden, Pennsauken, Voorhees, Bala Cynwyd, Ardmore, Philadelphia, Trenton, Sewell, etc.  Socioeconomic status, race, creed, religion, etc have little bearing on whether one commits adultery.
  • Somewhat related to the infidelity statistics listed might be those of divorce statistics.  Any one know the statistics of divorce in this country?  At one point it was estimated that 50% of all marriages end in divorce.  Based on that statistic....why would anyone get married?  Obviously, we like to think that we are immune to the statistics as is the same with the statistics on infidelity......just saying.
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