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I am leaving DH
After three years of being put-down, micromanaged, and verbally abused, I have made the decision to leave DH. I have threatened to do it a few times in the past, but he has always vowed to change. He will change for a few weeks, but then we always end up back to him yelling and me being unhappy. I am just sick of it..
I am going to move in with my mom until I can save up for an apartment... I feel terrible, like I am ripping DH's world apart. We just bought a house. We have a car together. We just booked our cruise for his family reunion in September. I feel guilty for doing this to him; but I guess that is a trademark of people that have been/are being abused, right?
Anyway, I just needed to put that out there, I guess to make it "real." [:(]
Re: I am leaving DH
You need to do what is best for yourself. YOU are the only one who is going to take care of yourself. I know you feel guilty, but you need to focus on yourself.
Can you get into individual counseling? Stay strong, you are doing the right thing for yourself. I'm sending you a hug.
thanks. I have been going to a therapist for a while, so I have her to talk to.
you shouldn't let the guilt get to you.. honestly im struggling with leaving my fiance at the moment but in reality the only thing that matters is our happiness. & as a human being we have to be selfish because we're the only ones that can speak, feel or think for ourselves. we all want that special someone but we have to put ourselves first if we ever want someone else to. thats the only way we'll know what we're worth as a woman..
at least thats how i see it. I wish you the best & hope things work out.
Do what is best for YOU.
Sending you a huge huge hug
Kudos to you for standing up to yourself. You will overcome this!
Stay strong & sending hugs