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I don't know what to call it
I have been faithfully dating the same guy for the past 8 months. When we first started dating we both decided we were going to keep it simple and have no commitment. Sex was great and often. But obviously as time passes we ended up spending more time together I started to have deeper feeling for him with out saying anything to him at first.
After about 5 months of dating I realized that I was starting to fall in love with him and wanted more out of this then just a dating. I finally asked him where our relationship was going and what did he want from all of this. Mind you, he had just quit his job and didn't have a back up plan thinking that he would be able to find one right away. He tells me that he wants to get his life together before he commits to me, which I completely understood.
As time past I am starting to fall more and more in love with but don't what to say it. I finally come out and tell him after a long night of drinking and he doesn't take me serious, or at least I don't think. A few weeks before this our sex life has basically gone from 4-5 times a week to maybe once a week. I want to be with him because I do see a future together, but I don't know what else to do or say.
Should I stay in this no name relationship or cut my losses and move on?
Re: I don't know what to call it
Move on and learn your lesson.
BTW, what kind of a guy quits a job with no job in replacement for it --- and has no back up plan??? Please find a guy who is financially secure and has a steady, sturdy job.
I understand what you are saying.
But we do act more like a couple than friends. We are usually always together. It's just concerning in the sense that we always were having sex and now it hardly ever happens. And it's more on his part than mine.
Only 8 months.
That's a piffle and a pittance.
Not hard to start over --- like the ole song used to go "got along without you before I met you going to get along without you now." Find a guy who is worth your while. And take your time.
I'd say any guy that doesn't take you seriously when you tell him your feelings (and then withholds sex afterwards) probably shouldn't be someone you should see yourself having a future with. Just giving it to you straight.
On the bright side, now you know. He did you a tremendous favor by letting you know where you stand. Now you can move on to bigger and better things. Yes, that pun was intentional