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  • This week I am about ready to kill H. I've had it with his stupid dog and H's lack of pitching in to a) help clean up after his dog and b) not helping around the house. 

    On top of it all, his aunt is on life support and he refuses to go down to the hospital. It's been such a clusterf**k of a week.

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  • I don't know if you all remember, but when I announced that I was expecting back in June, I also said SIL was expecting and due within a day or 2 of me.

    I am no longer pregnant, but SIL is.  I majorly resent her.  I don't want to spend time with her, I don't want to see my nephew, I want to shut her out.

    I feel bad because it's not her fault in any way that I miscarried.  I am happy that she is having a healthy baby and that my nephew is healthy, but I wish I lived far away so her pregnancy isn't thrown in my face daily.  My brother, SIL and nephew live about 5 minutes from us and we see at least one of them every day.

    I tried to explain this to my mom the other day and she told me that I was being mean and I need to get over it.  I wanted to shut her out also.  I feel like only H is understanding that I am grieving and it hurts.

    I've also found out this week about 3 other people who are pregnant and due right around when I was supposed to be due.  I try to be happy when I hear happy news, but then I go off alone and have my sad moment. 
  • Sjs, it's ok that you have those feelings.  The loss of a child through miscarriage is only really understood by others that have gone through it.  Lean on your H for support and with time, it will get better.  Take your time to grieve and be upset; just don't let it take over you and try to move forward when you're ready.  Hang in there! ((hugs))
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  • sjs1013 said:
    I don't know if you all remember, but when I announced that I was expecting back in June, I also said SIL was expecting and due within a day or 2 of me.

    I am no longer pregnant, but SIL is.  I majorly resent her.  I don't want to spend time with her, I don't want to see my nephew, I want to shut her out.

    I feel bad because it's not her fault in any way that I miscarried.  I am happy that she is having a healthy baby and that my nephew is healthy, but I wish I lived far away so her pregnancy isn't thrown in my face daily.  My brother, SIL and nephew live about 5 minutes from us and we see at least one of them every day.

    I tried to explain this to my mom the other day and she told me that I was being mean and I need to get over it.  I wanted to shut her out also.  I feel like only H is understanding that I am grieving and it hurts.

    I've also found out this week about 3 other people who are pregnant and due right around when I was supposed to be due.  I try to be happy when I hear happy news, but then I go off alone and have my sad moment. 
     
    *HUGS*  My sister had a few miscarriages before her daughter was born.  She felt like this a lot, I think a lot of women in your situation do.  She called me several times crying about other people's pregnancies.   I hope things get better for you soon!
  • sjs1013 said:
    I don't know if you all remember, but when I announced that I was expecting back in June, I also said SIL was expecting and due within a day or 2 of me.

    I am no longer pregnant, but SIL is.  I majorly resent her.  I don't want to spend time with her, I don't want to see my nephew, I want to shut her out.

    I feel bad because it's not her fault in any way that I miscarried.  I am happy that she is having a healthy baby and that my nephew is healthy, but I wish I lived far away so her pregnancy isn't thrown in my face daily.  My brother, SIL and nephew live about 5 minutes from us and we see at least one of them every day.

    I tried to explain this to my mom the other day and she told me that I was being mean and I need to get over it.  I wanted to shut her out also.  I feel like only H is understanding that I am grieving and it hurts.

    I've also found out this week about 3 other people who are pregnant and due right around when I was supposed to be due.  I try to be happy when I hear happy news, but then I go off alone and have my sad moment. 

    Big huge hug!   >:D<

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  • I don't know if you all remember, but when I announced that I was expecting back in June, I also said SIL was expecting and due within a day or 2 of me.

    I am no longer pregnant, but SIL is.  I majorly resent her.  I don't want to spend time with her, I don't want to see my nephew, I want to shut her out.

    I feel bad because it's not her fault in any way that I miscarried.  I am happy that she is having a healthy baby and that my nephew is healthy, but I wish I lived far away so her pregnancy isn't thrown in my face daily.  My brother, SIL and nephew live about 5 minutes from us and we see at least one of them every day.

    I tried to explain this to my mom the other day and she told me that I was being mean and I need to get over it.  I wanted to shut her out also.  I feel like only H is understanding that I am grieving and it hurts.

    I've also found out this week about 3 other people who are pregnant and due right around when I was supposed to be due.  I try to be happy when I hear happy news, but then I go off alone and have my sad moment.  
    I agree, hugs to you!! I guess some people don't understand. This isn't a situation I've been in, but I can still see how it's hard for you. Have you considered talking to your SIL about it gently? I know that could get a little sticky. Anything I can do, let me know! *more hugs* 
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  • Thanks for all the hugs!  I thought about saying something to SIL, but she didn't do anything and I don't want to make her feel bad because I'm upset.  I went out with her last night and I felt a little better. 

    As for my mom, I would think she would be more understanding.  She had a miscarriage between my brother and me.  You would think she knows how I feel.  I guess she moved on right away and expects me to also. 

    My H has been amazing with this whole thing.  He grieved when a miscarriage was suspected, before it was confirmed.  He has been so supportive and loving with me.  It makes me love him more. 
  • Sjs I'm so sorry to hear. I've known others who have had similar feelings after a miscarriage and its normal. I'm glad to hear your h has been wonderful during the whole ordeal.

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  • Thank you!
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