Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
MIL-total rant
Have I complained about this lady to you? She never bothered me until I had kids, and now..ugh. She's just really really bad with L. NO common sense and no maternal instincts. For instance: You know how you squish a toddler's arm or cheek? Well, she does that to the point of harassment- like Lillian almost fell off her chair a few weeks ago trying to get away- and not in a fun, tickeling way. L always looks at me like WTF and I say out loud "I don't know why she's doing that, I'm sorry." But no, MIL doesn't get it. Last time they were here she took our couch pillows and was hitting L in the face. W. T. F. I almost flipped a shit. We have tried to teach L not to hit anyone with anything and now this woman is going to try to make it a game. Oh hells no.
So anyway, my WWYD. When L was born my in-laws came to our house 6 weekends in a row at dinner time. DId they bring us dinner- no. I cooked the first few times and then refused, so we went out to dinner. DId they offer to pay-no. So I'm still bitter because I think that is really rude. When someone's vagina is still stitched and bleeding (sorry, tmi) you don't expect them to feed you dinner.
2 weeks ago they called to come over. I told N to suggest either morning bc our girls are both awake and happy in the morning. They, obviously, couldn't make it in the morning (bs reasons..nothing good). So they came at dinner time. When I told N I refused to make dinner I asked what he was going to make- we ordered (and paid for) pizza. WELL, of course they want to come again this weekend...but not in the morning when it's good for us...Saturday, dinner time. Side note- the DAY we moved in they came...at dinner time...and we ordered and payed. His mother asked if we had wine which we didn't bc I was preggers and we were MOVING THAT DAY, so then she asked if we were treating them to dinner (on the day WE MOVED) and when I said yes she asked if she could order a drink. "Um, I don't think Applebees will hand me a drink in my car window since we're doing pick up."
So...should I hold my grudge and make N figure out dinner (which means ordering and paying) or do I cook? Cooking would mean shopping bc my groceries are coming on Sunday and Sat was leftovers.
**Money is not an issue with this paying for their dinner thing, but they never offer to split it or pay..they just watch us pick up the check every time.
Okay, long rant over...hope it make sense. WWYD??
Re: MIL-total rant
I do remember this issue when L was born.
what does Nolan think? just pay for dinner or make dinner and not deal with it?
I would probalby say sure you can come over, what are you bringing for dinner? laugh and then say no seriously.
The Rowdy Roberts
This whole thing baffles me, though. I don't understand why they won't work with your schedule.
How did it go?
Can you start telling them no to coming over at night?
I can't believe she asked if you guys were paying? Who does that??
I would make sure I let DH know that he needs to step it up and tell them that the evenings dont work for you anymore. If they cant come to your house at a time that works for your family then they need to figure out their schedule to make it work.
Or if they insist on coming for dinner, ask them to bring something specific. She just sounds like she is using coming to your house as an excuse to get a free meal and not have to do anything for it.