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NEED OPINIONS PLEASE! I'm fuming about invitations!
Ok, in a nut shell:
I live in NY (where the majority of the invites would be going), and my mom lives across the country. I gave her the task of getting the invitations and printing/sending them. I approved the design and had faith that she would print them professionally (like she said she would). Well, a week or two later she texts me a picture of a DIFFERENT design that already has our info printed on it. I looked at it quickly as I was extremely busy at the time and thought, "It's pretty". When I finally saw the finished product (after ALL OF THEM were delivered), I thought....omg. It's BEDAZZLED!!! BEDAZZLED!?!?!? She failed to mention that this DIY kit would entail putting on a strip of "crystals", (her term). They are cheap looking rhinestones. Ok....they are so not in a straight line. Also, her printing wasn't centered perfectly. I am so mad typing this right now I could scream. I called her and yelled at her so bad that we didn't speak for 3 days. Not only did she embarrass me with the invites, she's been "making" all kinds of other things for the wedding, which is 11/2/13. I won't even go into that right now....her arts and crafts.
My question is this....
Since the invites already went out, the damage is done. That still doesn't take away from the fact that this is a CLASSY and ELEGANT wedding. She thinks they look fabulous. I was contemplating posting a pic. I think I will. Anyway, I am so mad my head is spinning. What can I do to rectify this? Not with her, we are fine now (so she thinks). I'll be mad for a while. I guess I'm wondering, since I didn't send a save the date thing (we started planning everything in early July of this year), can I send those now? Is there a way to do it that won't seem silly? I want our first impressions to be a lot better than this.
PLEASE HELP!!!!!!
I live in NY (where the majority of the invites would be going), and my mom lives across the country. I gave her the task of getting the invitations and printing/sending them. I approved the design and had faith that she would print them professionally (like she said she would). Well, a week or two later she texts me a picture of a DIFFERENT design that already has our info printed on it. I looked at it quickly as I was extremely busy at the time and thought, "It's pretty". When I finally saw the finished product (after ALL OF THEM were delivered), I thought....omg. It's BEDAZZLED!!! BEDAZZLED!?!?!? She failed to mention that this DIY kit would entail putting on a strip of "crystals", (her term). They are cheap looking rhinestones. Ok....they are so not in a straight line. Also, her printing wasn't centered perfectly. I am so mad typing this right now I could scream. I called her and yelled at her so bad that we didn't speak for 3 days. Not only did she embarrass me with the invites, she's been "making" all kinds of other things for the wedding, which is 11/2/13. I won't even go into that right now....her arts and crafts.
My question is this....
Since the invites already went out, the damage is done. That still doesn't take away from the fact that this is a CLASSY and ELEGANT wedding. She thinks they look fabulous. I was contemplating posting a pic. I think I will. Anyway, I am so mad my head is spinning. What can I do to rectify this? Not with her, we are fine now (so she thinks). I'll be mad for a while. I guess I'm wondering, since I didn't send a save the date thing (we started planning everything in early July of this year), can I send those now? Is there a way to do it that won't seem silly? I want our first impressions to be a lot better than this.
PLEASE HELP!!!!!!
Re: NEED OPINIONS PLEASE! I'm fuming about invitations!
Nope, no need for save the dates. I know it is very frustrating now, but one day you will look back and laugh.
Trust me, people will remember the wedding, not the invites.
Your mother is helping you for your wedding. Nothing is perfect unless you pay for it to be that way. She is doing these by hand. STFU. I bet she also paid for them. Again, STFU.
A wedding is about marriage. It doesn't matter about anything else except you are marrying a good guy. All the rest is BS. I don't keep invitations to things unless it's mine or my kids. No one cares but YOU. So calm the fuck down.
If I was your mother, I'd stop doing anything for you including paying for your wedding. It's a day, the rest of your life with your groom is the actual point of getting married. It's not, OMG my mom RUINED my Klassy, Elegant wedding with bedazzled invites!! RAGE. KILL. HURT. Get it together an act classy, then your wedding will be.
If you knew your mom was into "arts and crafts," which I assume translates into "not fancy or high brow enough for NY," why did you ask her for her help in the first place?
Also, I didn't read anything in this post about you providing some design direction for her to follow when doing these invites. Did you set parameters? Give color or font ideas? Provide a list of things NOT to include (ex: rhinestones)? If you didn't and if you left it totally up to her to choose, then the fault is yours. Sorry.
Also, did you post this on TK and get accused of being a Bridezilla? So, then you came to TN expecting a different response?
Echoing PPs, no one cares about the invite. What they will remember will be the music and food.
Tula and Ian had their heart set on one thing...and her parents picked out quite another.
I would let this go, if I were you.
What matters:
That your guests get the info and they show up at the right place at the right time. Doesn't matter *who* did the invitations. It'll turn out okay.
No one gives nearly as much of a shit about your wedding as you. No one cares if your invitations are carved in italian marble or glue gunned pipe cleaners.
Let this go and apologize to your mom for being ridiculous. You're getting married, not producing the Oscar telecast.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
There is a saying "if you want something done right, do it yourself".
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LMAO
Go back to the Knot and get your hair pats, Bridzilla. You are a Bridezilla start owning it.
Uhmmm did you actually read what you first posted? Go back and read it and tell us how you didn't come across like a brat.
Women with an ounce of compassion, grace, character and CLASS don't " yell so bad that they didn't talk for 3 days" ( your own words ) over invitations. That simply doesn't happen. A true lady would have shrugged it off and taken it as a lesson learned.
Let this go, as I said ---- it isn't any big deal.
You told us you threw a fit about bedazzling. Literally. That is what you told us. What are we supposed to say?
Also, fuckety fuck fuck fuck, just because cursing is still the only thing I like about the new format.
You are right. we really should all apologize. You're definitely not a bridezilla.
Ok....they are so not in a straight line. Also, her printing wasn't centered perfectly. I am so mad typing this right now I could scream. I called her and yelled at her so bad that we didn't speak for 3 days. Not only did she embarrass me with the invites,
Since the invites already went out, the damage is done. That still doesn't take away from the fact that this is a CLASSY and ELEGANT wedding.
I am so mad my head is spinning. What can I do to rectify this? Not with her, we are fine now (so she thinks). I'll be mad for a while.
DEFINITELY not bridezilla.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
When you have someone do a favor for you, don't get so upset of it doesn't go exactly as planned. My MIL threw us a second reception due to so many out of staters who couldn't drive 7 hours to my home state. I asked her if she could order me thank you cards to match her invites. She botched the order, totally misunderstood what I wanted. It wasn't on purpose. I sucked it up and USED them. I didn't want to hurt her feelings.