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The WORST...

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What's the WORST thing that your MIL has ever said to you!?


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Re: The WORST...

  • Why do we have to perpetuate the idea that MILs are evil people? 
  • Yeah, I don't think my MIL has ever said one mean thing to me. Maybe that she asked me if I ever used to play in fire hydrant water during the summers cause I grew up in NYC. LOL!  But I think that's just cause she's from the suburbs and that's what NYC kids do on TV. Otherwise she's a sweetheart and I love my MIL. :)
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  • Nothing.  My MIL is really nice.
  • I agree with the others, my MIL is literally the sweetest person I have ever met.
  • I love my MIL...  She is awesome!!!!  I couldn't have asked for a better MIL.  All this talka bout inlaws and problems, I am blessed...

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  • Me ex's mother was a real peach, she NEVER had ANYTHING kind to say to me.  I really am unable to single out any one thing that stood out.  Hmm...during the wedding, she told one of my guests that she looked like a hooker (and she didn't), she ragged on my guests about how they dressed and how many gifts they brought, and she carried a picture of another woman around with her and showed it to everyone, lamenting that she had truly wished her son had married this other woman instead.  One of the most insane things this woman ever said to me was, "You have to call me Mother from now on, because I am now your Mother.  You don't have your mother anymore, she no longer exists, not since you married my son."  Can we say, psychotic?

  • Oh, and just to add to that, my new husband's mother is an absolute doll :) I am truly lucky to have her (and my current husband) in my life!

     

  • I have IBS so I eat gluten and lactose free to manage my symptoms, I developed it in my early 20s. When my husband and I were dating my mother in law informed me that I had food allergies because my parents didn't feed me right as a kid. My mother is a farmer's daughter, we ate 3 balanced meals a day with plenty of fruits and vegetable. I believe it was the stress of college that triggered the IBS. The funny thing is my mother in law and sister in law are obese, they eat crap, my mother in law only cooks on holidays, they eat all the time. My mother in law also told me that I am too thin to have children. I am 5' 5" 130-135lbs, I am a perfectly normal weight, the terrible thing is that my mother in law made such a big deal that I wouldn't be able to have children to husband and his family citing it as a reason why we shouldn't get married, and now her own daughter my sister in law cannot have children.
  • My mother in law has never said an unkind thing to me. We have a wonderful relationship.
  • My MIL prefers to say mean things about me to my DH. Lovely! Although she did once tell me that it was my fault that my son has eczema because I breastfed him.
  • My MIL is kind, supportive and wonderful... it's my SIL who's the peach, lol.  
  • doglove said:
    Why do we have to perpetuate the idea that MILs are evil people? 
    I actually love my dh's entire family, and mine too for that matter. So sorry, no juicy tidbits to share.

    June 29, 2013

  • Me ex's mother was a real peach, she NEVER had ANYTHING kind to say to me.  I really am unable to single out any one thing that stood out.  Hmm...during the wedding, she told one of my guests that she looked like a hooker (and she didn't), she ragged on my guests about how they dressed and how many gifts they brought, and she carried a picture of another woman around with her and showed it to everyone, lamenting that she had truly wished her son had married this other woman instead.  One of the most insane things this woman ever said to me was, "You have to call me Mother from now on, because I am now your Mother.  You don't have your mother anymore, she no longer exists, not since you married my son."  Can we say, psychotic?

    Oh my gosh... I feel like this woman is my boyfriend's mother. I've never met her in person because she lives in another state and my BF keeps his distance for an apparently very valid reason.  She's already said mean things about me to his voicemail, she blocked me on FB (after asking her to please not repost my pictures, etc with snarky comments. though i asked her as sweetly as i could, she seemed ok with it, and even told me how sorry she was it came across that way, then bashed me to my BF about it). 

    A part of me is terrified that if we ever decide to get married, it will be exactly like what you describe!!
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  • My MIL has no filter and tends to just say dumb things, not hurtful things. Before our wedding, all the ladies got ready at my parents house, where my mother prepared and served some delicious breakfast pastries. Right before I walked down the aisle, my MIL approached my mom and informed her that her cooking gave her diarrhea. My mom was so disgusted and insulted!
  • See i believe gossiping is good but it shouldn't be done to the extent of spoiling the name. I believe every individual person cannot be alike, that is why every person has got their own thinking capability.But spoiling MIL name unnecessarily just for the sake of having fun, is not at all right things. MIL are elder to us & they deserve our love & respect. 
  • See i believe gossiping is good but it shouldn't be done to the extent of spoiling the name. I believe every individual person cannot be alike, that is why every person has got their own thinking capability.But spoiling MIL name unnecessarily just for the sake of having fun, is not at all right things. MIL are elder to us & they deserve our love & respect. 

    Try telling that to the ladies who have had issues (past & present) with their MIL. Sorry, but respect is a 2 way street, and that applies to MILs. You don't get a free pass to be rude and hurtful just because you are elder and certainly not because you are a MIL. If my MIL disrespects me, why on earth would I accept that? Ultimately the H is responsible for dealing with his mother, but I also think any reasonable person has the right to defend themselves when this happens.

  • I went out with my ex-bf for two years and his mother was awful to deal with. He lived at home at the time and was a real mama's boy, so unfortunately I had to deal with her a lot. I still to this day think he broke up with me because of her influence. She was a master of the "backhanded" compliment..."Oh! What a pretty dress! It would look great if it weren't a little too tight," lol.

    I was coming over for Thanksgiving dinner and asked her 2-3 weeks ahead of time what dish(es) I could bring.  I also asked what I could help with when I arrived that day. She insisted nothing both times...but then of course complained almost constantly (before and after) about how much work Thanksgiving dinner was. My b/f said she liked Riesling wines, so I brought a bottle of that for her.  Her reaction? A look of horror as she scornfully said, "Why did you bring this? This isn't the wine I drink!"  Well, pardon me! I didn't mean it to replace your usual BOX OF ROSE' that you had planned the meal around.

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