Do you 'feel' married?

Belle0720 · August 2013

DH and I have talked about how we don't feel any different from before we got married. We're just as happy together and in love than before the wedding and we love calling each other husband and wife. But aside from that nothing has changed, I guess I'm not sure what I thought would change though?lol

I'll add that right now we are living at my mom's house until we can move into our new house next month. I moved back home almost 5 years ago after I graduated college and he started staying with us back in January when he got a new job in my hometown (a 5 minute commute made a lot more sense than an hour commute). So maybe once we move into our own house it'll start feeling real to us?

Has there been any 'Aha!' moment for you and your DH?

lifeonthehill · August 2013

We don't feel any different. We call each other Husband and Wife as well but its not like it feels like anything. We are still living in our same crappy apartment and haven't been able to use any of our wedding gifts yet which doesn't help.

We hope getting into our new apartment next week and settling back into a steady routine this fall will help. I honestly don't think I will feel married until I have a child to complete that family.

Belle0720 · August 2013

@alyssaames yeah that's another thing I was thinking, once we have a baby I'm sure it'll get real, real quickly lol

avolker1 · August 2013

Yeah feels about the same! I'm not used to saying I have a husband though. Yesterday I went to my HR department to add H to my benefits and it was really the first time I used "my husband" in a sentence. We've also lived together for 4 years already so nothing's changed. We are so not ready for a baby.

Belle0720 · August 2013

@avolker1 yeah I think it's definitely going to take a while to get used to saying 'husband'. I accidentally called him my fiance yesterday when I was talking to my boss!

kls33145 · August 2013

It totally feels the same right now! We've been living together for about 5 years so I was expecting it to be the same, with an expensive day in between, haha.

I think it'll really hit me when I go back to work and my students are calling me by me new last name....I probably won't respond to it at first!

CKSillyPants · August 2013

DH was really worried about everything being different after we got married because he would have special husband duties that he had to do. Nothing has changed. Which is fine because everything was working wonderfully before we got married.

shilotony2012 · August 2013

Nope, no change. I will say though that I feel different than I did with my other two marriages. I dont feel like running, or sad, or stuck. I actually feel happily married!! Kinda shocked me to be honest, lol.

eas1223 · August 2013

I didn't think it would feel different, but it does. I can't put it into words, but it feels so much more secure. We have a 3 year old together, so we've been living together as a couple for a while now and the day-to-day stuff hasn't changed a bit. But something feels different. Different, but better.

emmyroo · August 2013

Doesn't feel too different for me either because we had been living together for about 6 months before. We have a "roommate" staying with us for a month or 2 right now, which makes things tough, especially when we want to have alone time. I do love calling him my husband, though, and tend to do so whenever I can. Other than that, not too much different. It's more different with my in-laws because they're REAL family now. We're both really close with his cousins and it's lots of fun to say "well, you're my cousin now, so..." whenever we hang out.

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