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VENT: BBQ Blindside (PR-not me)

I need a vent sesh. 

I went to a BBQ last night for a friend.  At this BBQ I found out that 3 girls I know are pregnant. 2 weren't even trying. And 1 didn't ever want to get pregnant again and "isn't really excited at all". 

OMFG.... are they effing serious!?!?!?!?!?!  GIVE ME A EFFING BREAK!!!!!!!!!

I am sooo sick of these stupid inconsiderate Fvcks and their fertility just throwing it in my face about their "surprise pregnancies" and "un-excitement". 

They have absolutely no idea how gutwrenching it was for me to sit there and listen and complain about getting fat and morning sickness (and that ONE saying she just can't get excited about her pregnancy yet). They all three know that we've been trying for a while.  They have no idea that there are soooooo many women out there who are struggling with infertility and have the hunger with every cell of their being to be pregnant. To see those two beautiful pink lines on a pregnancy test, to hear a heartbeat, to hang pictures of ultra sounds on their fridge, to feel that first kick! UGH! I would not mind having morning sickness if it meant i was finally carrying a baby. 

I know I have not been trying as long as many of you ladies (a little over a year and a half). And I know how much I hurt right now. I can't even begin to imagine how long you some of you have tried and how much it must hurt.  

But I am Bitter. I'm angry. I'm pizzed. 

I just wanted to cry. I am NOT going to a babyshower today (for another co-worker).  I can't. I don't have the heart. I don't have the guts. I will not put myself through that today.  

Today I am going to be selfish. I am going to eat a hot dog. I'm going to do back to back Yoga sessions and put some of this negative energy on the mat. I'm going to let myself cry at Yoga. Then I'm going to sit on the couch and love on my husband and my dog and probably cry some more. 
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TTC for 18 months. IUI #1 BFP= EDD 5/23/14. Progesterone Suppositories and Levothyroxine started.  First U/S 9/27

Re: VENT: BBQ Blindside (PR-not me)

  • ((Hugs)) it's very unfair and we need to vent our feelings over that however we can. I hope yoga helps you feel better. I know puppy snuggles are always comforting.
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    TTC since July 2012
    BFP #1: 11/9/13; spontaneous m/c at 6w2d, 11/25/13
    BFP #2: 12/31/13. B/w 12/31: betas >1000, progesterone 13.6; B/w 1/2: betas 3065, progesterone 10.2
    B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6
    Progesterone suppositories started 1/2. Please stick, baby!!
    Fiona Elise born 9/9/14 - welcome beautiful girl!
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  • I'm so sorry you had to go through that. It's not fair.

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    "You know you're in love when you don't want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams." - Dr. Seuss

    TTC #1 August 2014. BFP 9/26! EDD 6/9/15
    Baby A born 6/17/2015
  • Sorry you had to go through that. I can't believe that someone can be "un-excited" about expecting a child!!
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  • I'm so sorry that you had to go through all that. ((Hugs))

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    TTC #1 since July 2012

    Cycles 1-9: BFN
    Cycle 10: Surprise BFP on 10/17/2013!
    EDD: June 25, 2014
    Baby Girl born via induction June 26, 2014

    My TTC Journey Blog

  • Ugh. That blows. I'm glad you vented to us. I know it always helps me.

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    Cycles 1-14 (Natural) all BFN
                                  Starting IUI#1 procedures Nov '13
                          IUI Cxl'd due to surprise natural BFP 11/1/13
            Calvin born on June 19th, 2014 via emergency c-section at 3lbs7oz
         
  • Oh hon, I'm so sorry  :(  I admire you for going to back to back yoga classes; I think that is a wonderful way for you to get some of this out.  You are not being selfish in the least by not going to the shower; you've got to take care of you first and most importantly!  I'm here for you any time you need to vent/cry/talk, whatever you need, I'm here.
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    TTC since March 2012 w/irregular and anovulatory cycles.  
    Moved to an RE October 2013  HSG- All clear , S/A- Normal , Bloodwork -Normal
    Uterine polyp found-  Hysteroscopy and D&C 12/6/13  DX w/complex endometrial hyperplasia
    Endometrial Biopsy 3/21/14 - Hyperplasia still present  Endometrial Biopsy #2 6/24/14 - All clear!
    IUI #1  w/stims and trigger - Started stims 7/7/14 - IUI 7/24/14 = BFP 8/7/14
    Beta #1 8/8 - 47  Beta#2 -137  Beta#3 - 96 Beta#4 -287 Beta#5 -519 Beta#6 121 = early miscarriage 5w4d
    Nestie Besties with Nfp147 
  • So sorry to hear everything!  Feel free to vent away.  I know I even have days where I have to stay away from fb just because too many people are announcing pregnancies or posting that they just gave birth.  Hugs!  Let it all go with your yoga!
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  • I'm sorry J. :( be good to yourself the rest of the weekend.
  • **Hugs**  Thinking of you!

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     I believe in pink. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing. Kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day AND I believe in miracles. -Audrey Hepburn
  • I give you a lot of credit for not being snarky because I'm not sure I would have kept my mouth shut. I'm sorry you were blindsided and they weren't sensitive. They should know better.
    Yoga is awesome. I hope you feel better!
    TTC #1 since Feb. '12. dx: "unexplained" IF
    After 2 shitty IVF cycles and 1 loss at 6+2 (EDD 11/7/14), DH and I are pursuing DIA.
    11/17/2014 - ACTIVE AND WAITING!
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    Pregnancy was never the end goal; being a mom was.
    I've been holding out on GP: I got drunk once and started a blog: Here it is (11/7 update)
    3T<3

  • ((Hugs)) big squishy ((hugs))
  • ((Hugs)) people suck.
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    TTC 24 months, IUI #3 BFP 6/4/14 Beta 6/5 58, 6/9 508, 6/11 1227 TWINS! EDD 2/15/15
    With heavy hearts, we said goodbye to our precious angels on 8/12 at 13 weeks 2 days.
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    IVF #1 Lup/Brav/Meno, ER 11/28 10R/10F, ET "Rudolph" 4AA embryo 12/3, 7 frosties.
    BFP! Betas: 12/12 225, 12/15 706, 12/17 1512. EDD 8.21.15
    12/29 hb 120. 1/5 perfect, GRAD DAY! 1/15 perfect at OB. NT 2/6 PERFECT, HB 158!

    Baby Girl born 8.9.15 at 38.2 due to IUGR 4lb7.8oz 17" 
    Our princess is being watched over by her older siblings every day <3
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  • How inconsiderate of them to get pregnant and have the nerve to share the news. The best revenge is to hold your head high and be happy for them. That will show them.
  • ((hugs))
    Congrats to my TTC buddy Madeline! Cheering for all the strong 3T ladies! 

    TTC since March 2012; DX: PCOS 4/2013 
    BFP 7/6/2013; EDD 3/6/2014 
    Diagnosed with Pre-E: 2/15/201
    Emergency induction: 2/16/2014
    Baby E born: 2/16/2014 at 12:56pm. 5lb 15oz



  • MH1006 said:
    How inconsiderate of them to get pregnant and have the nerve to share the news. The best revenge is to hold your head high and be happy for them. That will show them.
    If you hate this board and all of the women here, why do you keep posting? No one cares.
  • MH1006 said:

    How inconsiderate of them to get pregnant and have the nerve to share the news. The best revenge is to hold your head high and be happy for them. That will show them.

    Seriously? You come here to bitch about all the drama a few days ago, how everyone is so mean...and here you are, trying to stir up drama. Go away!

    Spending $20,000 or more on trying to have a baby, going through multiple losses...only to have people complain about easily accidentally getting pregnant? It's hard. These ladies are allowed to come here and vent about such things. It's ok. And you don't have any right to tell them how they should feel.

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    TTC since March 2012. 

  • MH1006 said:

    How inconsiderate of them to get pregnant and have the nerve to share the news. The best revenge is to hold your head high and be happy for them. That will show them.

    Wait. I thought you didn't like us and were leaving?

    Or did you mean you were only leaving until you could post to prove how you are right and we are mean?

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    Baby Boy born 5.3.15


  • I'm so sorry you were put into this situation.  I hope you enjoyed your hot dog and yoga.

    TTC since 1/13  DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)
    Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
    1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system. 
    Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
    Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340  Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
    Riley Elaine born 2/16/15

    TTC 2.0   6/15 
    Chemical Pregnancy 9/15 
    Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
    BFP 9/16  EDD 6/3/17
    Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
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  • I am so sorry you had to deal with this :-(  I hope the yoga and hot dog helped!
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    TTC since June 2011 dx: PCOS
    Clomid+IUI: Cancelled b/c didn't respond (June 2012)
    Femara+Trigger+IUI #1: BFN :-( (July 2013)
    Natural Cycle (8/7/13)- BFP!  Beta #1 (9/10/13): 509 Progesterone: 18.64  Beta #2 (9/12/13): 1118
    Baby N born 5/9/14
  • I'm doing better today. Thanks for support ladies. I'm glad I have you all to vent to and you would understand.
    It still sucks that were not sensitive.  They all know that we have been trying for a long time. So i would have appreciated a little more consideration. I think the thing that put me over the edge was the one who was like "eh, maybe I'll get excited later, right now not so much". I wanted to kick her in the face. 
    Its times like that I wish I was clever enough to say something. 
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    TTC for 18 months. IUI #1 BFP= EDD 5/23/14. Progesterone Suppositories and Levothyroxine started.  First U/S 9/27

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