Child spacing

BackseatDriver · August 2013

What would be your ideal space between your first and second child? Why?

I'm really torn between wanting the baby period behind me and worried about being overwhelmed if they are too close in age. I think I'm leaning towards TTC again next summer though.

ream02 · August 2013

DS will be 2 when this one is born provided everything goes well. He's already at a busy stage, so I'm expecting major challenges, but at my age, I wouldn't of wanted to wait much longer. If I were younger, I might of wanted to wait until he was 2 1/2 to try, but I don't think I'd want my lil ones to be much more than 3 to 3 1/2 years apart. Just my feelings.

Kaiene · August 2013

We were aiming for about 2 years and DS will be 21 months when this one is born.

I was ready when he was about a year to start TTC again. I know we'll have our hands full but I think we can manage.

PinkinProvence · August 2013

Well, we won't be having anymore after the twins, but my plan always was 2 years apart. That is what me, my sister and my brother were, and I thought it was/is great. My mom always said that if you have 1 in diapers you might as well have 2. My SIL waited 4 1/2 years and I have to say my 1st niece was not having it and at 9 1/2 and 5, they don't have the same close relationship my sister and I did growing up. They are not interested in the same things and there is still an element of jealousy.

ream02 · August 2013

PinkinProvence said:

Well, we won't be having anymore after the twins, but my plan always was 2 years apart. That is what me, my sister and my brother were, and I thought it was/is great. My mom always said that if you have 1 in diapers you might as well have 2. My SIL waited 4 1/2 years and I have to say my 1st niece was not having it and at 9 1/2 and 5, they don't have the same close relationship my sister and I did growing up. They are not interested in the same things and there is still an element of jealousy.

I agree with this. I have a 11 yr old and while she is a wonderful big sister. She can only handle so much play time with baby. I'm looking forward to having 2 two years apart.

iwalktheline · August 2013

I think 3 years would be ideal. That way, baby 1 is out of diapers. Plus, I feel like there is less rivalry than siblings closer in age

AshleyMatt1215 · August 2013

If we decide to have another one I'd like this one to be at least 2. I'd really prefer him to be potty trained too!

MRads · August 2013

My sisters are 14 months apart and Im 26 months younger than the middle one. That's way too close, in my opinion. I don't know if I want anymore, honestly. But if I do, I want B to be out of daycare, which will be 3 or 4 years. Daycare for two makes me want to cry.

MadeOfAwesome · August 2013

We've said that we would consider TTC when B was one, but I'm definitely rethinking that now

skreedrake · August 2013

My ideal space between kids is 2 years. But I know how unpredictable TTC can be, so who knows. I think when this baby is about a year or a year and a half old, we will start talking about TTC#2. But I am tired of TTCing and am so happy that I am (hopefully) done for a while. LOL

ETA: Oh, I also don't want to be TTCing much past 35 (though, obviously, if I was older and we wanted more, we'd consider it). I don't know why, but I just can't imagine wanting/having babies in my late thirties. So that makes our timetable a little quicker than we might otherwise do it, as I'll be just turning 32 when this baby comes.

cinderin · August 2013

I think 3 years is great, but at this point we can't really afford two in daycare, so it is going to have to be more like 4 or 5 years apart if we decide to have another one.

BackseatDriver · August 2013

MadeOfAwesome said:
We've said that we would consider TTC when B was one, but I'm definitely rethinking that now

Rethinking sooner or later?

MadeOfAwesome · August 2013

BackseatDriver said:

MadeOfAwesome said:
We've said that we would consider TTC when B was one, but I'm definitely rethinking that now

Rethinking sooner or later?

Later, but I don't know.... I keep getting ute twitches when I see B with other kids. I miss my teeny tiny baby.

pennstated912 · August 2013

We will start trying again when LO is around 3yo. We are looking to have them 4 years apart (no one is in college at the same time, lol).

wiggyslilsis · August 2013

This is a question DH and I have discussed many times. Originally DH wanted 2-3 years between and I wanted 3-4 years. Then we had Ava Nichol and I had crazy baby fever and a fear of my endometriosis messing with TTC so we were going to start TTC after she was a year. Well we got to a year and I had surgery for my endo. We both realized we weren't ready for another one yet. Now after a little time we are both thinking that we want maybe 4 to 5 years between them. My older brother is five years older than me and my younger brother is 6 years younger and we all have wonderful relationships so we aren't concerne about that. Part of me thinks we may be one and done but we will see.

botanicalbliss · August 2013

At least 2 years. I'm fine with 3 or more years. I don't want two babies at once. I can barely handle the one I have. It would be nice for them to be close in age so they can be buds, but I also like the idea of G being a little older and taking on the big brother roll. We won't start trying again until he's at least 2.

JLyn821 · August 2013

After it taking 22 months for this one, the plan is to chart to avoid for about 6 months and then see what happens for 6 months. After that we'll try for real. We like the idea of 2 years apart, but less is fine.

BackseatDriver · August 2013

botanicalbliss said:

I don't want two babies at once. I can barely handle the one I have.

Seriously! I really like the idea of them being 2 years apart, but I don't want to interfere with BF and I would like to pump until he is 18-24m. Also things like hiking would also become much more difficult since I have to baby-wear. Lots of things to consider.

TinyTRex321 · August 2013

We are thinking of trying again when E is a year or a little older. I would love them to be 2 years apart but we will see what happens. I haven't even had a PP period yet but I assume I would get it by the time he's a year? I will still hopefully be bfing but by then he should be eating a lot more food.

bobcee · August 2013

DH and his brothers as well as me and my brothers are all 2-3 yrs apart and I always liked that. We were close but not too close in age IMO.

We started TTC DS to ensure they'd be at least two years apart. Turns out DD and DS are 2 yrs 5 mo apart.

It's great because DD is at an age where she understands and wants and can help out somewhat and feel involved. If she were younger I think there might be more of an attachment / abandonment issue. Plus this way she was out of diapers already (I so didn't want to be changing and paying for two in diapers at the same time) and we were able to reuse the nursery/crib/baby items we already had without having to buy anything else.

Also I feel if they are too far apart then the first gets so used to being an only child that there can be some resentment when you bring a new baby into the house and they all of a sudden aren't getting all the attention. Plus they have less in common and are less likely to want to play together growing up.

bobcee · August 2013

TinyTRex321 said:
We are thinking of trying again when E is a year or a little older. I would love them to be 2 years apart but we will see what happens. I haven't even had a PP period yet but I assume I would get it by the time he's a year? I will still hopefully be bfing but by then he should be eating a lot more food.

I actually didn't get my first pp period with DD until I fully weaned her at 15 months...

Shazzie116 · August 2013

My siblings and I are ~3 years apart. DH is 4 years from his sister. I would rather have them closer, between 2-3 years. I'm not sure if we'll try for a 3rd, so I'm comfortable with the idea of TTC again next spring. Lil will be at least 2 by the time we have another.

Smiley-1980 · August 2013

We have 4 frozen embryos left and we originally said we would not prevent a natural pregnancy after 6 months but I've changed my mind. 1 baby is a LOT of work so I don't see me even thinking of another one until she is over a year.

waterfall213 · August 2013

Our ideal spacing is 2.5 to 3 years apart. We plan to TTC #2 starting in January.

wiggyslilsis · August 2013

@waterfall213 Oh I am so excited

January isn't that far away! Hope your TTC journey is short and sweet!

pistolpackinmomma · August 2013

We're hoping for 2u2

Venti29 · August 2013

I think I want one more ideally in two years. I won't be going on clomid ever again, so if it happens it does. If not my family will be a family of four.
I do see one more, but we will see.

We had ST without protection a few times...playing with fire.

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