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Being a Bridesmaid after being a Bride
This weekend, I'm a bridesmaid for the first time since I got married. Has anyone else had the honor of being a bridesmaid since their own wedding? Has your expectations of the bride changed since your own wedding?
I talked to the bride at her bachelorette party about 3 weeks ago. I asked her when pictures would be so I could schedule my hair appointment, or if she wanted all of us to get together beforehand for breakfast or whatever. She said that she didn't know and would let us all know her plan when she did. I just said ok and waited to hear back. Finally a week before her wedding I finally gave her a call and ask about morning of. She gave me the time and that we are meeting at the ceremony venue for pictures. But also that she booked transportation from the ceremony to the hall (hotel) for the wedding party, and that we can't leave cars at the ceremony hall and to plan ahead.
Then the bride went on about how her brother, a GM, didn't schedule his morning off and would be an hour late for pictures and that people from his family would be late too for the same/similiar reasons. She was mad that they didn't automatically schedule the whole day off for her wedding. I bit my tongue but thought, "How are people supposed to know if you don't tell them?" I would never say something like that to a bride a week before her wedding, unless I wanted to be screamed at.
I'm sharing a hotel room with another BM, and I asked her what her plan is for her car. To see if we could carpool and have her BF and DH drop us off. She didn't know anything about the transporation from the ceremony, and not being able to leave a car and was annoyed about it.
I don't expect other brides to be as ridiculous and type A as I was. I guess I do have an expectation of knowing the bride's expectation of me the day/morning of more than a week in advance though. I couldn't book my hair girl.. 
**Also when did updos get so flippin expensive?! What is the average in your area?
Re: Being a Bridesmaid after being a Bride
I am not in the wedding but DH is in a wedding in November. He can't get anything from the groom, (his brother) about the tux rental or time schedule. He kept asking about hotel info and got nothing until we got the STD about a month ago.
I guess after getting married, I have higher expectation. I am sure I did some things that annoyed other people too. lol
As for the updo, I think they are about $75-90 around here. Brides are at least $150.
I've been in so many weddings before my own that the bride didn't take into account transportation of the wedding like just like this. Example - we're all going in the limo from bride's house to church (hour away) , but find your own way to reception and home (I did not get +1 like everyone else, nor were my parents invited). REALLY?! I walked to the reception, which wasn't too bad, got a ride on the shuttle that was an hour later than the reception ended, and had to get my parents to pick me up at the hotel the next day.
That being said, I made it priority to make sure our bridal party had transportation for the whole day. They are my favorite people, why would i do the above to them. I should add I was MOH in the wedding above, and am no longer friends with the bride 4 years later...
Updos are about $60 bm, $100 bride here.
OMG I would lose it on my friend if she stranded me an hour away without warning!! I also made sure my wedding party had transportation the whole day. I don't expect, being in a wedding that my transportation is taken care of, but I do expect a heads up if there is only partial transportation.
Updos around here are $65-85 and bride is usually the same, but some are starting to charge more.
@seipel12 - I mean she told me, but there wasn't a good solution for me besides having my parents pick me up at midnight an hour and a half away... The other BMs ended up on the shuttle too, since them and them and their SOs drank too much, so we took turns drinking at the tiki place until it came.
I didn't give the BMs transportation just talked with them on what would be best. We didn't have a limo or anything, since our venue was ceremony and reception. But I make sure the logistics was ironed out MONTHS before the wedding.
And yes updos are really expensive. Silly expensive.