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wiggyslilsis · August 2013

Since it is so slow today I figured maybe we could spice it up with an unpopular opinions post! Anybody got anything?

saralynn7 · August 2013

I hate chocolate chip muffins, pancakes, and waffles. Chocolate chips have no place in breakfast food. Chocolate chip desserts are fine.

wiggyslilsis · August 2013

I don't have any interest in my daughter having a "little boyfriend". I know people think it is super cute but to me I don't see the difference at this age if her friends are boys or girls. My 5 year old nephew has a friend, a neighbor, who happens to be a girl. His momreally pushes this whole Aw your little girlfriend thing like encouraging them to hold hands and kisses when they say goodbye.

I don't know, maybe I am thinking too much into it but I think it is kind of telling them that they can only be friends with the opposite sex if they are boyfriend or girlfriend and I feel like it perpetuates gender stereotypes and certainly doesn't account for if any of the children are/will be gay.

Anyway if any of your kids have little gfs or bfs I am not judging...it just isn't for me and yes I am judging my SIL but that isn't anything new.

AshleyMatt1215 · August 2013

I really can't stand how big of a deal my SIL's and my MIL make out of our nieces doing things that little kids do. Their constant Facebook statuses and pictures irritate me.

I feel like I'm a bad aunt for this.

wiggyslilsis · August 2013

@saralynn7 I think almost all desserts can replace breakfast foods

like say I have a cupcake or a brownie...I will totally eat it for breakfast! I don't like chocolate chip pancakes though...the chips get burnt and it is just gross.

saisongbird · August 2013

Oh, I love chocolate chip pancakes. If your chocolate chips are getting burned then you just haven't found someone who knows how to make them...drool.

bridget0117 · August 2013

I don't think its right for an 8 year old to have a cell phone.

I babysat and worked hard to save for my first cellphone and finally bought it when I was like in 8th grade and now moms go and buy kids cellphones at such a young age I don't think its right.

ream02 · August 2013

wiggyslilsisbridget0117 posts 110%!

I also think that starting kids staying the night at "friends" houses too young drives me nuts. There will be plenty of time for that when they are teenagers. My DD's dad started this with her when she was like 6 with friends from sports or people that he knows and she just doesn't understand why I don't think it's ok for her to spend the nights with friends whenever she wants. Especially if I don't know the parents. She wanted to stay the night at the neighbor's the other day and she's only met the girl twice. Luckily later after she was done pouting she told me she understood. Darn pre-teens!

AshleyMatt1215 · August 2013

I didn't have my own phone until I was 16 and I had to share it with my mom. I drives me crazy when I see young kids with their own oboes or when I see families out to dinner and everyone is on a cellphone instead of talking

ream02 · August 2013

AshleyMatt1215 said:

I didn't have my own phone until I was 16 and I had to share it with my mom. I drives me crazy when I see young kids with their own oboes or when I see families out to dinner and everyone is on a cellphone instead of talking

This really makes me old. There weren't even regular cell phones when I was 16. But there were Beepers.. and you'd have to pull over to a payphone to call back. Do they even still have payphones?!? lol

AshleyMatt1215 · August 2013

ream02 said:

AshleyMatt1215 said:

I didn't have my own phone until I was 16 and I had to share it with my mom. I drives me crazy when I see young kids with their own oboes or when I see families out to dinner and everyone is on a cellphone instead of talking

This really makes me old. There weren't even regular cell phones when I was 16. But there were Beepers.. and you'd have to pull over to a payphone to call back. Do they even still have payphones?!? lol

We have 1 pay phone in our general area, it's on a back road that has no cell phone service that runs through a state park!

bridget0117 · August 2013

AshleyMatt1215 said:

ream02 said:

AshleyMatt1215 said:

I didn't have my own phone until I was 16 and I had to share it with my mom. I drives me crazy when I see young kids with their own oboes or when I see families out to dinner and everyone is on a cellphone instead of talking

This really makes me old. There weren't even regular cell phones when I was 16. But there were Beepers.. and you'd have to pull over to a payphone to call back. Do they even still have payphones?!? lol

We have 1 pay phone in our general area, it's on a back road that has no cell phone service that runs through a state park!

Hahaha @ream02. My sister had her beeper but she also had to work to get it.

I also agree with you about spending the night. My mom never let me spend the night and now I get it. Maybe we get mad at the moment but now I get it and I thank her for that, I'm really glad that DH is strict and hopefully won't let LO sleep over at someones house without fully knowing the people!

I also can't stand seeing all these young girls dressed like s***s. Why would your mom let you out the house like out??

wiggyslilsis · August 2013

My mom let me stay the night at friend's houses in second grade. I parent very differently from my mom though and I know I wouldn't feel comfortable sending my young daughter to a home I had never been to with people I haven't met. I don't know what age will be appropriate to me yet but I know I will have anxiety about it!

I got my first cell phone when I started driving. My little brother got his younger (I think 13) because he was playing football and needed a way to call and say when he would need a ride. They used to have a group cell phone that was used but they stopped that program when the kids started getting their own phones. I think when she has a need for a cell phone will be when she gets one. My ten year old niece was going to get one because her mom and dad split so that when she went to her dad's she could cal and text mom whenever and on mom's dime not dad's. I think that makes sense.

Oh and we have one pay phone left in town and it is at the movie theater. It is scary because what if you don't have service, your phone dies, you forgot your phone or your phone breaks? What do you do in an emergency?

bridget0117 · August 2013

@wiggyslilsis, that is crazy about the pay phones. We have a pay phone in every gas station and well basically every corner.

Shazzie116 · August 2013

We had a phone in our car, but it was velcroed to the dashboard and the size of a regular phone. I got my first cell phone AFTER freshman year of college. I had a phone card at school. Before that, we had a payphone at my high school and at the library.

I had my first sleepover in 2nd grade I think. Probably around 8 years old. I had 2 best friends that I always played with an lived near and our parents all became friends. I am actually really excited for L to have sleepovers someday. I want to be the parents that the friends want to come over our house and hang out with us because we're cool and fun. haha

caseyandlizzie · August 2013

AshleyMatt1215 said:

AshleyMatt1215 said:

I didn't have my own phone until I was 16 and I had to share it with my mom. I drives me crazy when I see young kids with their own oboes or when I see families out to dinner and everyone is on a cellphone instead of talking

This really makes me old. There weren't even regular cell phones when I was 16. But there were Beepers.. and you'd have to pull over to a payphone to call back. Do they even still have payphones?!? lol
We have 1 pay phone in our general area, it's on a back road that has no cell phone service that runs through a state park!

Same here. I had a beeper in high school, and didn't get a cell phone until I was 19, maybe.

There are still quite a few pay phones here, but they are in really random places.

caseyandlizzie · August 2013

We also had a lot of sleepovers on a pretty regular basis growing up, so I don't really see any issue with my kid participating in them when they get older. I hope our kid is best friends with our friends kids, because I know they'd have so much fun hanging out with them.

wiggyslilsis · August 2013

I see a big sleepover as different than your kid just staying the night at their friend's house all the time. For my 6th birthday I had a sleepover with all my friends and that was super fun. I would be willing to host something like that but I might be hesitant to have her go to one depending on how well I know the other parents.

Venti29 · August 2013

I don't think being a SAHM is all that great.

wiggyslilsis · August 2013

@venti29 are you saying that like you would like to be able to go back to work or are you saying it like hey it is a lot of work and people really play that part down? Just curious!

Venti29 · August 2013

Well both. I miss my work, co workers, pay check, and getting up and going.
And people who think being a SAHM is easy are in for a shock. The first month I thought it was cake, but now it's so hard to get anything done. I tell DH that this IS harder physically and mentally than any job I've ever had.

I lose my cool with the babies and have to walk away for a second, so I know I wouldn't trust anyone else to care for them (right now), but I still miss parts of my old life.

ream02 · August 2013

@venti29 You are not alone! I had a hard emotional time leaving DS to come back to work. But I lost so much brain function and missed interacting with adults so much that coming back was a good thing. DH wants me to stay home 3 months with this one too and I'm dreading the mommy brain fog and PPD already.

ream02 · August 2013

Back to sleepovers. I had my fair share of them when I was older too. I am not totally against them. I just think until kids reach a certain age, unless its a group sleepover, birthday or something special, I'm not for them staying all over the place just whenever. Just my opinion is all.

wiggyslilsis · August 2013

@ream02 I totally got what you were saying. I see sleeping over as a special treat when young. I feel very strongly about family time and routines so I think that is part of what makes me hesitant and the other part is being a little over protective

@venti29 I love being a SAHM and I have little desire to go back to work but that doesn't mean that I don't get totally overwhelmed. I like being a sahm now more that she is a toddler and learning all sorts of things. I love being the one to teach her and the one watching her learn. I am going back to school which is helping me build some of that brain power back. I have no friends that I call or see regularly so that hurts me a lot. I have joined a play date group and there is one little girl Ava Nichol's age but the rest of the kids are older but I think that is fine. We both need social and this is the only way I have found to make that happen. How do you make friends as an adult? I am also trying to take the pressure off myself...I don't have to be perfect. That is a hard concept to wrap my head around.

TudorRose11 · August 2013

I feel a little weird about sleeping over too. Birthday group sleepovers were super fun and I will be fine with that but just staying the night for no reason will have to wait. The first time I saw a man's genitalia was spending the night at a friends house for no reason. The parents thought we were asleep and I got up for a drink of water and her parents were getting ready to have sex in the kitchen. I was in 1st grade I think? Maybe their kids never got out of bed so it was no big deal in their mind, but they were irresponsible for doing that out in the open with a child present who's habits they aren't familiar with. They were embarrassed and covered up right away but I have never forgotten it.

Cell phones will have to be earned too. I got my first cell phone at 17 and it was a pre-paid that I purchased myself. I was also responsible for buying the minutes for it. It made me appreciate that luxury.

We only have one payphone near us that I can think of.

LittleLady77 · August 2013

I had a few friends who's parents went through a divorse when I was young. I would have my friends over for sleep overs all the time when their families were struggling. We would also have sleep overs on the weekend and parties. I was an only child and I think they really helped me socialize with other kids. That being said, I see where you are coming from not allowing it all the time and prioritizing family time.

pb&fluff · August 2013

I agree with @venti29. I work 3 days a week (now I have school one day a week too), and SAH with P the other 3 days. It's hard. And frustrating. I wouldn't mind doing it when the kids are older, maybe 1 or 2. DH spends most weekends studying so I really am solo for 3 days a week. I look forward to going to work some days.

((Hugs)) venti

carcrashheart · August 2013

SAH is definitely harder than any job i've ever had before. but i'd rather do this than go back to sitting at a desk. i've been thinking about finding something PT, but then i start thinking about how DH only sees him from 6-730pm, except for on weekends, and then i try to think about how i would feel if that was the only time i saw LO and that's about where i stop thinking about getting something PT. it's still something we will consider or that i may have to do, but i'm sort of meh about it. the first 6 weeks were so hard. it got easier after that and continued to slowly progress. especially when we were still getting up with him during the night i would feel bad that DH had to get up and go to work and i was able to sleep later/not have to sit at a desk and be productive. LO is so much fun now that my days are definitely a ton more enjoyable. i don't miss interacting with adults-i do that still. there are things that i miss being able to do, but a lot of those things wouldn't matter whether i was a SAHM or working mom. i think it would be harder to be a working mom. i don't know how i would manage to have dinner cooked most nights, the laundry done, the house somewhat clean, etc.

botanicalbliss · August 2013

@caseyandlizzie haha, a beeper!

@venti29 heck yeah, SAH is super challenging! I'm plan to go back part time in February, but holy cow, I don't know how you do it with 2! I can hardly handle this guy some days.

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