Thanks for all the sage advice!!

Re: Thanks for all the sage advice!!

• PrincessVegan member

  

  August 2013

  I think you need to accept the fact that some people are like this. You were sincere in trying to help her, so don't feel any regret about your actions. It's too bad that she can't get herself together. Tie up any loose ends and forget about her. 

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• TarponMonoxide member

  

  August 2013

  How in the world did the boyfriend get into your home? He must have had a key!
  
  I'd have discontinued her "friendship" -- and his -- there and then. This guy must have a key. Or maybe she made a copy and gave him the spare key!
  
  Change your locks. And maybe you can get a big doggus as a just in case.
  
  Boot her as a "friend." She sounds like a pain in the butt.
  

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• Sillygirl45 member

  

  August 2013

  Let me get this straight...This "friend" is a loser with no direction. She takes your advice and gets into school, with your assistance, on a career path you suggested AND helped her get in to. So, now she's a pathetic imitator? You wanted her out of your house and to move in with her boyfriend. She does just that, and now she is a loser who is breaking the law. I'm not sure she is the problem in this situation. You say you've done all these things to help her and she should what? Drop out of school because you don't think she's in the right field? The field you helped her get in to? Then she should move into a homeless shelter because you don't want her in your house, but you don't want her breaking rules of her BF lease? Why would you care?! You need to let this go. I'm guessing you're really mad at yourself for investing so much in this situation. You lived with her before this according to your original post. You knew this wasn't going to end well. Move on. Learn from it. Re read your post. You sound really petty, like you're afraid she is going to get something you deserve. I'm sure that's not what you want to sound like.

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• Disneygeek77 member

  

  August 2013

  I agree with PP.  I am honestly confused about why you are so upset.  You don't think she should be a paralegal because you helped her fill out the application ?  Then why in the world did you do it ?  Also, I have a friend that is a paralegal, but with your reasoning she should have quit when she got a speeding ticket because she was breaking the law. 

  Dude, just let it go.  If she isn't up to snuff, then she won't pass her classes or hold down a job. 

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• wwilkers member

  

  August 2013

  You are all very right. It does sound petty. I let myself get too emotionally invested in this.
  

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• Sillygirl45 member

  

  August 2013

  I'm glad you saw it! It stinks when you go out of your way and things don't go well. Nothing wrong with how you are feeling, but letting it go and being the better person is the best thing :>

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• Disneygeek77 member

  

  August 2013

  Well kudos to you for listening and recognizing it. 

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• TarponMonoxide member

  

  August 2013

  And bigger kudos to you for deleting your problem.
  
  Nice work ---- you must hve asked a mod to redact it. There is no edit key on board.
  
  I still want to know why he got into your home if he did not have a key --- either she gve him a copy, you gave him a key or he broke in and entered.
  
  WHY do you have friends like these??? And why are you such a pushover?
  

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