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Death

My grandfather passed away at the end of July. It was expected as he had been diagnosed as terminal a few months before. 

His funeral was this weekend, but we couldn't go because DH was sick and it was a long drive, we decided too long (involved a few hours and a ferry) for me and LO (with LO needing to breastfeed). 

Just last night DH's grandfather passed away. very unexpected. he had a heart attack. 

DH is devastated. I am in disbelief. I really liked this grandfather and they were coming to town in about a month to see LO. It is hard to believe we aren't going to see him again. I don't know what DH's grandmother is going to do without him. 

Also, I don't know if DH is going to be able to go to a funeral (if they have one). the plane tickets are expensive, he started his job only a few months ago (and his boss doesn't like to have him gone - it would be unpaid), and LO and I need him here. 

I know it is going to be a tough next couple weeks/months. 

My mom said to be thankful that neither death coincided with LO's birth, and I know I should be thankful. It is a lot all at once though.  
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Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013

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  • I am so sorry for your losses and I am sorry that circumstances are making it so that youcan't attend your loved ones' funerals. I will be thinking of you and your DH.
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  • i'm sorry. :(

    my grandfather passed july 2012. i had been trying to plan a quick trip down there to see him because we knew he was progressively getting worse, but it just hadn't worked out. my aunt pushed back his memorial service continually, despite knowing that i wanted to fly down to attend by had a finite time frame on when i was allowed to fly since i was pregnant. it wasn't scheduled until oct 16, 2012. i was due at the end of the month, but ended up having LO on the 12th. i couldn't go, my mom stayed back because she was afraid i would fall ill again (i had HELLP in the hospital). it was such a shame that i couldn't go and that he never met his great grandchild, not even in utero. makes me really sad sometimes. 

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  • I am so sorry for your losses :(
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  • I'm so sorry for both your losses. You wrote one of my worst nightmares. My grandpa is declining a lot on health and probably won't make it through the winter, and DHs grandpa hasn't been doing great either. I keep hoping that they'll both keep strong and stay around to meet LO. I am so afraid of losing them, so I can only imagine the emotions I would feel if we did actually lose them. It was hard enough losing my grandma a few years back. The only thing that gets me through is knowing she is still here with me, watching over my family. Im sure your grandpas will do the same. I'll be thinking of you and your family. Big hugs!

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  • I'm sorry for your losses!  I hope you two can figure something out and find some peace :(
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  • I am so sorry. Losing both of them so close together makes it that much harder. DH's grandpa has been declining for a while and I'm afraid of the same happening. Thinking of you.
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  • I am so sorry for your losses. : (  T&P's being sent to you and your families.

     

     

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  • i'm sorry. :(

    my grandfather passed july 2012. i had been trying to plan a quick trip down there to see him because we knew he was progressively getting worse, but it just hadn't worked out. my aunt pushed back his memorial service continually, despite knowing that i wanted to fly down to attend by had a finite time frame on when i was allowed to fly since i was pregnant. it wasn't scheduled until oct 16, 2012. i was due at the end of the month, but ended up having LO on the 12th. i couldn't go, my mom stayed back because she was afraid i would fall ill again (i had HELLP in the hospital). it was such a shame that i couldn't go and that he never met his great grandchild, not even in utero. makes me really sad sometimes. 

    thinking of you guys.
    this is what happened to me :-( 

    I was hoping they would have the funeral when I was still PG (he passed away 7/19) but they waited and waited. I knew it would be hard for me to attend with a newborn/recovering from a c/s. It was disappointing. 
    "How long till my soul gets it right? Can any human being ever reach the highest light? Except for Galileo, god rest his soul, king of night vision, king of insight." ~ Indigo Girls Anniversary
    When you've been married this long, you need a ticker to remind you.

    Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013
  • thanks all. it is a hard day for sure. 
    "How long till my soul gets it right? Can any human being ever reach the highest light? Except for Galileo, god rest his soul, king of night vision, king of insight." ~ Indigo Girls Anniversary
    When you've been married this long, you need a ticker to remind you.

    Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013
  • I'm sorry, Cinderin.

    My maternal grandfather died in Nov 2011 and my paternal grandfather followed six weeks later.  I did get to go to both services, but learned that the saying is true - funerals are for those who are left behind.  You can find other ways to celebrate their lives, grieve the losses, and remember them.  My thoughts are with you.

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  • So sorry to hear about your losses. It's always hard to lose someone close, but even more so when you can't go to the memorial and get final closure.

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  • I'm am so sorry :(

    I didn't get to go to my great-grandfather's funeral because of cost of flights (we were living in FL at the time. He was in PA). It broke my heart.

    Find ways to celebrate their lives and relive the good times. They are a always watching over you.

    Many T&Ps for you and your family.
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  • I'm so so sorry.

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