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How much is acceptable?

I was invited to a birthday party. Well, more like three kids at once. Is $20.00 per kids enough? It's gonna hit me hard having to buy gifts/stuff envelopes for THREE children. My parents are throwing a combined party. The greeting cards alone are going to cost like $10.00. 

Their normal birthdays are April, November and June.

Re: How much is acceptable?

  • Go to Dollar Store/Tree- they have tons of cards for $1- do those. Or make them! Do not spend $10 on just cards that most people don't look at! Make the extra trip to Dollar Tree.

    As for the presents, $20 is plenty! You can get a lot of awesome gifts for about $20 at Target. If you find something that's awesome for less, go for that! Kids don't need expensive gifts, most of the time they are happy with anything that is fun.
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  • Forget buying  the Birthday Cards - a gift tag is all you need. (or buy the cards at the dollar store)

    Add that $10 to your $20 and you have $10 for each child.  A book for each child that would interest them would be what I would do in that situation.

    WHY are they celebrating their birthdays NOW?

  • I wouldn't bother with the cards. If you really are sentimental, Dollar Store is a must. You can get 2 cards for $1. I also agree with the gift tag. Even then, you can always write their name on the gift with a marker in a fancy font (if you can do it) - Think Christmas presents!

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  • $20 per child is fine.  And I am also wondering why are all three birthdays being celebrated now?

     

  • we get dollar cards at target or dollar store and no more than $10 per child for gift.
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  • Thanks! Just some family things going on that made it easier to have them all together. Just tougher on the wallet.
  • Thanks! Just some family things going on that made it easier to have them all together. Just tougher on the wallet.
  • I'm totally on board with $1 store cards. It's not how much you spent on the card, but that you took the time to get a card. $20 is plenty. For my nieces and nephes I started a tradition that they found fun several years back. They got $10 until they reach 11 years old. Then they got $1 for however many years old they were. Cheesy? Yes, but the kids got a kick out of it and it helped to keep the budget in control

  • Totally agree with everyone about buying cheap cards -- the dollar store, Trader Joes (they have very nice $1 cards) or even just a simple gift tag like a previous poster mentioned would be just fine. That's so interesting that the family is celebrating all three birthdays all at once -- won't that confuse the kids? haha! How old are they?




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  • Do you have a Five Below?  They have lots of awesome stuff for super cheap that doesn't really look like cheap stuff.  Also, check out places like TJ Maxx or Ross.  They have good toys, books and games at lower prices than you'd find at Target.  
  • $20 per kids is more than enough! My husband and I usually only spend $20 on his 2 nieces and 1 nephew, that's about $8 per kid. Children don't need much, 

    Also, I agree with the others, make cards or buy cheap ones, Target has 99 cent cards. 
  • My parents have always given us a card (I agree, don't spend much on cards, or include that as part of the total price you wanted to spend) with the dollars that match our age. They still do it to this day. I got $31 this year! 

    I don't know how old these kids are, but a lot of kids think that $5 or $10 is a lot of money, if you are doing cash, especially if you consider that others will also be giving them money. Little kids (maybe up to 6 years old) think $1 is a lot, so put like five single dollars in theirs.
  • Thanks everyone! Some great ideas! The kids range from 1-6
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    I am cheap and write names across the wrapping paper for kid unless Im giving cash. I would spend 5-10 on books for each.
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  • You could look into a family gift that would benefit all of the kids -  like a membership/passes to a museum, splash park, community pool, etc. 
  • You definitely don't need a card (kids don't care), and you can probably find a good gift for less than $20.  Rocket launchers are popular in our neighborhood these days and they are like $10.  The kids enjoy them more than the more expensive gifts.
  • $20 is plenty IMO.  I don't spend more than that on any kid other than my own.  We also have a sinking fund for gifts because it seems like all of our neighbors and our kids have birthdays in the same time of year (August, September, and October, then our twins are in December) so we get hit with a bunch of parties at once.
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  • I buy toys throughout the years as gifts, have you thought of a "gift closet" in your house?  Some of my toys I have purchased have only cost about $6.
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  • Excellent ideas!! I never thought of a group gift or starting a gift closet!! TY!
  • I never buy cards and $20/KID is more than enough. I'd say $30 combined and not buy cards.
  • takmjs said:

    My parents have always given us a card (I agree, don't spend much on cards, or include that as part of the total price you wanted to spend) with the dollars that match our age. They still do it to this day. I got $31 this year! 


    I don't know how old these kids are, but a lot of kids think that $5 or $10 is a lot of money, if you are doing cash, especially if you consider that others will also be giving them money. Little kids (maybe up to 6 years old) think $1 is a lot, so put like five single dollars in theirs.
    Haha DH's grandfather also gives us our age in dollars. :) Also we gave my grandfather $83, but that was from all aunts/uncles. :)
  • Big Lots has a lot of nice and brand name toys that are often 25-50% off the normal retail.
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