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Sister in Law, habitual liar, tearing family in shreds.
The title may sound a little melodramatic, but I will let you make your own mind up.
My wifes sister has recently been causing monumental problems within our family, stemming back approx 4 years, she is seperated with a young daughter aged 10 and lives a distance away from the parents and siblings.
She started with telling everyone in the family that she had cancer and how she was in and out of hospital, and had her parents giving her money to buy stuff she needed to make her life easier, but she rarely came to visit or would invite visits, during this period she moved a number of times and it was impossible to keep tabs, in the end, she didnt have cancer.
A little while later she announced that she was pregnant, she apparently had a number of miscarriages and was now pregnant by her then boyfriend, parents took it at face value and gave her money, bought her stuff etc, when she announced that she was flying to New York with her boyfriend at the 9.5 month stage it became apparent that she was not pregnant. (Her father who is in a bad way medically cancelled a planned cruise because of the due date)
She than left that boyfriend and moved in with another one (allegedly, no one has seen him) and she was moving from her flat and moving across country to be with her man, at the last moment (day of move) his job evaporated and they stayed at the flat they were moving out of (parents gave her money to make sure her daughter had what she needed etc)
The latest stunt which we only found out about a week ago is that she was marrying boyfriend in a weeks time, I believe the parents have known for a long while about this but they have not told anybody else in the family, when we found out, we were asked not to let anybody know, so i checked with marriages registrar, the wedding on date given does not exist in England or Wales, her parents have bought dresses and no doubt given her more money although they dont talk about it.
She uses her daughter as an emotional lever and visits very rarely and only permits visits to her very occasionally, sometimes at different venues not at home this causes her parents to jump at any opportunity to see their grandaughter.
I really cant see how we can get her parents to open their eyes and see what she is doing to them, they say that she is their daughter which is true, but they are old and medically in a poor state, her father in particular who has repeated strokes.
We are at a loss to know what to do, I think my Sister in Law is a fraudster and con artist and doesnt seem to give a hoot about the carnage she leaves behind, I confronted her about the wedding and there was zero remorse and tried to twist it around that I didnt know what I was on about and to keep my "nose out of it" or words to that effect, I am convinced she will be on the phone trying to save the situation and redeem herself as we speak.
Anybody have the first idea on how this should or could be handled?
Re: Sister in Law, habitual liar, tearing family in shreds.
Is the child well taken care of? Is the child in school, healthy, getting medical care and being attended to? THis is where it gets worrisome: there is the child's welfare at stake.
That child should be removed from that household immediately, just for the fact that your SIL has been more than a bit nutty. As I said, it sounds to me that she's got a mental illness.
Somebody family needs to have custody of that child,--- there are too many weird going on and too many strange people in and out of her life; who knows what kind of questionable people they are?
Is there any way you can petition the courts for custody of your niece?and if not you, somebody else?
Your sister needed to be cut off and cut out of your life, and everyone else's in your family, a long time ago. She needs toughlove at the very least --- and what is sad is that your parents are enabling her. I wonder what else is at stake with them, considering your sister is involved. WHo knows what kind of unscrupulous bullshit your SIL is up to with them? I'm thinking elder abuse and elder neglect and who knows what else? maybe she's even robbing them; I don't know.
That child needs to be removed from your SIL, just judging from your SIL's bizzare and possibly unlawful and most definitely fraudulent behavior -- and your SIL needs a mental evaluation.
Something isn't right here; you know this.
I hope you get down to the bottom of this, for the sake of the kiddo, if anything. GL.
Contact an attorney -- see what he or she advises.
And somebody in the family that is a sibling of your SIL may need to be a conservator or guardian or have legal rule over their parents' funds and other holdings. Your SIL could be robbing them blind -- could, I said -- or some other damaging monkeybusiness could be at hand.