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edited September 2013 in Family Matters

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  • Something is weird here.

    I will bet you that this is the wife's doing.  I don't know what happened but they decided that you and your H no longer merit their attention.

    Is there an objective third party that they'd listen to?
  • I agree that the wife has the upper hand here. I actually did attempt to go through someone I thought they would listen to. A mutual friend tried to talk to them about it (without us present) and she shut the conversation down as soon as she found out this person was coming with us to Vegas. See, Yikes....
  • Stop saying yikes.

    So, the half siblings aside, do you really care? What is it that you are upset about? Why is random person inserting herself into this?

    Your FIL isn't going to ever be the father, FIL or future grandparent you and your H want. Come to terms with this now and you'll save yourself years of heartache.

    Your SMIL is controlling everything here. My advice to you and your H is to stop feeding her crazy. Distance yourselves and don't even think of them. The more you or anyone else (hello! Random friend) talks to them or feeds into the drama, the more she wins. She is shutting everything down because she has the control, take that away from her.
  • Something is going on behind the scenes here, and it sounds like you should stay out of it. It sucks that they didn't come to your wedding, but you also can't expect people to know what's going to happen in their lives a year and a half in advance. Maybe the opportunity to move just came up and they needed to take it. If you want to stay close to their kids, you'll have to keep it civil. Drop the fights about your wedding, and do what you can to stay connected to the kids. Keep an eye out for the wife, because she sounds like she might be the problem. Good luck!
  • Leftie22 said:
    Something is going on behind the scenes here, and it sounds like you should stay out of it. It sucks that they didn't come to your wedding, but you also can't expect people to know what's going to happen in their lives a year and a half in advance. Maybe the opportunity to move just came up and they needed to take it. If you want to stay close to their kids, you'll have to keep it civil. Drop the fights about your wedding, and do what you can to stay connected to the kids. Keep an eye out for the wife, because she sounds like she might be the problem. Good luck!
    Yep. All of this.  A big piece of this puzzle seems to be missing.
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  • Cut your losses. 
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