Money Matters
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Would you say anything?
Some background: I am a grad student working part-time as a nanny for another grad student at my university. She's a really great employer - pays me well, flexible when I have school stuff and need to change the schedule, and even pays me for days when she's out of town and I can't work.
So when they had to cut my hours in June due to a major work change for her husband, she offered me two weeks paid vacation over the summer/fall as a thanks for my understanding. We're planning on me taking the week of my anniversary off, but the other week seems to have slipped her mind. We originally talked about her paying me for last week when I was out of town at a conference. I didn't get paid last week, and she also left town another week in August, leaving me without pay that week as well.
So, if I were working for a business, I wouldn't hesitate to bring the emails to HR and ask for the money. But I'm working for a family, and the paid vacation was more than I ever would have asked for. That said, I did come to expect it and plan for it, and it would be really helpful right now since my fellowship stipend just went down by $500/mo. Which is a lot for a grad student...
I'm conflicted. Would you mention it to her?
So when they had to cut my hours in June due to a major work change for her husband, she offered me two weeks paid vacation over the summer/fall as a thanks for my understanding. We're planning on me taking the week of my anniversary off, but the other week seems to have slipped her mind. We originally talked about her paying me for last week when I was out of town at a conference. I didn't get paid last week, and she also left town another week in August, leaving me without pay that week as well.
So, if I were working for a business, I wouldn't hesitate to bring the emails to HR and ask for the money. But I'm working for a family, and the paid vacation was more than I ever would have asked for. That said, I did come to expect it and plan for it, and it would be really helpful right now since my fellowship stipend just went down by $500/mo. Which is a lot for a grad student...
I'm conflicted. Would you mention it to her?
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Would you say anything? 28 votes
yes
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no
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3 votes
I'd try and drop subtle hints. If she remembers, great. If not, drop it.
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Re: Would you say anything?
She is a student so she'll understand the stipend issue you face. Explain it and say that you are needing to redo your budget. Then, mention the paid week and ask if that it something that's still available.
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