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Intense friend... Wtf?
About five years ago I met a girl named Megan through mutual friends. We would see each other here and there, and thanks to Facebook, we realized we had a lot in common. We work in the same industry, drive the same truck, and enjoy the same hobbies. She recently graduated college and is still trying to find her path in life, whereas I am in my late 20s, married and have a career. We hung out a couple of times this summer and all of a sudden she is bugging me every week to hang out. I feel like I am constantly making excuses but they are all legit things, such as work-related stuff or the fact that I have an apartment to clean. The other problem is that she is AWKWARD AS HELL. She struggles to make casual conversation. She seems very nervous all the time, but once we get talking about stuff she's fine. The sad part is that she has no friends left in this town. Everyone she knew had moved away (I understand that, I don't have any old friends left either) so she is eager to hang out with people. I feel like an ass since I can't hang out as much, and she seems to get pretty upset and pushy when I can't make it to things. I just feel like she doesn't get that I have more responsibilities than her. I don't mean to blow her off all the time but things don't always work out. How do I get her to understand that I legit have stuff to do and can't hang out with her all the time? I apologize for my lack of paragraphs.... Thank the iPad for that.
Re: Intense friend... Wtf?
Megan is not a good friend for you.
You have some things in common but not a lot. She may also be socially awkward --- and besides, who wants a friend where you have to feel obligated to do things with her?
I'd go out to coffee with her and say to her, "Megan, I like your friendship but you've got to understand that I've got a ton of things that I am obligated to do" and name them and then say "There's no way there is more than 24 hours in a day to do these things and then have time for me to do tons of things with all of my friends. I'm sure you too have obligations for work and things to do at home where you aren't as free as yo like to be to do things at your leisure."
She should be fine with that.
If she gets defensive, then consider cooling it with her altogether. Nobody likes a pushy wet blanket.
Do you know a guy or a girl who would be a perfect friend for Megan?:) Maybe you ought to introduce them.:)
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I hate to say it but I agree with you. One time when we were chatting about work and such she said "I'm glad we are friends and can talk about this sort of stuff." It was like something a little kid would say. I feel bad though, because she's really nice but I can't stand being guilted into hanging out.