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My head might explode (PR mentioned - not me)

It's been a tough week in the Flamingo household. We are trying to make big decisions about whether or not to continue TTC. Pregnancy announcements abound. I went back to work and it's been tough.

I was looking forward to a nice afternoon with my best friend yesterday. She started crying and dropped the bomb: She is pregnant. She got pregnant on her honeymoon when the condom broke. She is due exactly one week after I would been with my most recent pg.

I love her and am not mad at her but I feel like our relationship cannot be the same. She has exactly what my H and I want more than anything. I am trying to be supportive but it's so hard. There could not have been a worse week for this.

It can only get better from here right?

Married August 2009

3 years. 5 losses.

Our rainbow baby boy born 11.16.15

Re: My head might explode (PR mentioned - not me)

  • I'm sorry Flamingo. Announcements are always hard especially when they are so close to home. It's ok to feel what you feel.
    Good luck to you and your H making these decisions.
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    Cycle 13, 100 mg Clomid & IUI#2 - BFP 6/27/13 - CP
    Met with an awesome new RE in September 2013 new plan: 5mg Femera & IUI #3
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  • I'm sorry, Flamingo :(
  • I'm sorry, Flamingo :(

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    Baby A born 6/17/2015
  • I'm sorry flamingo.  That really sucks, especially this week.  It was also probably really hard for her to tell you.  
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  • ((hugs))

    I'm so sorry you have to make this decision. And am sorry that other things are making it even harder.

    ((more big squishy hugs))
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  • nfp147 said:
    I'm sorry flamingo.  That really sucks, especially this week.  It was also probably really hard for her to tell you.  
    I know that it was. She did the best she could to be respectful and I really appreciate her thoughtfulness. It's really sucky for both of us, actually.

    Married August 2009

    3 years. 5 losses.

    Our rainbow baby boy born 11.16.15

  • I am sorry. That sucks.
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  • I'm so sorry. With my second loss, my best friend found out she was pg a week before me, so it was incredibly hard for me throughout her pregnancy, and I honestly had to take a step away. I've talked to her about it, and she's been great and supportive and understanding, but I'm still sad about it. Her daughter turned one, and I almost didn't go to the bday party. Big hugs to you, dear, and I hope she gives you have some space.

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  • Love to you, flamingo. <3
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  • So sorry, Flamingo. :( Those announcements are hard to hear, sometimes especially when they come from those closest to us (and even more so when those people weren't trying or haven't struggled). I'm even sorrier it came on the heels of other hard decisions during a rough week. 

    ((hugs))
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  • I'm so sorry flamingo:(
  • So sorry to hear... :(  Allow yourself to experience the emotions you are feeling and know that it's okay to feel that way.
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  • I'm so sorry Flamingo.
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  • I'm sorry, Flamingo :( I hope things start looking up soon. 
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  • I am so sorry. Much love to you <3
    Congrats to my TTC buddy Madeline! Cheering for all the strong 3T ladies! 

    TTC since March 2012; DX: PCOS 4/2013 
    BFP 7/6/2013; EDD 3/6/2014 
    Diagnosed with Pre-E: 2/15/201
    Emergency induction: 2/16/2014
    Baby E born: 2/16/2014 at 12:56pm. 5lb 15oz



  • I'm sorry, love. It's ok to feel how you feel. And it's understandable. It's a really tough road. Somedays it's really hard to believe that this is your reality. <3 ((hugs))
  • I'm sorry. That sucks.
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  • Panderp said:
    I'm sorry, love. It's ok to feel how you feel. And it's understandable. It's a really tough road. Somedays it's really hard to believe that this is your reality. <3 ((hugs))
    This. I hope your friendship is strong enough to survive the continuing added toil of IF.  My best friend and I talk all the time about how tough it will be if one gets pregnant and the other one doesn't. I think having that line of communication open, where you can tell her "I can't deal today." will be easier to connect with her on the days when you can deal .

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  • I'm really sorry. Just sad for you. Lately I just feel exhausted when people I love announce to me.  I'm happy for them, but very sad it's not me.

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  • I'm so sorry, Flamingo. ((Hugs))

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  • I'm so sorry, Flamingo. I'm glad your friend was respectful, and it seems like she understands and will understand if you need to step back a bit. (hugs)

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  • That is so hard. My best friend had a baby in July...and I feel like I can't even be around her without wanting to cry.

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    Moved to RE October 2013
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    Dec. 2013: IUI #2 Letrozole + Ovidrel= BFP on 1/8/2014 !! EDD 9/22/2014
    Beta #1 (12 dpo): HCG 27, Progesterone 15 (starting on supplements)
    Beta #2 (15 dpo): HCG 297, Progesterone 29
    Beta #3 (17 dpo): HCG 667, Progesterone 34
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  • I'm sorry, Flamingo. While I've never had a loss, it has been tough to see my friends and family so easily achieve what we've dreamed of. I hope your friendship is strong enough for this journey. Don't be afraid to tell her when you're having a bad day. ((hugs))
    TTC #1 since Feb. '12. dx: "unexplained" IF
    After 2 shitty IVF cycles and 1 loss at 6+2 (EDD 11/7/14), DH and I are pursuing DIA.
    11/17/2014 - ACTIVE AND WAITING!
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  • I'm so sorry <3
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