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FFC... Please talk me down

A girl on my BMB gave birth to her little girl over the weekend at 21 weeks. Ever since I read her story, I am terrified that its going to happen to me too. Every new ache or slightly different feeling is making me really anxious. I never really worried about this before, and I just really can't even start to imagine what i would do if its not all fine. I keep trying to tell myself that all our tests have come back perfectly (everything was great on our a/s too)... and she's been moving around like crazy ever since this weekend... and her HB is fine when I check with my Doppler. Can someone talk me down and tell me that everything will be fine?? Or give me some concrete facts about the things I would actually need to worry about so I don't worry about everything?? Thanks ladies!

...hello out there!
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dx with anovulatory PCOS 2005
off bcp 11/11
a few rounds of clomid and femara... no response.
injectables/IUI 12/12... BFN
Feb 13 IVF cycle converted down to IUI due to low follicle response... BFFN
one last IVF attempt April/May 2013: 19 retrieved. 10 fertilized. 2 transferred in a 3dt. 4 frosties... BFP!!
EDD: 1/21/14... Induced early at 36+6. Our LO was born 12/30/13
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Re: FFC... Please talk me down

  • Lots of hugs and thoughts your way. I wish I knew what to say to make you feel better because I understand, I worry over everything. 

    Your test are strong, your baby is kicking to let you know she's good and still working on growing. Try to find something to loose yourself into like a project, tv show, or movie. 
    DX: 6/2012 PCOS  TTC: 6/2013  BFP: 9/6/2013  Attempt Natural m/c: 10/29/2013 D&C: 2/20/2014
    BFP 2: 7/7/2014 Beta 7/8: 115, Beta 7/12: 638, Beta 7/16: 3793, Beta 7/21: 21,625

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  • I had the same train of thought when my cousin delivered her daughter at 28 weeks, though her baby was only developed to 22 weeks.

    It's normal to be nervous about this, especially before reaching viability day at 24 weeks, but remember, it is EXTREMELY rare to deliver so early (less than 5%). And of those 5%, many will have signs.

    My cousin for example knew at her anatomy scan that her baby girl wasn't growing as fast as she should have been. So the fact that you have had a good anatomy scan puts you at an even lower risk of it happening.

    Don't worry, you and baby are going to be okay. :)

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  • *hug* TBH, I've been feeling the same way, so you're not alone. Her story is heart-wrenching. :(

    Your baby is nice and wiggly and has a strong HB. Take it as her way of saying, "Don't worry about me, Mom! I'm cozy in here!"

    After 12w, the risk of miscarriage drops below 10% (at least according to the info I can find). It is very rare for this to happen.

    I don't know if this helped, but I'm trying!!
    Dave and Kathleen - 09.12.09:

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  • At 15 weeks, I think about the chances of something like that happening and get nervous. Appointments and the Doppler are my friend right now.
    Congrats to my TTC buddy Madeline! Cheering for all the strong 3T ladies! 

    TTC since March 2012; DX: PCOS 4/2013 
    BFP 7/6/2013; EDD 3/6/2014 
    Diagnosed with Pre-E: 2/15/201
    Emergency induction: 2/16/2014
    Baby E born: 2/16/2014 at 12:56pm. 5lb 15oz



  • What helps me the most is realizing that worrying is normal, so I don't get into a worrying-about-my-worrying death spiral.  I also try to remember that I can't control these sorts of things, so I just have to let go.  When I find myself worrying, I try to think okay, it's normal to worry, but I am going to focus on the things I can control.

    You'll find new things to worry about at each stage of the game.  From miscarriage, to pre-term labor, to all the other things that can go wrong during pregnancy and delivery, and then of course once baby is here there's one million new things to worry about.  But worrying is normal, it's part of being a good parent, so you do the best you can to keep yourself and your baby healthy and don't let the worrying take over.
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  • Thanks ladies! I just need to learn to take some deep breaths, lol. It's not like I didn't know these awful things can happen, but having it happen now, to someone who is at the same point in their pregnancy, makes the risk feel much more real

    ...hello out there!
    imageimage
    dx with anovulatory PCOS 2005
    off bcp 11/11
    a few rounds of clomid and femara... no response.
    injectables/IUI 12/12... BFN
    Feb 13 IVF cycle converted down to IUI due to low follicle response... BFFN
    one last IVF attempt April/May 2013: 19 retrieved. 10 fertilized. 2 transferred in a 3dt. 4 frosties... BFP!!
    EDD: 1/21/14... Induced early at 36+6. Our LO was born 12/30/13
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  • TudorRose11TudorRose11 member
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    edited September 2013
    NMS said it best I think.

    No matter the stats, it is a scary possibility. After my surgery, the 20something weeks were the scariest to me for this reason. Viability week made me feel better but then I would worry about something else. Just know you are doing everything you can to keep that sweet one safe and enjoy the wiggles and heartbeat. Each week is a new sigh of relief all the way through!

    Eta: I should clarify that I was at an extremely increased risk for going into preterm labor due to my surgery and we were so lucky to not be faced with that during those weeks. Hopefully not having that increased risk helps ease your mind!
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  • If you feel extra nervous have them check our cervix (with a trans vag us) at your next appointment.

    deep breaths lady!

    Lilypie - XkBoLilypie - WuYI
    Me(27) PCOS, Hypothyroidism & Incompetent Cervix  DH(29) Azoospermia
    4/11- 12/11 Provera, 3 cycles clomid 50mg, all BFN (HSG-all clear)
    Dec 2011 DH S/A shows zero count - dx Azoo
    TESE 4/13/12 - Sperm found!! 5 viles frozen
    IVF ICSI #1- (Lupron protocol) 5R 2F 2dt- 2DP & 4CF - BFFN
    IVF ICSI #2-  (Antagonist protocol) Started stims 7/26
    ER 8/8 11R 9F 3dt - 9BF & 7BF (+HPT 8dp3dt)beta 1-184 beta 2- 1699 TWINS! EDD 5/1/13
    <312/9 Joshua David and Zoe Faith born too early at 19w4d due to incompetent cervix <3
    Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
      LAP Transabdominal Cerclage - 4/15/13 only possibility of carrying my children to term
    IVF ICSI #3.2- (Antagonist Protocol) 7/26 start stims (same day, a year later from J & Z's stim start date!)
    ER - 8/7  19R 9F 3dt of 2 8BF embryos. (+ HPT 7dp3dt) Beta #1- 82.8 Beta #2- 821 Beta 3-7254
    9/11/13 - U/S showed 1 baby HR 135bpm! EDD 4/30/14
    Colin born via c/s 4/7/14 (36w5d) 6lbs 14oz - 8 days in the NICU
    TTC #2 - IVF 4 - July 2015 (Antagonist Protocol) 7/10 start stims
    15R 8F 5dt of 1E blast grade BA & 1 blast to freeze!! (+hpt 6dp5dt)
    beta #1-52 beta #2-62 Beta #3-6.5 - CP
    FET - 9/18/15 (+hpt 5dp5dt) beta #1 -225.1 beta #2-2468 beta #3-21,352
    10/29 - U/S shows 1 bean! HR 151 EDD 6/7/16 It's a BOY!
    5/18/16 Jacob born via c/s (37w 1d) 9lbs .8oz 19in - 6 days in the NICU



  • I worried throughout pg myself. Try not to think about it.

    A distraction is always nice to redirect your thoughts.
    "How long till my soul gets it right? Can any human being ever reach the highest light? Except for Galileo, god rest his soul, king of night vision, king of insight." ~ Indigo Girls Anniversary
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  • edited September 2013
    That story was horrible. I too have noticed more worry with every ache and pain since reading her story. I have no advice but I do plan on talking to my OB about it after my repeat a/s next week. Just to have her reassure me. My mom jokes with me 'welcome to motherhood. The worrying never stops! You all are grown and out of the house and I still worry!"
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