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"surviving" your child's last year of High School?!?!
http://www.today.com/moms/goodbye-year-surviving-your-childs-last-year-high-school-8C11129191
I just saw this article on nbcnews.com's front page, near the top and gave it a big WTF. Is this just a big helicopter parent issue? Cause I am pretty sure I started doing things that were outside of being a parent like 2 years into EJ's life... and weaning her off of her dependance of us is already in process. And if your kid is going to college they likely have at least 4 more "first days of school" left. this concept gives me a great big eyeroll.
Do you think you will have a hard time with your child finishing highschool?
I just saw this article on nbcnews.com's front page, near the top and gave it a big WTF. Is this just a big helicopter parent issue? Cause I am pretty sure I started doing things that were outside of being a parent like 2 years into EJ's life... and weaning her off of her dependance of us is already in process. And if your kid is going to college they likely have at least 4 more "first days of school" left. this concept gives me a great big eyeroll.
Do you think you will have a hard time with your child finishing highschool?
Re: "surviving" your child's last year of High School?!?!
L-)
that being said, as you pointed out, I'm already doing things (and have been for awhile) that are outside of being just someone's mom. I don't think that it will be an issue of having to recreate a life for myself or anything quite that dramatic, but I am sure I"ll struggle!!
Jake - 1.15.08
Liam - 5.17.11
I think I will. While I certainly do lots of non-mom things, the kids are, and I expect will continue to be, a big part of my life. Much of my free timet I do revolves around them and their activities. I imagine that once they're out of the house I won't know what to do with all the free time.
I've broken down at the past two years' back to school nights, I think I'll be a wreck at graduation.
I hope that the transition will be a gradual one, but I'm sure there will be some sentimental "lasts" as well.
Thankfully my mom was working part time when I went off to college. She might have gone into a depression without that distraction. :-) She still describes the house as being "very quiet" when they got home from dropping me off in Pittsburgh.
there's a good chance that will be me.
Jake - 1.15.08
Liam - 5.17.11
I totally agree with you on getting to spend more time with dh. Like you, we didn't have much married time before kids, so I am looking forward to dinners, movies and traveling.
I also have family who do not go anywhere without their children. I just don't get it. I think it's healthy for kids and parents to be away from each other some times. We've been sending the kids for overnights at the grandparents since they we're about 1. I need my grown up time!
Frankly, I can't wait to get my life back - and to spend time with my husband. My life does not revolve around my kids, but considering I can't go to the bathroom without a shadow (and that includes the 6-yr old, too), it is a nice thought at times!
That said, I think I'll be a nice mix of all emotions: happy, sad, excited, terrified... However, my boys can ONLY go to Notre Dame because that will be the only campus I will feel comfortable leaving them at alone.
*crawling back to La La Land Bubble*
My three sons!
The family dynamic will change once the kids start going off to college, and it will certainly be a transition having a new normal to get used to, but it won't be something that I have an identity crisis over. I will not have to "reclaim" me, because I already have that sh!t claimed. My kids are the most important thing in my life, but they are not the only thing in my life. If there is anything I can say that I am good at (with the help of family and DH), it is making friends/socializing a priority, doing regular date nights with DH, having my own individual interests and taking time to myself. Plus, since I'm old, my kids will be going to college as I'm retiring, so I'll be too excited about that to be depressed for long.
Jake - 1.15.08
Liam - 5.17.11
It better! I am not working here for this salary for that to NOT happen.
I was the youngest of 5 so by the time I was ready to go to college, my parents gave me the car and said "bye!". Seriously, I never let my sisters forget it - spoiled youngest child my butt!. Anywho, I'll be a mess but John & I will have no trouble filling our time with travel, golf etc.. Plus we'll still be working for awhile so we won't be at home all day. Although isn't it ironic that you work your whole life and when you get to stay home your kids are gone.
How time flies! Caileigh (9), Keira (6) & Eamon (3)
Preach it! She gets to go where I work or she better be finding amazing scholarships elsewhere. ND with Clare's kids is acceptable, ha;)