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Vent...b-i-l
So about 3 years ago, hubster's younger brother was living with us. I was the only one working, so I paid all the housing bills. The deal was either b-i-l gets a job and helps pay the bills, or go to college full-time and we'll take care of everything at home. He did neither. There were allll kinds of other issues, and I made hubster kick him out after about 4 months.
So, flash foward to now. I'm deployed, hubster moved back to his hometown for while I'm gone, and I'm paying for his rent (no issue there). Last month, b-i-l moved in, without hubster discussing it with me first. I am not at all psyched that I am AGAIN paying for this kid's life (he's matured a little and is supposedly waiting for a dorm room to open up, but I'm not buying it).
Hubster's lease is up at the end of the month and he moves back to my duty station. Can't wait to drop his b-i-l's dead weight.
Re: Vent...b-i-l
I'd be venting about my H making decisions without asking me, not about my BIL being useless.
Does your husband not work? Why are you still paying all the bills?
Hubster wasn't working the first time b-i-l lived with us, because I keep getting stationed at places with horrible civilian employment oportunities. He's working now since he's in a realy city, but I pay the rent. He takes care of the other stuff.
I'm mainly not psyched because of the other crap his brother did while living with us, which I'm not going to post on here. I don't like that negative energy in my home, even though currently it's a home I'll never set foot in.
hubster?
Anyhow. You'd be paying rent either way, so at least it's not extra $$ out of your pocket.
BUT the real issue here is that your DH did this w/o telling you. That's not ok. and you and he need to have a serious talk about that. The rule last time doesn't really apply here. New situation, things have changed.
Your DH also needs to realize that running to his brothers aid over and over may not be doing his brother any favors.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Is your H working?
I will call him hubster if I want. Since that somehow bothers some of you, get over it. I deal with enough acronyms on a daily basis; I'm not going to reduce him to one as well.
And I'm not going to assign blame to him. I'm not assigning blame to anyone. As the title said, this was just a vent. There's no way I'd tell him to kick his brother out unless he acted stupid again, and there's no way I would've said no even if he had asked beforehand.
And for the second time, yes, hubster is working.
/gravel
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
If I'm having a serious conversation, I call him my husband. That would just be silly talking to my boss and saying something like "Hubster has an appointment I need to go with him to." But I enjoy not being serious when I don't have to. Game face only comes out when the game's on.
And thank you, @Sillygirl45. I'll be home in about a month. Can't wait!
@TML13, thank you. I'm not a hero though. Just doing my job