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Serious Vent!
My FI used to be a reporter and anchorman in a major city. He also used to do radio as well. Well, we visited that city over Labor Day Weekend and he had women calling because they knew he was in town. Yes, annoying. Drunken texts by them soon ensued. Then last night a girl he used to date texts. I know he isn't doing anything, it's just effin annoying to always be having women stupidly call and text. Grrrr!
Re: Serious Vent!
This.
You're not stupid and jealous. He is showing a lack of respect for you and your relationship. This is a sign of trouble to come. He likes the attention and I wouldn't doubt he also likes having a back up plan. I'd be wary of marrying this gem.
I left out the part of "doing me a favor out of guilt". Before he came to bed last night he wrote a mushy note and made my English muffin. Seriously? I smell guilt/shame...
I don't think that it's IMPOSSIBLE that he talks to all these women and nothing is happening that you should be worried about. No.... not IMPOSSIBLE.... just very unlikely given his behavior. And even if you were to give him the benefit of the doubt, it's clearly not a lifestyle that you are comfortable with. He's either got to conform or you may need to move on, IMO.
Good news is you ain't married to the guy, yet, so the world is your oyster and you can stay or leave or do w/e you want! I bet you could get a gang of hot men to start texting you incessantly, too. HAH! 2 can play that game.
Ha ha exactly what I was thinking kss... Sounds very immature but sometimes guys don't get it until it is done to them.. Ya maybe you could, or even act like it. I mean, how would he like it?? I'm sure if you had some old guys hittin you up and them saying they don't know you have a guy, he may feel pretty crappy too. MEN!!!!
I just think maybe you should ask the guy if he's really ready to get married... Since these sorts of things won't be tolerated. Marriage, means he stands up for his woman to who ever whenever! No matter what and he seems to not be doing that. It could be totally innocent behavior but he is making it look bad....
Lol, hot gang of guys:) I just got told that "you're making a total disaster over nothing" and "stop making me feel effin crazy, I've got a ton of sh*t to do at work today". This has been an issue time and time again in our relationship. Some days I feel like giving up because he can't possibly be this stupid, ha! I'm not wanting people to take sides. He seems to think he's innocent and I seen to think his behavior is unacceptable.
It sounds like he's making a whole lot of excuses so he won't have to take five freaking minutes and tell people he's not available. I would be very skeptical of this behavior. He should want people to know he's engaged and not interested. You shouldn't have to tell him. I agree with others that you might want to consider if you two are really compatible and on the same page. And if he has actually been communicating with a couple of these women recently, that's really sketchy. If he can't man up and commit, and let other women know he's committed, you're going to have trouble down the line. I'm sorry you're going through this. I hope he smartens up!
Does anyone think he doesn't tell girls about me because he's ashamed of me or he's got feelings for them? I made sure I told everyone when I was getting serious with him. He only told a few guy friends-none of the females.
Please read your above question again. There's no way on gods green earth this should even be a question.
I agree with this. He isn't treating you the way a man should treat his fiancée. Do you really want to spend your life with him, wondering who else he might be leading on? It definitely sounds like he's keeping his options open. That is not acceptable relationship behavior. Get out while he's just a fiancé and you don't have a divorce to worry about. Find someone who agrees with you on having a title and letting the world know you're unavailable.
Yep. If he can't man up and say, "Hey, I appreciate the text but I'm in a serious relationship. Have a nice life." then you don't need to marry him. He's at the very least getting off on the attention and convincing you you're crazy for thinking he's wrong. Nope. Uh uh.