Talk Dirty To Me!

eternalsnshine · September 2013

DH and I have been married just over 8 months and have a fantastic sex life. My only concern is that he will not talk dirty to me. I have talked to him about it and he says that he feels that it is disrespectful to talk to me like that. Problem is... I like it. I want him to do it, its a huge turn on for me. I have even tried to get him to do it via text messaging... FAIL. I have sent him naughty text messages and he will just respond with "LOL" or "You're Funny". Does anyone have any suggestions? I am not asking him to disrespect me just to say things to get me in the mood or to talk dirty to me during sex.

oldbugle · September 2013

Forget the "dirty" part for now, just get him to tell you what he is feeling and what he is enjoying...get him to make up 'word pictures' about his sexual likes and feelings. Ask him to tell you what it feels like to be inside you and ask him to describe in detail what he wants to do BEFORE you both start. Also, encourage him to tell you the things he most likes about your sex sessions....get him to describe them for you in a graphic a way as possible. Always be sure to encourage him and tell him how much you appreciate his attempts however difficult he finds it. Be sure to tell him that theres nothing "disrespectful" about putting into words his pleasure and excitement that he feels with you.

eternalsnshine · September 2013

That is exactly it... I want him to tell me what he likes or what he wants or doesnt want or just anything at all. I feel sometimes like I am the only one initiating new things or sex for that matter. I guess what I really want, is for him to take charge for once.

Thank you for the advice.

doeydo · September 2013

Does he know what kind of "dirty talk" you want? Perhaps he is thinking more along the lines of "You dirty whore" and thinks that would be disrespectful.

eternalsnshine · September 2013

doeydo said:

Does he know what kind of "dirty talk" you want? Perhaps he is thinking more along the lines of "You dirty whore" and thinks that would be disrespectful.

I have tried to explain to him that I just want him to tell me (verbally) that he is enjoying it. His response is always that he has just never been one to talk dirty and that I should just know that he loves it. I dont want him to call me a dirty whore just to say SOMETHING!

artbyallie · September 2013

Well, you can't know if he loves it unless he tells you. You're not a damn mind reader. Tell him that! And maybe try with something not sexual first. For example, give him a massage and ask him to say things like "Oh, baby, that's good," or "A little harder," etc. Then transition that feedback into sex.

eternalsnshine · September 2013

artbyallie said:

Well, you can't know if he loves it unless he tells you. You're not a damn mind reader. Tell him that! And maybe try with something not sexual first. For example, give him a massage and ask him to say things like "Oh, baby, that's good," or "A little harder," etc. Then transition that feedback into sex.

That is a good idea! I may have to try this tonight...

DawnLilly · September 2013

Hahaha my DH and yours could be twins. He always wanted me to talk dirty but couldn't even utter "yea baby" himself. He said he felt dumb. He has gotten better over the years and does better after a few drinks.

Could you convince him to maybe just start with groaning when he likes something and work up from there?

Still though, I sent him a sexy selfie a couple weeks ago weeks ago and he replied "oh baby oh baby"

eternalsnshine · September 2013

DawnLilly said:

Hahaha my DH and yours could be twins. He always wanted me to talk dirty but couldn't even utter "yea baby" himself. He said he felt dumb. He has gotten better over the years and does better after a few drinks. Could you convince him to maybe just start with groaning when he likes something and work up from there? Still though, I sent him a sexy selfie a couple weeks ago weeks ago and he replied "oh baby oh baby"

My husband is the same... He wants me to talk dirty to him, but I don't get it in return. Well I am happy to hear that it got better, maybe eventually he will loosen up a little more. Or maybe I should get him drunk as well! lol

StilletoJess · September 2013

all I have to say is my husband asked me to talk dirty to him once and I responded "ooooOOoOo"

not really my thing, maybe it's just not your DH's-it doesn't mean he is not enjoying it.

TarponMonoxide · September 2013

Tell him to watch a porn flick and then mimic the dialog at home when you are in the sack.

You mean he won't manage a "Do me, baby" or "Suck it, babe"? 3 little words!!! he can do it! 3 little syllables!!!!

eternalsnshine · September 2013

TarponMonoxide said:

Tell him to watch a porn flick and then mimic the dialog at home when you are in the sack.

You mean he won't manage a "Do me, baby" or "Suck it, babe"? 3 little words!!! he can do it! 3 little syllables!!!!

Thats another great idea I will have to try that as well. We do watch porn together every once in awhile.

schuette2 · February 2014

Mine is slowly learning the art of dirty talk. His new ones are "that's what I like to hear" in response to a moan, and saying my name at the end. Have him try something similar til he's more comfortable with it.

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