Buying A Home
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Looking to buy a house for the first time! HELP
Hey everyone!
My name is Chelsea and my boyfriends name is Jeff. We are looking to buy our first house. I live in Sarasota, FL. I need help on my first steps and everything after that!
Thanks
Chelsea

Re: Looking to buy a house for the first time! HELP
Home Buying for Dummies
Mortgages for Dummies -
great info in both books.
SAVE, SAVE, SAVE for a good downpayment, closing costs, moving, utility start ups, repairs/renovations, decorating/furniture & appliances/ yard items AND have a good 6-8 month's expenses in an emergency fund.
Review your credit scores and pay off all credit card debt.
Also - I am not a fan of buying with boyfriends. Wait until you are married as there are legal protections with marriage should the relationship end.
DIY & Home Decor Blog
I assumed when I started the home buying process that my agent would find houses I wanted and then schedule showings on the ones I was interested. HOWEVER, what I actually found to be a lot more useful, at least for me, was to search online myself for MLS homes in the area (most big real estate companies have a link for MLS listings on their website, even if you are not their client) and search on Craig's List. I'd make a list of the homes I was interested in and then do a "drive by" to check out the exterior of the house, the neighborhood, and talk to neighbors (if there were any hanging around outside). That cut the MAJORITY of homes off my list.
Once my list was whittled down to the homes I liked, where in my budget, in decent neighborhoods, and looked in decent condition from the outside. THEN I would contact my agent to schedule a showing. I just found showings to be a big, time-consuming PITA and it saved everybody's time when I could eliminate 90% of the homes by doing a quick visit.
Caveat: I do live in a medium sized city where no neighborhood is really all that far from where I was living and where there is GREAT disparity in both neighborhood and house condition. There are areas of town where there will be literally be gorgeous, large homes in great neighborhoods and two blocks down it is the slums with abandoned houses needing a gut job. So my style will certainly not be best for many places.
PS - Don't let the mountains of paperwork for the pre-approval scare you.
Don't buy a home jointly unless you are married. If one of you wants to buy it (using only their money and credit) and the other person live there, fine. But, don't go in financially together if you are not legally bound to one another. You have no financial/legal recourse if the relationship ends.