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Help me get this kid to sleep...please!

DD will be 3 at the end of the October.  Age 2 has been horrible in the sleep department with her, much worse than anything when she was a baby.  She has not slept through the night since at least June.  She wakes up 2-4 times a night calling me or crying.  I go in, cover her up and repeat as needed through the night.  I keep my "visits" as boring and quick as possible.  She was recently diagnosed with reflux so I was thinking the night waking was probably associated with that, but she has been medicated for about a month now and the night waking has not subsided at all.  When I go in her room she is always standing in the crib saying she needs covered.  Maybe I should get her a sleeping bag to sleep in so the covers can't come off?  Help me!  I'm tired!  We've tried rewarding, bribes...I just don't know. 
 

Re: Help me get this kid to sleep...please!

  • Have you read Ferber? Just a thought. I love Ferber's method. You can still go in but his method has some structure to it.

    I know with my dd if I would go in and put a blanket back on she would definitely want me to keep doing it. My dd picks up habits like that pretty easily. So what started out as putting a blanket on 1 time would end up being an every night thing. So I kind of have to nip things in the bud with my dd and just not do it.
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  • Have you read Ferber? Just a thought. I love Ferber's method. You can still go in but his method has some structure to it. I know with my dd if I would go in and put a blanket back on she would definitely want me to keep doing it. My dd picks up habits like that pretty easily. So what started out as putting a blanket on 1 time would end up being an every night thing. So I kind of have to nip things in the bud with my dd and just not do it.
    Thanks.  I think maybe it started at reflux but snow balled into a bad habit.  I see there are a couple different Ferber books.   Is there one in particular that you have read?
     
  • lala5507 said:



    Have you read Ferber? Just a thought. I love Ferber's method. You can still go in but his method has some structure to it.

    I know with my dd if I would go in and put a blanket back on she would definitely want me to keep doing it. My dd picks up habits like that pretty easily. So what started out as putting a blanket on 1 time would end up being an every night thing. So I kind of have to nip things in the bud with my dd and just not do it.

    Thanks.  I think maybe it started at reflux but snow balled into a bad habit.  I see there are a couple different Ferber books.   Is there one in particular that you have read?


    Yeah we've had that as well when it starts out with illness and just continues afterwards. Dd has reflux as a baby and slept horribly but then it seemed to just be bad sleeping habits that stemmed from that.

    Ferber's boom is Solve your child's sleep problems. Look for the more recent edition. Even if you don't want to do his specific methods I found it very helpful in understanding sleep habits.

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  • I know you said you tried bribery, but we had a problem with Brody coming to our bed in the middle of the night.   And when he got in bed, none of us slept the rest of the night.  I felt like I had a tiny baby again because of the lack of sleep - and one of the reasons I'm not having more babies is because I like sleeping all night!  We told him we'd get him a new plane (from the movie Planes) if he got 5 stickers in a row on the calendar.   The first night, he didn't get a sticker.  He asked and I told him that he didn't get one because he didn't stay in his bed all night.   The next night, he slept all night in his bed and we made a big deal of him picking a sticker and putting it on the calendar.  It really motivated him.   And it has cut down on him coming to our bed - he still does it, but now it's 6am (which I'm okay with) or not at all.   It makes a world of a difference to sleep all night long!
  • I'm sorry!  I have no advice, but I can sympathize.  Garrett, who was always our perfect sleeper, has been having sleep issues since this summer.  His issue is falling asleep.  I used to be able to put him in his crib and he'd be asleep within minutes.  Now he throws a fit every night at bedtime.  I can either lay on his floor while he cries himself to sleep or bring him into our bed until he falls asleep (which is still a struggle to get him to stay in our bed/room).  He will not stay in his bed or his room otherwise.  We've tried adjusting bedtime, naptime, our nightly routine, nightlights, sound machine, etc. but every night he freaks out at bedtime.  He's too young to really understand a reward system yet, so I'm at a loss.  Sorry I'm not much help, but you're not alone!
  • We've been through this too.  I agree that it's most likely a habit.  For us it goes in phases and a day/night when we go totally off schedule for other reasons such as travel or illness seems to end or start the phase.  I think she gets so exhausted that she sleeps through the night once she's entirely off schedule and then starts sleeping through the night thereafter.  It seems to break the habit.  So maybe do that on purpose?

    The other factor is that it could be a form of night terrors. Sometimes when DD wakes us up because she wants something she's not actually awake even though her eyes are open and she talks to us usually wanting covers or a tissue.  It's really creepy but I can tell the difference because her eyes are freaky looking when she's sleep talking.  The way we combat that is to make sure she gets a lot of sleep because this only happens on days she doesn't nap or goes to bed late.
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    The other factor is that it could be a form of night terrors. Sometimes when DD wakes us up because she wants something she's not actually awake even though her eyes are open and she talks to us usually wanting covers or a tissue.  It's really creepy but I can tell the difference because her eyes are freaky looking when she's sleep talking.  The way we combat that is to make sure she gets a lot of sleep because this only happens on days she doesn't nap or goes to bed late.

    We deal with this a lot with my oldest daughter when she's overly tired.  There is nothing creepier than a sleep walking/talking child.  I'm pretty sure my youngest is awake when she's calling.  Especially because it's every single night. 

    I have the Ferber book on hold at the library and I'm thinking maybe a reward chart will be a better visual than just verbally bribing.  Thanks for all the great suggestions.  Cross your fingers that something works!

     
  • I was going to post a sleep help thread too. G has been doing this for the last month or so. He's still in a crib so he can't walk in to our room, but it's frustrating and exhausting none the less. I have no advice, since I'm dealing with the same thing. I just wanted to wish you good luck. I hope the rewards chart works for you!
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  • I was going to post a sleep help thread too. G has been doing this for the last month or so. He's still in a crib so he can't walk in to our room, but it's frustrating and exhausting none the less. I have no advice, since I'm dealing with the same thing. I just wanted to wish you good luck. I hope the rewards chart works for you!
    I'll keep you posted and let you know if anything starts working for us.
     
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