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Update on my bro situation: he won't pay -- first meeting with an atty
She suggested that I try to negotiate with him before I take him to court.
FIne, but it is a great big wad of money outstanding.
He's got a distribution from an estate coming up; not a large portion; what he needs to do is willingly hand that amount over to me, with a note notarized and sent by certified mail, stating what it is for and why.
He would at least be off the hook for that much money.
She also suggests I send him letters via certified mail regarding what's going on, so there will be a paper trail attached to what is going on.
The will is a tenants in common status; she said we could each sell our portion of the home on our own -- but what about the basement and the lot with the garage next door? This is where it gets dicey.
I have another opinion coming up on Tuesday, with another atty.
Re: the gf moving in --- considering what is happening with him financially where he owes me a good chunk of change-- and I am certain he has told her what's going on with me --- she needs to bow out and stay out of his life and his abode.
WHY are you even moving anyone in here considering you have repairs upstairs that need to be done? Not livable for other people. None of this made sense.
She is supposed to be here temporarily -- long story why she is here -- yet the cable guy came here on Tuesday to reestablish his account. That account bit the dust in June because he didn't pay his bill.
He was getting along fine without tv -- he has been using wifi, I think, to surf the web and watch tv on a tablet -- so I suspect she wants the account. So she will be here for a good l ong while, then; very doubtful she paid for this for him out of the goodness of her heart so he can have it after she is gone.
She is supposed to be looking at apartments and then moving on. Somehow I don't think that is going to happen at all.
What a mess all of this is. And I wonder if she can possibly throw a legal monkey wrench into this whole thing with bro owing me a gripload of money. She needed to stay out of his abode for lots of reasons. Err ont he side of caution...and if you want to live with him, I suggest you and he go elsewhere and do it. As I said, it is never a good idea to move anybody into your place, your SO or future H in particular.
I learned that lesson the hard way; my H came here to live rather than us buying a home or renting elsewhere. I figured we'd save money by living here but that is another story from another age.:( I would never do it again, if I got lucky.
FIne, but it is a great big wad of money outstanding.
He's got a distribution from an estate coming up; not a large portion; what he needs to do is willingly hand that amount over to me, with a note notarized and sent by certified mail, stating what it is for and why.
He would at least be off the hook for that much money.
She also suggests I send him letters via certified mail regarding what's going on, so there will be a paper trail attached to what is going on.
The will is a tenants in common status; she said we could each sell our portion of the home on our own -- but what about the basement and the lot with the garage next door? This is where it gets dicey.
I have another opinion coming up on Tuesday, with another atty.
Re: the gf moving in --- considering what is happening with him financially where he owes me a good chunk of change-- and I am certain he has told her what's going on with me --- she needs to bow out and stay out of his life and his abode.
WHY are you even moving anyone in here considering you have repairs upstairs that need to be done? Not livable for other people. None of this made sense.
She is supposed to be here temporarily -- long story why she is here -- yet the cable guy came here on Tuesday to reestablish his account. That account bit the dust in June because he didn't pay his bill.
He was getting along fine without tv -- he has been using wifi, I think, to surf the web and watch tv on a tablet -- so I suspect she wants the account. So she will be here for a good l ong while, then; very doubtful she paid for this for him out of the goodness of her heart so he can have it after she is gone.
She is supposed to be looking at apartments and then moving on. Somehow I don't think that is going to happen at all.
What a mess all of this is. And I wonder if she can possibly throw a legal monkey wrench into this whole thing with bro owing me a gripload of money. She needed to stay out of his abode for lots of reasons. Err ont he side of caution...and if you want to live with him, I suggest you and he go elsewhere and do it. As I said, it is never a good idea to move anybody into your place, your SO or future H in particular.
I learned that lesson the hard way; my H came here to live rather than us buying a home or renting elsewhere. I figured we'd save money by living here but that is another story from another age.:( I would never do it again, if I got lucky.
Re: Update on my bro situation: he won't pay -- first meeting with an atty
I don't know. I feel like I'm missing something. Unless the girl in question is running a human trafficking ring out of your basement or something, I'd be thrilled she was moving in if it meant bills were getting paid. Should she be giving your brother a free ride? Nope. But that's her problem, not yours.
I am guesing bro told her it was okay to change the lock. Whoopie; I got a key???
I found out about the lock change after the fact. I let her know I did not like that at all and she got pissed off.
This is why I do not want her here. She does not know boundaries and he permits her to do what she wants -- he doesn't get it that 2 people own this home. If this home was his, he could do as he wishes.
She's got no right to just do as she wishes. As far as I am concerned she is a guest here and she needs to act as such.
If I had the money, I'd buy him the hell out. I have enough on my plate with him -- now there is this mess.
I am calling a locksmith to change that door back. Too bad; this is not for her to say.