Family Matters
I got a call earlier today from DHHS in the city where my daughter's dad lives. They needed to verify the amount of child support I am sending him, which means he's applying for government assistance. She already told me that they get food from the food bank regularly. He and his wife are both going to school full time and majoring in film. They are living off of student loans, and now apparently welfare. I think his wife works part time on weekends and he doesn't work at all.
I am a yellow dog Democrat and have no issue with public assistance being available, but it sort of chaps my *** that I went to school full time last year, and worked 25-30 hours a week the entire time because as the child support obligor I do not have the option of just deciding I don't want to work. Not only that but both of them felt the need to choose a major with some of the grimmest employment prospects imaginable. So I am fully expecting to get no help from them when she is ready to go to college herself.
No real point to this thread. Just needed to vent because my XH is a tool
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DH is livid right now
I got a call earlier today from DHHS in the city where my daughter's dad lives. They needed to verify the amount of child support I am sending him, which means he's applying for government assistance. She already told me that they get food from the food bank regularly. He and his wife are both going to school full time and majoring in film. They are living off of student loans, and now apparently welfare. I think his wife works part time on weekends and he doesn't work at all.
I am a yellow dog Democrat and have no issue with public assistance being available, but it sort of chaps my *** that I went to school full time last year, and worked 25-30 hours a week the entire time because as the child support obligor I do not have the option of just deciding I don't want to work. Not only that but both of them felt the need to choose a major with some of the grimmest employment prospects imaginable. So I am fully expecting to get no help from them when she is ready to go to college herself.
No real point to this thread. Just needed to vent because my XH is a tool
Re: DH is livid right now
If yu have black and white evidence to prove he's a fraud, present it to the proper authorities. And then let them take it from there.
Hoping the kiddo is okay.
Anyways, nothing you can do here. Just because you worked while in school doesn't mean they need or have to. It's they way it is. These programs have guidelines and you have to trust that they legitimatly fall in those and qualify for the support.
And yes, if he was studying to be a doctor, or anything else with good job prospects, I would not have a problem with it. If he and his wife were not going to school at the same time and she were working to support them I would not have a problem with it. There are a wide variety of ways they could have gone about this that would be far less retarded.
You are an ignorant piece of trash. You do get that using the word "retarded" puts you with people who use racist terms?
Oh my! I must be tired. I missed that. Yeah, I was trying to be nice, but for someone who doesn't have custody of their child and has the nerve to judge the person who does, um yeah. Good luck. You're going to need it.
The fact that he has custody does not make him father of the year. All it means is that I was a good enough parent to recognize when that wasn't capable of of caring for her on even a basic level, and that that situation was not going to change for a while. I didn't sign away my rights to have an opinion about her father's questionable life choices.
I am hardly surprised because this is exactly the kind of crap that led to our divorce. I'm delighted that he seems to have found a wife who is just as dumb and irresponsible as he is.
FTR, I will refrain from using that term on these boards in the future, as it is not my desire to offend anyone. Calling me ignorant trash was pretty damn classy though. Way to go with that.